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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be annoyed that ds was missed off school newsletter?

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louisejxxx · 12/09/2014 18:30

We had the first newsletter home from school today and there was a picture of the new starters, which my ds is one of, along with a welcome to them all and listed all their names. Except for my ds was missed out. AIBU to be bothered by it??

There is only 15 of them in total in his class..I probably wouldn't have minded so much if there was loads of them. But it's a small class at a small class. Do I mention it or just stay quiet? I probably would've like to keep the newsletter because of the pic and welcome. I don't want to aim anything at his teachers as they didn't write it, the headmistress did. But if I write her a note I'm probably going to automatically give myself the one of "those" parents brand aren't I.

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louisejxxx · 12/09/2014 18:31

Should say small class at a small school

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RonaldMcDonald · 12/09/2014 18:33

his pic was there, you'll keep it, I'd guess, and remember it was him

I see no problem.

What would you like to happen? A rerun of the newsletter for all parents with his name included?

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louisejxxx · 12/09/2014 18:36

Ha I don't know really. I know that wouldn't happen, and nor would I expect it to. It just seems unfair in some odd way. waits for roasting Grin

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LadyLuck10 · 12/09/2014 18:37

Yanbu, that is disappointing. As along as his picture is there i wouldn't say Anything. I'm certain it was an oversight, and practically there's not much they can do.

ChilliMum · 12/09/2014 18:38

Yanbu to be upset but I don't think there is much you can do about it now.

I would buy a nice scrap book at Ghent weekend cut out picture and any other bits you like from newsletter and then fill the rest with all the lovely pictures and certificates your dc brings home this year. You can do it together and it will be a much nicer momento for you both.

Sparklyblue · 12/09/2014 18:38

I would be upset by this too.
You won't be getting a roasting off me.

MrsWombat · 12/09/2014 18:39

You are certainly right to be annoyed and I would certainly mention it to the school. You don't want him being missed off of other more important lists. However your son is going to at this school for a very long time so tread gently.

drivingmisspotty · 12/09/2014 18:40

Ooh I have thought of a way you can ask about it without asking about it... 'I noticed my DS' s name was not in the newsletter. I did remember to return my photo and film consent slip, didn't I?'

Not that they will do anything about it, but they might be a bit more careful next year.

Mrsjayy · 12/09/2014 18:40

Och thats a bit rubbish his name wasn't there you are right to feel miffed not sure what they would say though. Dd was left out of her school show programme the other year I was a bit huffy about it Blush

NorksEnormous · 12/09/2014 18:42

This would upset me too!

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louisejxxx · 12/09/2014 18:43

Think you've hit the nail on the head there MrsWombat - it's bugging me because of it happening so soon and the thought of him missing out on other things! He even realised that his name wasn't there.

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CleanLinesSharpEdges · 12/09/2014 18:43

I'd probably mention it, but I don't know how I'd go about it.

I used the first newsletter and class list when sending invites to parties, so my first thought would be that your DS could miss out on invites.

Silentelf · 12/09/2014 18:44

I felt the same last week- my son moved up a room at nursery along with 8 other little ones and they had a big photo up saying goodbye to them all but without my DS. I did nothing, gotten over it now and glad I didn't say anything!

yellowsnownoteatwillyou · 12/09/2014 18:44

This would piss me off, but not really anything that can happen. Or you will look like "that" parent
My mum put a birth announcement in our local paper when my son was born, the spelt my surname wrong and got his d.o.b wrong,
she complained
They ran it the next week, still got his d.o.b wrong year 2023!
I wish they hadn't bothered an just have her her money back the first time.

Pico2 · 12/09/2014 18:44

YANBU - that's really insensitive and completely avoidable. If you do complain, what would you like to be the outcome?

BettyFlour · 12/09/2014 18:44

I totally understand you being upset. I would be too. My son was quoted in the newsletter last year (Reception) and they misspelt his name! I was mildly upset (ok maybe a bit more than mildly Wink) but I thought, I couldn't say anything because what will they do. Make a correction and redistribute it?!

So YANBU to be upset. But try to forget about it. There's nothing to be done.

TeenAndTween · 12/09/2014 18:45

A parent at DD's school was once very put out her DD had been excluded from a photo.

Until the school reminded her she had not consented for photos ....

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louisejxxx · 12/09/2014 18:45

I just don't know how to go about saying anything really. Put a note in his bag for th headteacher? Seems a bit OTT but I don't want his teachers to think I'm aiming it at them either because they have been excellent thus far.

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SanityClause · 12/09/2014 18:46

Just mention it. No doubt it was a mistake. They will probably correct the error next week.

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louisejxxx · 12/09/2014 18:47

He's in the photo his name just isn't with everybody else's.

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waithorse · 12/09/2014 18:48

This would disappoint me. But I wouldn't bother saying anything. Not much point, mistakes happen and it's not like they are going to redo the newsletter.

mommy2ash · 12/09/2014 18:48

it would be worse if he was missing from the picture I would keep it anyway

morethanpotatoprints · 12/09/2014 18:50

YANBU, these things happen.
Throughout our dc schooling odd little things like this has happened, but we made a note of it to tell them when they were older, or to put in their keepsake boxes.

What I will say for future parties as there are so few of them, get to know the other parents and compile a list of phone numbers. Nothing to do with the newsletter but to help with friendships.
We found in a similarly small school the children were very close and there weren't really little cliques or groups as there weren't enough kids.

Roseformeplease · 12/09/2014 18:52

I was pretty upset at something similar. My DS's Primary School sang a song and had their photo taken when the new Dr's surgery was opened in the village. He went to a primary school not for our village (Scotland - it was nearer my work) and so they took him out of the photos, presumably because they just wanted "local" children in it. The sad thing is, that is our Dr surgery too (very rural) and he always asks why and it makes me angry.

But, OTOH, I am a teacher and I always get something wrong. Most recently forgot 2 key players in the school play when delivering my "thanks to" speech.

spiderlight · 12/09/2014 18:56

I might mention it casually in the context of making sure he was on the class list. Our school has a list of names that parents can ask for for parties/Christmas cards and I wouldn't want him to be missed out because of an administrative mistake.