to refuse to answer when my daughter calls me Ma?

[jaimearose]

MiL is called Ma by her doting sons. It really grates, not sure why. Now my 5 year old DD has picked it up and calls me it constantly, Ma this, Ma that. I've asked her to call me Mum but she keeps reverting back, so now our conversations start 'Ma' 'mum' 'sorry, mum. Mum, Ma, mum I meant argh!' AIBU and way too controlling?! Should I just force a smile and hope this will pass? Or should I stand my ground and escalate the correcting to not responding to all Ma references for as long as it takes?!

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My DC had a phase of calling me MA but usually it's Mumsy. Occasionally it's Muvvvvaaaahhhhhh.

I don't really mind!

I call my mum muv or mothership. My DD(2) calls me mimmy, mummy or mum.

I like 'birth giver'!

Ds1 (18) has recently taken to calling me "Boss".

He's learned, at last...

You could always suggest she calls you Mater...

I think it's awful, I wouldn't want to be called it either.

Still, what do i know.

I'm only 5ft, kids call me "Minimum"

My eldest calls me 'muv' as in short for 'muvvah'
Personally I'd mostly ignore it with an occasional reminder that you prefer mum. It's a phase...she'll stop eventually.

Ds2 sometimes calls me Mam, but mostly mummy. He just picks it up at school (and before that at nursery, where the staff all talked about mams and dads all the time). I don't really mind either way.

I'd draw the line at maw though.

It's not "controlling" to want to be called what you prefer. Or if it is, so what? I think that's something you're entitled to want to have some control over. Oops- now you'll achieve MN Bingo and be controlling AND entitled .

Just keep correcting her, it will pass soon enough.

YABU as she is only five.

I went through a stage of calling my mum "Marmee" after reading Little Women. Must have been awfully annoying but she took it in good humour

i hate ma and mother , also hate hearing parents calling their boys son instead of their name .

YABU

See I don't thinks it's U at all, I was asked what I wanted to be called by DGD and I said 'Granny', it's what I used for my Granny and what DC used for my Mum.
The other GP is Nanny, I didn't want that.
Is that controlling too?

My VERY Bristolian mother grew up calling her mother 'Muh', which I sometimes use back at her when she's not listening to me ;)

I'm 'Mama' or 'MUMMAAAAAAAAAAAAY' to my DCs, my DP refers to me as 'Mama' around them too. I don't really mind what they call me, just so long as it's not 'Mumsy' - I find that indescribably twee and horrible.

IME, people who call their son's 'son' tend to call all boys 'son'. They'll usually have some form of address for girls too (e.g. Hen).

Ha, ha,

I'm an awful child who calls my Mum Mumsy.

Mum in normal conversation, Mumsy when I want something and Mother when I'm being cheeky.

Dad is always day.

Together they are the Parenti.

My teens call me mumma and I love it. Wouldn't like ma though. Would make me feel.like an old lady I am one but don't want to feel like it

*AnotherGirl'sParadise" I was just trying to work out how to spell "muh"!

My mum hated "muh" and quite merrily shouted at us if we dared call her that. Mum or mummy now. She wanted to be granny to my nephew but we say nanny so she gets called that.

YANBU - your name, your choice. I use ignoring as a tactic as well, usually for a lack of 'please' and 'thank you' which happens far too often and drives me mad. I swear they were better at it when they were toddlers. Anyway, it allows 'thinking time' to work out why you aren't answering and you don't have to keep repeating yourself.

The other tactic is to call your DD by an abbreviation of her name she doesn't like in response. That seemed to work with DS2 although he was a bit older than your DD, say 8 or 9 yrs.

Ma makes me think of Dot Cotton too. That is not a good image.

My DCs call me mom. Pretty standard, I was mommy when they were tiny but around age 3 for both of them mommy naturally became mom.
I don't mind what they call me, I don't think I would like it if they used my first name but its not that important in the great scheme of things really is it?
That said, if they suddenly started calling me mum, with an u not mom with an o, I would probably laugh.

I'm Mum or when shes annoyed at me, Mother.

I call my Mum, Mum or when she annoyed me, Mother.

I sense a pattern.

My DB calls Mum, Old Dear, she loves that

My son started calling me by my christian name last year (he's 12), so I started calling him boy. Now he refers to me and DH as The Parentals.

Wow, that really is quite controlling. Your name is not mummy, that's a title you've chosen. Your name is your name. Can't believe some people freak over their kids calling them mum!

aren't you proud to be a mum then?
I LOVE being called mum by MY child. no other child gets to call me that, just mine. and im so proud to be a mum.
its not a label or a title, its a n honour and a privelage and a blessing.
everyone else can call me Tardis.

I also hate nthe fact my nephews wont call me Aunty, Im so proud to be an Aunt, and they insist on Tardis. im like AAAAAAARGH!

(mind you if im ever ' granny' ill feel too old!)

Im a nana to 5 but a few weeks ago when dad said to my grandchildren 'do what your granny tells you' - I wondered who he was talking to. Then I realised it was me and to be honest I liked it because it took me back years and years and years to a different time and place.

Cariads I was joking btw! Id love grandchildren one day! ill be proud to be Granny Tardis!