To think helping yourself out of someone else fridge is just RUDE..........even if you are 13!

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Minding friends child who opened my fridge and took out a chocolate bar without asking.

I'm to say the least. Do children actually do this? I would be devastated if mine did this someone else home .

I would be shocked at this but I would find it hard to step in. Or maybe not with teens. Not sure yet. I work with teens and have no issue whatsoever with laying down rules etc. it is wee ones I struggle with.

I was in soft play recently with my 22 mo and another child of about 3 or 4 came up to me and said "that boy is scaring me. YOU'LL need to tell him off!"

I had no idea what to say and just sort of smiled and said I thought she was quite safe.

Different obviously but I have such sympathy for others not knowing how to manage other people's kids.

What about being in someone's house and there being dangerous stuff around which they don't move but keep telling you to 'relax'? Total derail!! Sorry

Sigh MrsDeVere - sorry, but I can't see where you've specifically responded to a poster who previously posted. Which previous poster was that, exactly?? I really have read and re-read the entire thread (entirely properly, I think), several times. And your new comments are really not matching up with your old.

You said it was the fault of the parent of the child being minded by the OP that her fridge was being raided because the mother was being lazy. Who said Perhaps it was in response to the posters telling me that it was my fault that my kitchen was raided by a child whose mother sat on their arse and watched them do it. Maybe I've re-read the thread, but appear to have missed that. Sorry if I have, please point it out.

I really do have to leave for a while, now - I'll come back tomorrow when I've more time on my hands (if this is still an interesting thread, of course)

Clearly Evans is reading a different thread to everyone else...

It is rude to do this and I would say something to a child that did it in my house and if I heard that the madthings had done it they would be in trouble.

In mrsdevere situation you don't expect to have to discipline a visiting child if their parent is with them, it was their own parents responsibility. They wouldn't have been invited back if they did it more than once!

MrsDeVere - In response to Moma (Page 1):
moma because I have five kids of my own
For goodness sake
Its not my job to teach manners to other people's
I am not a nanny or a servant

If anyone cares to read the OP - the OP was minding a child, the parent was not present.

Quite Clearly Evans is not reading a different thread, it is quite clear that other readers are not reading quite correctly. It is rude to do this whether parent is present or not! What is difficult to understand about it??

I'm not annoyed at all amused bemused, possibly. Not "telling you off" - what an utterly bizarre notion I thought this was a discussion board. Silly me!!

You seem to be annoyed that I DON'T think it is rude for a child to help themselves

What made you think this? I have said all along that I think it is incredibly rude

Then you claim not so see my posts.

Where have I claimed that?

YANBU, my DDs don't get to take chocolate or anything sweet out of the fridge, never mind their friends. In fact they ask when they want a snack and they stick to what they know they are allowed to have when they come home after school.

Oh dear... I am a nanny and often help myself to yummy things in my boses fridge

DearGirl I think that's probably a bit different to a visiting 13yo scoffing the chocolate... I nannied for a brief period when I was a student and I was explicitly told to help myself. As long as you don't take the piss and there's mutual trust, there isn't a problem.

MrsD no offence taken, thought it was quiet funny when you said move fridge to the loft.

Not so sure I handled it as well as I should of.

MrsDevere it is your job to put a stop to it if its leaving you short and annoying you.

Evansovalpies you said

^Cariads - so would you be comfortable with allowing other people's children behaving this way in your house, when your own children would not do it in someone else's? How would you explain that to them in a way that they think it fair and reasonable?

It's fine for visitors to do it here, but you're not allowed to do it anywhere else^

Yes, I would be comfortable with a child doing it in my house.

As for my children having to cope with the fact there are people who wouldn't be comfortable with it because they do things differently? That's life, and I would hope my children/grandchildren were made of sterner stuff than to ever have to 'cope' with that reality. Accept? Yes. Cope? No. They are not made of plasticine.

As for fairness - its not even something where the 'fairness' aspect of it would be entertained or come into it in a discussion. It would all be down to 'this is how we do it but its not something everyone else does'.

It really can be as simple as that.

Evans I'm with Mrs DeVere here I'm afraid... Your posts to her are a little confusing.

She was supporting the OP.

MrsDeVere - I wouldn't expect a host to modify my child's behaviour for me, but neither would I allow a child to eat all sorts in my house which I find unacceptable merely because the child's parents haven't said anything!

It's not about your responsibility for the child, it's about your responsibility for your own possessions and your family's belongings.

The fact that you SHOULDN'T HAVE to say something is not in dispute. But you had a piss poor parent there, and YOU were left suffering because of it.