About what my friend said to DH last night?

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Drinks party at our house, my friend showed up and was completely sober. I only found out about this, this morning from DH, but basically she greeted my DH and told him he looked fantastic. He said (as a joke) "thanks, I'm getting old. Only five years away from fifty and then I'm sure Volley will be trading me in for a better model."

And my friend's reply was: "oh don't worry. She will definitely not be the one leaving you for a better model - she's reached her maximum capacity in getting you. Everyone thinks it'll more likely be the other way round, IYSWIM."

My DH told me this morning and is laughing at what a bitch she is.

AIBU to think she is no friend at all?! And WTF would she say that?

What about texting her:

'I think I have reached my maximum capacity when it comes to friends, and I'm sorry, but you haven't made the cut. So long'

I agree with him that it is absurd to continue to have as a friend someone who is no friend to you.

Friends are not spiteful about one another.

She's not a friend. That's horrible!

She's a frenemy with an agenda.

Good grief! What an utter, out-and-out bitch! There is no other word for it! Have you had any inkling before that she is a she-devil or is this the first time she has revealed her true colours?

Ditch her and fast!

Pull her up on it!

I'm possibly being dim. You didn't know she'd said it so you would have thought she was your friend?
Obviously she is a jealous spiteful cow bag so distance yourself & I'd be telling everyone a select few why.

I like Beryl's idea.

She sounds dangerous, not a friend I would trust.

Like Beryl's reply there.

Hi 'Friend' - seems that not only have I fulfilled my maximum capacity on getting a husband, but also my maximum capacity for friends. Sadly you didn't make the grade. Heard what you said about me...didn't like it. Laters.

Also what the hell does she mean by everyone thinks it'll be the other way around?
So she thinks your husband is too good for you and should trade you in?

Lovely, what did your husband say?

She sounds awful!

But then I don't really like these conversations at all.

"You look fantastic"
"Oh no, I'm getting old, I'll be traded in soon"

Why don't people just say "thanks" to a compliment & change the subject!

Ditch the bitch and trade her in for a newer model. If she asks why, you can congratulate her for giving you the idea as she was clearly batting out of her league having you as a friend

What a nasty bitch!

I do like Beryl's reply, though

What you have there is a "frenemy"
Start to extricate yourself ASAP.

Erm. She is not your friend. You know this...right?

Beryl's text is good.

Yanbu, she definitely overstepped the line. She isn't your true friend. It's as bad to insult you and hit on your DH at the same time.

I think your husband was sniffing around for compliments in how he replied.

He sounds like he is trying to keep you on your toes and would be my focus in all this.

I agree she is a total and utter bitch and I am flabbergasted she said this! She has form for doing other things in the past not related to making bitchy comments like that. She and I work in the same industry (that's how we know each other) and whenever she meets any of my clients socially she hustles them for their business card and tries to work for them instead. I HAVE brought her up on this in the past and she has told me that even though we're in the same industry we have different areas of expertise (we sort of do - but only sort of. Besides, most people are just looking for a standard service, especially those clients I have already.)

I have already cooled off with her, I went from seeing her weekly to a few times a year at these events, but now I think I need to drop her completely.

My husband is quite easily flattered and DOES tell me when women say nice things to him. But with this friend he finds it continually funny how openly bitchy she is about me and how I do nothing. So he reported that last night to try and get me to finish with her for good.

"I think your husband was sniffing around for compliments in how he replied."

That's what I thought also.

Maybe it's a thing he just does though, otherwise I'd be wondering why he was so desperate for a compliment from someone who is such a bitch to his wife.

She sounds like a complete bitch (and I hate that word) but why wouldn't your husband pull her up and say something to her when she said this? She is, after all, slating you (his wife) and no, it's not funny.

Drop her and tell your DH to sort out his sense of humour - it shouldn't extend to laughing about derogatory comments made about his wife.

Awful. Talk to her about it and see if she regrets it. Distance yourself.

She is obviously a bitch .
However, I suspect that your dh deliberately told you what she said and probably exaggerated in order to keep you on your toes .
Have you become more confident lately?

areyoubeingserviced agree. That was my view.
Hey ho. Don't need her do you op.