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AIBU?

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Original poster

To ask for handholding

31 replies

Elfina · 09/09/2014 22:52

I hate the misuse of AIBU, but I need some handholding. I have an appointment to make a statement to police about historical abuse tomorrow. I found out my abuser is still teaching, and worse is now a head and Child Protection lead. I feel fucking sick and haven't slept since I found out.

OP posts:
GoringBit · 09/09/2014 22:59

I can't begin to imagine what you're going through - and have been through - but I'm sure you'll have the support of many, many people, including me, who'll be thinking of you and holding your hand in spirit.

You're doing something really important, I hope it goes as well as something like this can do.

DoJo · 09/09/2014 23:32

You are brave and strong, even if you don't feel like it at the moment - to even get to this point takes immense courage of the kind that people such as myself admire hugely. Finding out what you now know could make this easier - your statement could help to protect all the people that this person comes into contact with and stop them from worming their way into the lives of vulnerable people. I will be thinking of you tomorrow and grateful that you are doing it forever.

Ghirly · 09/09/2014 23:37

Thanks I think you're very brave. Good luck tomorrow.

I did an access course to primary school teaching last year and a couple of people failed their PVG disclosure due to driving offences (not a threat to children) so it is very scary that an abuser can be in such an important position.

feathermucker · 09/09/2014 23:38

Bless you OP, this must be an incredibly difficult time for you. You're definitely doing the right thing and I hope that you have appropriate support around you xxx

Wishing you luck and strength xx

Isabeller · 09/09/2014 23:44

What feather said xx

MagpieMama · 09/09/2014 23:46

You're very brave and you're doing the right thing Thanks

PiperIsOrange · 09/09/2014 23:48

Good luck what a brave women you are.

BreconBeBuggered · 09/09/2014 23:48

You're doing the right thing, you know you are. I only wish I had half your courage.

notapizzaeater · 09/09/2014 23:49

Here's a hand, you're doing the right thing Thanks

MexicanSpringtime · 09/09/2014 23:50

You are the stuff that heroes are made of, OP. Thank you.

LatteLoverLovesLattes · 09/09/2014 23:51

You are doing a really, really good thing Flowers

I am sorry that it's coming at such a huge personal cost to you and for all that you have been through :(

When you are there tomorrow, think of all of us standing there, right beside you...

ohfourfoxache · 09/09/2014 23:52

You should be extraordinarily proud of yourself - you're doing a very brave thing.

Good luck xx

curiousgeorgie · 10/09/2014 00:08

Well done on being so incredibly brave OP Thanks

A friend did this and she said it was like having a huge weight lifted from her shoulders. You're doing a brilliant thing.

puntasticusername · 10/09/2014 00:16
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MammaTJ · 10/09/2014 08:15

Thinking of you today! Be strong, you can do this.

mymummademelistentoshitmusic · 10/09/2014 08:22

I read your previous post when you'd found him. Bloody well done on reporting this. You obviously have strength. Good luck.

LatteLoverLovesLattes · 10/09/2014 08:25

Thinking of you today. If it helps, imagine we are all there with you x

redexpat · 10/09/2014 09:01

Oh golly. You are absolutely doing the right thing. We're here if you need us Flowers

seasavage · 10/09/2014 09:21

Thinking of you (a brave person out there I don't know) but all strength to you x

HappyAgainOneDay · 10/09/2014 09:24

FlowersFlowers

londonrach · 10/09/2014 09:26

Thinking of you. You so brave and have the might of mn behind you x

DoJo · 10/09/2014 12:42

OP - I have been thinking about you this morning, wondering how you're getting on and hoping that you are feeling better for having done this, or at least not too emotionally battered by the process. I remain absolutely awed by you.

Original poster
Elfina · 10/09/2014 16:53

Thanks for your support. It was extremely hard. I felt like I was 12 again, and so exposed. The shame was a bit overwhelming. Am going to pick up my beautiful daughter from nursery now, knowing I did the right thing for someone else's daughter.

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angelohsodelight · 10/09/2014 16:55

Very very brave. Think how many kids you could save from him. Good luck.

Thebodyloveschocolateandwine · 10/09/2014 16:58

You have nothing to be ashamed for love. Don't think that way.

You are brave and strong.

Well done.