To think when you're fat you can't just 'chuck' clothes on?

[mumukahoney]

In the last year I have gained 3 1/2 stone, mainly due to a chronic health condition, bereavement and the resulting emotional eating.
I am desperately trying to lose it and also be kind to myself as to the reasons why I've gained it. So far I've lost half a stone through better eating (exercise is limited due to health condition.)
My DS is unwell so this morning so I had to take him for an early morning appointment. I quickly threw some clothes on (thinking I looked ok) but then caught sight of myself in the doctors window and I looked AWFUL.
Now I don't have huge self-esteem issues, I have a pretty face and a DH who isn't bothered by my side but I just looked terrible. I can make myself look nice with good clothes, make up, hair etc but when I was slim I could still look nice just throwing some clothes on.
Maybe it's just me but now I'm fat (and I am fat 3 1/2 stone on a 5ft 1 frame is a lot) I have to have time to look even good.
So AIBU to think you can look nice being fat but you have to have time to put yourself together well?!

itsbetterthanabox - that's not always true - I didn't just get fatter evenly when I gained weight, nor when I lost weight did I lose it evenly.

Before I had DCs I was an hourglass size 8 (I'm very short so this was curvy still on my frame), when I was a size 12 I was a pear shape as the bulk of the extra weight went on my hips and arse, although I did gain weight everywhere else. When I started to lose weight, the first place it went was my hips and thighs, then boobs, leaving me with a belly that was a size larger than the rest of me. Eventually that went down, but while the scales show me being back to the weight I was before I had DCs, my shape is very different.

this is something that's the problem that a lot of woman don't get, it's not just the sizes but the shape that changes and therefore just buying what used to suit you in a bigger size might not look as good as buying something else in the larger size - and flip side, losing weight doesn't mean buying the same thing a couple of dress sizes down, but something else all together.

oh and OP, Boden do have a lot of dresses that are cut very well for the booby and larger frame, and tend to cope with just being thrown on. Have a look in their clearance section, there's some bargains that with a cardie or a thin long sleeve t-shirt underneath would be just as good outside of summer.

I go from hourglass to a rectangle with weight gain, dresses a no as big boobs mean two sizes bigger than I am and do not like any clinging so Lycra out. Also hate Lycra as you can put more weight on without even noticing, I blame leggings and tunic for the last time I gained a size without noticing.

Thanks again mary
And I agree about not being the same shape when I was slimmer I was an hourglass and now I'm a blob shape with a gigantic bum

thomyorke And yes to leggings and tunics making you think you're the same size. I also have a pair of M&S jeggings that I hold equally responsible

Agreed. I have managed to find myself a "style" that I never have to think about now- skater dresses (skims the wobbly middle bit nicely) and leggings/tights with cardis, but I did go through a phase of being unable to find anything to wear. I'm not massive, about 2st over weight (and a lot of this is muscle, but I do have a bit of podge around the middle that looks awful in jeans/tshirt)

I find shopping a nightmare and tend to do it online as I can never find anything I like in shops.

I'm 25 and look like a bloody teenager in the face but have horrible blotchy skin and psoriasis so although I look okay with makeup I look like shit without a bit of foundation to cover up the patchiness I've managed to cut my makeup routine down to 5 mins now though so I would have to be in a hellish rush to go out without at least foundation/blush/mascara.

I think if you find a style that suits you its not to bad trying to get ready quickly, it's just finding that "look" that's the hard bit.