my DP had arranged for his friend to come over to us yesterday for some food and watch some football. They support the same team and this happends about once a month. I stay and chat with them but When the games on I generally find something else to do have a bath meet up with a friend for a hr ECT.
So plans were made the friend was coming round I cooked a small roast non of us eat much so I do a small joint plus made individual pudding for us each. And I had planned to meet at the local bar with a friend while the game was on.
Half hour before friend is due to arrive we get a call, would it be ok for my gf and her 3 kids to come round? (Didn't know he had a gf) My DPs face dropped and agreed. As soon as he put the phone down I said Its not possible as there is no way enough food/drink also I'm going out. So he rang the friend back and said it's not really possible to accommodate more people as foods ready. He said it was fine whatever I had prepared would be fine. DP said look let's just leave it today as your busy and rearrange another time. He said its fine don't worry we are on our way.
Myself and DP were not happy with 4 extra people being dropped on us at the last minute but he's a good friend and there was really nothing we could say to get out of it.
So they arrived, there seemed to be a misunderstanding with his gf (like he had said we had invited them) as she came in and said wow that smells nice what we having. So I had to make a dinner for 3 stretch to 7. We had piss poor portions and the gf and her kids moaned about it. She moaned she didn't drink lager and wanted wine but didn't think to bring a bottle.
The whole night was beyond awkward, they tried to watch the game but ended up putting it on record as the gf didn't get the whole quiet vibe and just wanted to talk about herself.
I invited her to the bar but she said no she didn't bring any money so I ended up canceling my plans.
The kids were unhappy as they wanted to play in my daughters room. I said I would go up with them to select some toys to bring down but I wasn't happy for them to play in her room when she wasn't here. But that wasn't good enough.
So WIBU? How do you lot get out of these situations, where you just can't say no?
Maybe my DP should of pushed harder and put his foot down and said no, but I'm really mad at the friend for putting us in that position and think he was really cheeky.
The GF has already tried to befriend us on fb and she said as she was leaving we should do this again. But we don't want too. She was really overbearing and just not my cup of tea.