To not want this woman to swear in the family changing rooms

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FFS- loudly

There are at least 10 kids in here
If she wants to swear in front of her kids, fine, do it at home.

Ds didn't hear- if he did , he would have told her it was a bad word!

YANBU.
I hate swearing in public.

YANBU - there's a time and a place for swearing, and a family changing room ain't one of them

I try not to swear around ds or other children. But actually I think that if someone swears and ds hears, so be it. This is the world as it is. And he needs to learn that some things are appropriate for grown ups but not children, including swearing. Ditto, if I accidentally swear and a child told me I was using a bad word, I would agree with said child and say sorry

YANBU, but you are in public, its a space that you cannot control.

I still can't understand why anyone swears even in frustration. I have never sworn (ask my ExH). If I can live life without swearing, why can't others - and I cannot be alone in not swearing.

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YANBU, time and a place.

Last week I had to take ds2 to A&E.

It was about 7pm on a Friday night and I was dreading it, thinking it would be full of drunken rowdy teenagers.

It was busy, and there were a few people there clearly worse for wear but mostly sitting quietly.

There was one woman, mid 40's who'd clearly been drinking. She was VERY loud and not only using disgusting language (cunt, prick and mother-fucker being highlights) but telling her mate loud stories about how her ex Peter had a cock down to his knees and nearly ripped her in two (and more graphic than that even).

Not stuff I want my 4 year old listening to. I left ds2 and went over and asked if she could keep her voice down or mind her language. She said ok, but 5 minutes later she was back to it.

I reported her to the desk who called security. They gave her a warning to either be quiet or leave. 5 minutes later she was escorted out by security onto the pavement.

I do realise it's a public space but I won't stand for my dc listening to that sort of talk. The odd swear word, yes, I tell them to ignore it and do the whole 'grown ups sometimes use words dc shouldn't' speech, but not repeated swearing.

emerald eurgh

Bloody hell Emerald

Yanbu. I suppose it does depend what words were being used though. I wouldn't be especially annoyed about the odd "shit" but I would be about "cunt" for eg.

She said
For fucks sake
Because they're weren't any lockers

I swear
I can restrain myself on public and in from of children
I actually find myself cringing inside when I hear it when I'm out.
I think because ds is right at that age where he can pick it up
And we've had lots if chats about what he can/can't say.
My H can't see to help himself either -constantly fighting that battle

Yanbu.

I swear but tend to not do so if I'm around children. I don't have any myself so I'm only ever around them in public spaces. I can be pretty colourful in my language choices and would be mortified if someone's 6 year old heard me!

YANBU although for some people who swear a lot DBro, I'm looking at you it can just slip out. But he'd apologise and make sure not to do it next time.

Yanbu....

There's a time and place for effin' n jeffin'

She said it once? I thought she must have been swearing every second word for you to bother complaining about it on here.

YABU. People swear in the real world. The example of the woman in the hospital is a situation where swearing is unacceptable and no-one, not just children, should have to put up with listening to it. Swearing the odd time is just what people do. Maybe not you, but people are different.

YABU if she only said it once. Sometimes these things slip out.

'Ds didn't hear- if he did , he would have told her it was a bad word!

so he already knows the word, and knows that it is a swear word so where is the problem?.As others have said, you can't really dictate what other people say in a public area.

It seems more a careless slip of the tongue. If she was repeatedly swearing then she'd be extremely unreasonable and rude but in the circumstances described, it was an instinctive reaction.

YANBU, but neither was the swearer. I agree with BoneyBackJefferson.

I was brought up to believe in freedom of speech which I know is unusual. However I believe there´s a distinction between swearing at someone (which I never do, and do not like others to do) and swearing within earshot of someone else (which I think is fine).

I tell my children that using a swear word makes it appear that they have little self-control and that they don´t know any other word to use. Apart from some verbal experimentation during their "terrible" twos, they do not swear at home or in public (to my knowledge). However, they do hear others swearing, sometimes my husband or I at home, or members of their extended families, or neighbours, or people on public transport, or in other public situations that you describe such as swimming pools. They see people doing all sorts of things I´d rather they didn´t copy, I don´t think I can shelter them to the extent that they don´t overhear swear words if I want them to get out and experience the world.

This said, I do understand why you´re upset though. My personal bugbear is adults crossing roads dangerously in front of my kids.

It was probably an instinctive reaction for her, quite thoughtless but it wasn't intentional or obnoxiously repetitive. Ideally people shouldn't swear around kids but it's a bit much to expect people to never let slip in public in case someone else's kid overhears.

A little bit unreasonable, only because I doubt she intended to be offensive. If she was 'fucking this and fucking that', I'd agree that would be completely unreasonable.

I thought my first post didn't go through, iphone mistake,

I was stood with my boys age 7 & 9 (central York last Sat afternoon) in the queue for a cash machine.

Scummy couple standing closely behind me. female shouting - 'You're a fucking prick' Male - 'Shut your face cunt - before I shut it for yer'

I said nothing, it continued full blast, my boys looked terrified. I turned round and said 'come on - little kids don't need to hear this!' Male said 'You better fucking watch it an all - you nosey cunt!'

With this I removed the kids sharpish and luckily spotted a cop and demanded he do something. A van was called.

I was fuming, it's tragic that we're just meant to tolerate this type of behavior! Saying the odd word is one thing, a violent tirade is quite another.

YANBU. I never swear in front of my children.

If you have so little control that you swear "by mistake" "let it slip out" when you don't plan to then IMO you have a problem.