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Original poster

ABU to have just got n a showdown with a NO voter leaflet person?

34 replies

fluffyduffydoo · 04/09/2014 18:44

A NO campaign leaflet was put through my letterbox, I happened to be looking in the hall cupboard for something which is right next to the front door so opened and tried to give the leaflet back to the guy.

I explained I''ve already made my mind up so he might want the leaflet back as it will only go n the bin

He refused to take it back!

I explained I haven't even said which way I'm voting but getting fed up with leaflets from both the YES and NO campaigns coming through on a daily basis, it's a waste of money

Still wouldn't take it back so I left it outside my door and he posted it back through so I opened the door again and put it outside again saying 'honestly it will go in the bin

Then he posted it back through again and shouted through the letterbox 'educate yourself you stupid bitch'!

Was AIBU? I don't think I was? Can I complain about this or should I just leave it?

It was very strange

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F0ssil · 04/09/2014 18:47

Did he really say Educate yourself you stupid bitch?

wow. That is unacceptable.

Original poster
fluffyduffydoo · 04/09/2014 18:49

Yes , Yes he did!

That's not right is it?

Maybe he's just really passionate about the NO vote Grin

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sunnyrosegarden · 04/09/2014 18:51

Blimey, that is not acceptable! I would be very tempted to complain.

Sirzy · 04/09/2014 18:51

Sounds like you were both being daft. Just stick it in the recycling not worth getting into an argument over surely?

FunkyBoldRibena · 04/09/2014 18:53

Definitely complain!

I accosted two ladies who delivered a UKIP leaflet [after coldcalling, which apparently was in contravention of the 'no-coldcalling' policy the leaflet was advocating - I took the leaflet, and asked them if they had just posted it through my letter box...and they said yes, yes it was them. So I told them to have a word with themselves, and to get a life. And not to put rubbish through my door.

Original poster
fluffyduffydoo · 04/09/2014 18:54

I didn't want an agruement I just wanted him to take the leaflet back

He could have given it to someone who might have read it rather than it going straight in bin

I thought that was helpful

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Mrsbagface · 04/09/2014 18:55

Yeah, that definitely happened. And you're not a yes voter trying to stir things, are you?

MarthasVineyard · 04/09/2014 18:57

I don't believe you. Now if it had been someone from the "Yes" campaign ...

MostAmused · 04/09/2014 18:58

Definitely complain if you can. That's childish and offensive behaviour on his part.

And honestly did he think that saying that to you [no matter how 'educational' the leaflet may be] was going to make you vote for his 'side'?

Original poster
fluffyduffydoo · 04/09/2014 18:59

If it was a YES leaflet I would have done exactly the same

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Sirzy · 04/09/2014 19:00

But when he said no why not just shut the door and get on with your day? Like I said childish on both sides

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fluffyduffydoo · 04/09/2014 19:03

Yeah, that definitely happened. And you're not a yes voter trying to stir things, are you?

It did happen

Even if I was a YES voter how is that stirring things?

If the guy had been sensible he'd have taken back the leaflet and not turned into an arse

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JudysPriest · 04/09/2014 19:07

"I don't believe you. Now if it had been someone from the "Yes" campaign ..."

This basically sums up how this thread will go.

Original poster
fluffyduffydoo · 04/09/2014 19:07

Childish?

So if someone posts something through your door and you don't want it and hand it back to the person distributing it that's childish?

We should just accept any old junk mail.

It's my letterbox, it's my home

I tried to give it back in a grown up manner.

He had no right to keep posting it back through then say what he said surely

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GoblinLittleOwl · 04/09/2014 19:10

I think these leaflets are regarded as public information and every one has a right to receive them. What you choose to do with them is up to you.
Personally, I read them all; I'm all for creative writing.

Sirzy · 04/09/2014 19:12

No making an issue of it when he doesn't take it Back is childish. Just stick it in the recycling

OwlCapone · 04/09/2014 19:15

I didn't want an agruement I just wanted him to take the leaflet back

If you didn't want an argument you would have just put it in the recycling rather than making a fuss about one leaflet out of thousands and thousands.

OwlCapone · 04/09/2014 19:16

I tried to give it back in a grown up manner.

Sorry, but the whole back and forth nonsense was really childish. The grown up thing to do would have been to put it in the bin.

Original poster
fluffyduffydoo · 04/09/2014 19:17

No Sirzy

Do you not think he should have some concept himself of much these leaflets cost The Scottish Labour Party and think it makes economic sense to take it back and give it to someone who may appreciate it rather than it going straight in the bin?

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Sirzy · 04/09/2014 19:19

And you should have realised you were making a mountain out of a molehill

Original poster
fluffyduffydoo · 04/09/2014 19:21

Yeah, that definitely happened. And you're not a yes voter trying to stir things, are you?

I just happened to be by the letterbox and thought it was the right thing to do

as I didn't want it but someone else might.

These things cost a lot of money so surely it's better to give it back to the distributor than sticking it in the bin

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Original poster
fluffyduffydoo · 04/09/2014 19:23

Making a mountain out of a molehill?

I just which you could go a non junk mail list for political and religious leaflets

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Original poster
fluffyduffydoo · 04/09/2014 19:23

wish

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Laphem · 04/09/2014 19:26

I think he should have taken it back. To give some balance about how rude the other side can be too, I had a yes campaigner come to our door. I politely explained that I was voting no and pointed him to the no posters on our window. But he would not go away. He became exceedingly rude and aggressive and shouty. It was a very unpleasant experience. In retrospect I should have just closed the door on him I guess.

Tabby1963 · 04/09/2014 19:37

OP, yes you were being unreasonable to make a fuss in the first place. There'll be another thread started somewhere with an MNer stating that they haven't been given enough information about the independence vote...

I have welcomed all the leaflets, yes and no, into my home and read them all. It is such an important vote in a fortnight, I want to get as much info as I can before making a final decision.

I too find it somewhat incomprehensible that someone posting leaflets through your door would behave in such a fashion. When I was campaigning for a political party many years ago I would get people disagreeing with my views (sometimes strenuously lol) but I would never, ever be abusive in return. However, if it is true you should phone a contact from the No campaign and complain, because it is clearly unacceptable.

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