To wish my dh would learn to give his big mouth shut.

[Maisyblue]

This is about facebook, I go on it he doesn't, but he takes an interest when I show him photos that friends and family put up. However sometimes I've shown him the odd pic that a friend of a friend has put up even though they're not on my friends list, but it's someone he knows. Nothing wrong with that is there because facebook is a social network site and anyone who puts photos up knows the whole world can see them if they wish right? I recently showed him a pic of someone he knows (but never an actual friend) who happened to be on holiday, he was mildly interested and hardly gave it any attention. Anyway the other day walking through town we bumped into this guy and after all the hellos and how are yous were out of the way, dh goes..."hey was you in Greece recently" other guy..."no I went to Turkey recently" ....dh....yes we saw you on FB, my wife saw the pics and showed them to me" Cue me going a little red in the face because I know that he knows we aren't friends on facebook. So this guy is then looking a bit quizzically at me and possibly thinking that I'm stalking him. Please believe me I wasn't. Anyway I explained in a kind of hurried embarrassed way I came across them through a mutual friend. Aibu that as soon as we are out of earshot I called dh stupid and all sorts of other names for causing me such embarrassment. I mean there was just no need to say anything was there.

Maisey I do get what you're talking about. Having a snoop around FB, although great fun, feels a bit stalkerish doesn't it, so if someone who wasn't a friend found out I'd trawled through their profile I'd be a little embarrassed in case they thought I was a weird stalker type. If your DH doesn't use FB maybe he doesn't understand. I don't think you should've called him names though, just calmly explained why you felt like a prat and ask him to keep quiet next time.

One way to see if this chap thought you were being unreasonable is to see if you can see his pictures again. If he thought it was amiss he probably would have upped his security settings.

I know it sounds bad when I say I called him names but that was only because he spoke so nasty to me when I told him how I thought he'd dropped me in it. He hates any kind of criticism and it should never have got to the ridiculous argument that ensued.