To think this misses the point about costs of childcare?

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"Critics have complained that homes where one parent stays at home to look after children will not benefit."

This is in response to the new scheme where parents will get 20% of childcare costs paid for by the government.
I'm a CM and all for subsidies of any sort to help out parents, but other than the odd day when you might need to go for an interview etc. I can't see why a stay at home parent needs to get childcare subsidies or am I missing a major point here?!

Seagull how can you say you don't mind what others do!!

You clearly have a chip on your shoulder about something, all this I know what is best for my kids etc. We all think this, just because you aren't working doesn't allow you to take the moral high ground over us that do.

Who said it was?

Also I am not the slightest big bothered what other parents do and have never indicated otherwise.Unfortunately there seems to be a fair few who do seem to get a tad bothered re my choices and others like me.

I have to back seagull up there. I would be surprised if anyone can find evidence of her being rude about other peoples arrangements.

Teaching has changed a lot... How would you know. My 80 yr old mum will know more about the teaching profession now I suspect than you.

Not uncalled for

I was the child of a sahm, perhaps that's why I'm not one

I was on her apron strings, though she loved us dearly, too dearly sometimes

And in my opinion staying at home crippled her mental health, made her love her life through her children and made us all wish for more

Do link to my chip.

I defended my choices,you don't like that.

Same old,same old.You belittle and goad sahp into defending their choices,then when they say I'm doing it because it's best for my children you push the smug card.Borrrrrrrrrring!

Seen it all before.

I'm going to look into this malarky though, as it looks to me like it's 90% mumsnetting

Mum taught at the school for 30 years. Every year she checks it is still ok but she takes kids who have reading challenges, of course it is unpaid and it is 6 year olds. I don't want anyone thinking she is taking a class of stroppy teenagers but it is Inner London and the school has it's fair share of issues.

Really Handcream. I taught for several years up until 10 years ago.My DM retired from teaching at 70 last year.

Oh she had some years out as a sahp too.

All my best friends are still teaching,yeah I know nothing.

Do PM before you cook tomorrow Seagull and i'll advise you on your DC's food preferences. This thinking you know your DC better than random women on the interweb do has gone too far....

Handcream- your mum sounds great

iam that is a sample of ONE SAHM, some decades ago, with MH difficulties. Hardly a basis to make offensive remarks on, is it?

Yup if you could Arsenic,I'll run any other choices I can think of by you too.

Bed is calling!

I just need to get my DH upgraded for a wealthier version, get my lobotomy booked in, and I'm all set

And you're not trying to offend? Aha.

Got any vinegar to go with those chips.

Bed for me,Jack Bauer has just left the building.Actually his wife has carked it too.Didn't see that coming!

I didn't realise that all the sarcasm belonged to you guys

And on not going off the one experience, what I do day in day out is pretty much what a generation of women worked tirelessly to achieve, equality

You can keep your stepford wife dark ages lifestyles and shove me where the sun doesn't shine

shove me where the sun doesn't shine

Don't tempt people.

Yes I made a typo

That's what comes of working all day

iphone. sky tv. lets play benefits bingo! *waits for MASSIVE flatsceen telly to be called.

Now now ladies play nicely. Anyway time for bed - work tomorrow! (And sitting in the sun, chatting to the kids, chilling out together over supper- cos it ain't all the preserve of the SAHP ya know!)

"For my kids I prefer them to understand that life equals work"

I really hope your children are never unemployed or find themselves in unfulfilling jobs.

I really don't think we can judge what's best for other people's kids. Yes, the vast majority of children with two working parents will be just as happy, successful and well adjusted as the kids of sahps, and all the evidence points to this. However, there will always be some exceptions to the rule, and if some parents believe that their children lack the resilience or flexibility (or whatever) to thrive with two working parents, then they are probably best placed to judge this.

A good friend of mine would love to work, but her dd has Asperger's syndrome and doesn't cope well with changes to her routine, so in her case, it really is better for her to have a parent at home.

On a personal level, I'm thankful that dd does seem to be one of those kids who can thrive without a sahp (though we're lucky that we don't need paid childcare either). I'm another one who saw the impact of SAH on my mum's mental health, and she always urged me to ensure that I had a career. I'd have been very torn had I believed that dd needed me at home.

Why does anyone give a shit about how other people chose to raise their children, structure their family. These threads always end up the same, snipey remarks from both camps.

Do what you want to do, have to do, think is best and let other people do the same.

I'm a SAHM I love it, the kids seem happy, it works for us. Just as life works for my friends who go to work.

SAHP don't need childcare, we get 15 hrs a week which I think us enough, if you're at home looking after them.
The threshold for this new scheme seems a bit high, especially when the threshold for losing cb was so low! Tweak the threshold and a lot of the grumbling would go away

( I would just like to be able to transfer my personal allowance to dh!)