To think this misses the point about costs of childcare?

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"Critics have complained that homes where one parent stays at home to look after children will not benefit."

This is in response to the new scheme where parents will get 20% of childcare costs paid for by the government.
I'm a CM and all for subsidies of any sort to help out parents, but other than the odd day when you might need to go for an interview etc. I can't see why a stay at home parent needs to get childcare subsidies or am I missing a major point here?!

Really Handcream- 23 years and counting here.

handcream

Infinity stated that she was financially safe, as far as most women are when their marriage breaks down.
What is your point?
I am better off than my dh and everything is in my name because dh liked it like that as I didn't work.
We treat it all as ours anyway and aren't really thinking of breaking up.
Surely the life of anyone would need huge adjustments in such a case.

seagulls

Ah, that's lovely we our only 22 years married and 26 together.
Must be the stress free life of not working

Believe you me if I was a deputy/head by now we'd be history.He saw me through 2 Ofsteds and that was enough.

Only 23 and 26 years?!

You two are counting your chickens. What if it doesn't work out long term?

Seagulls

All our kids come first

Just some of us CANNOT stay at home

What you do is lovely for you, it wouldn't be lovely for me (we would be skint and we would be funded by the government) - not a place I wish to be

That doesn't make me a bad parent.end.of

Who said it did?

I was replying to Daisy saying my dc would be fine with 2 stressful jobs and childcare.

They wouldn't.

That was my kids not yours.

End of.

It's that sneery sahm inference creeping in again that your kids mean more than a parent who works do

Your kids would be equally happy even if you did work because they love you,

I tell you something

You are best out of the teaching profession

I wouldn't want you teaching my kids, you lack empathy, you lack insight and you lack the ability to be impartial about kids whose parents have to work

Nope it isn't and nope they wouldn't.

Sorry I'm not going to say they would to please DC,NC or to make you happy.I know my kids and what is best for them better than anybody else.

We all put our children first. End of.

Really.

Because I did what was best for my kids?

Are we not allowed to choose or have a say,blimey.

Who said we all don't?

I must agree - seagull you are coming across as very smug, you can make both parents working work. You have to want to do it and clearly you don't.

I think you were a teacher. So was my DM she made it work and there was no childcare needed during the school holidays which are 3-4 times more than most people. But if you don't want it to work it won't!

Good for you

For my kids I prefer them to understand that life equals work, that you can find a calling that drives you and that you enjoy, that it's ok to be independent and not attached to mummy's apron strings, that other care givers are to be trusted and can love them too, after all a child can never have too much love, that mummy is equally as important in the workforce and valued as daddy, and in the home, and that they are loved even if I'm not with them 100% of the time

Oh and that in this life taxes are to be paid before we should expect anything back because that's what people do (whether we like it or not), you don't get a free ride and free childcare to boot even if your DH is working 24 hours a day

My DM still volunteers at her inner London school at 80. Tbh she looks about 60 and I think it keeps her young. She divorced many yrs ago and is on her own but seems very content.

Oh and re impartiality,it comes with the job.Teachers have to be impartial over far bigger issues than kids having 2x wp or a sahp?

Also I am not the slightest big bothered what other parents do and have never indicated otherwise.Unfortunately there seems to be a fair few who do seem to get a tad bothered re my choices and others like me.

But your not a teacher your a sahm

And thank god

Amen

Handcream teaching had changed a lot.It doesn't compare to how it was.

Your mum sounds fab Handcream

Because she found her calling and she loves it

Now if you found your calling and it was being a sahm all power to you, but it's not the only way to parent properly

that it's ok to be independent and not attached to mummy's apron strings,

iamusually i was just typing something agreeing with you about how many people's 'choices' aren't really and saying how therefore we should all be nicer about each others lives.

And then you post THAT.

How rude and uncalled ofr.

Not you, you in the hypothetical sense