To have thrown the children's tea in the sink?

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DS2 enters kitchen and asks what's for tea. I answer, to which he says he hates it (He has never had it before.)

DS1 enters kitchen and asks what we're having. When I reply he tells me it's gross (He has never had it before.)

I have a PMT induced moment of RAGE and the throw the lot in the sink on top of the dirty washing up.

Am now skulking upstairs.

I think half of it bounced off the washing up and is now stuck on the wall, which I suppose serves me right...

I was a fussy eater, still am but not as bad as I used to be.

I have one very fussy eater myself. He eats what I give him or he gets some fruit or bread.

I tried the whole don't eat this then go hungry thing. Problem is, he would rather starve than eat food he doesn't like. He would happily go days without eating a proper meal if I offered him the choice of eating what I offer or going hungry. And so would I have done.

I now cook meals with at least one side that I know they will all eat.

I am a big believer that a lot of fussy eaters are born, not made, so I am happy to do a side they can all enjoy as well if they don't like the main meal.

I guess I have sympathy because I would literally gag and be sick when trying to eat something I didn't like. I was so bad that I would gag over food I didn't like the look of before even trying it. I try everything now without gagging at least.

I won't tolerate rudeness over what I have cooked though.

Pmsl at junior.

Lmao at the trout.
Some cousins of ours only eat chicken nuggets and chips, pizza, junk food. Since they are teenagers I think its ridiculous. It's obviously been allowed to happen to get to that stage.
OP you were totally reasonable. It's good to have a bit of a rage now and then. Keeps the kids on their toes.

DH and I were having an argument whilst cooking the tea, I slammed a dish down on the counter and the contents kind of jumped upwards and outwards onto DSD's toys on the floor.
DH picked the pan of veg off the hob and threw it all over DS bed in retaliation.
(DS was at his dads so no harm done)
FFS

My father made my mother serve up something we had refused to eat for days until 2 out of the 3 of us gave in and ate, and the 3rd had a token nibble at it. Not the same one heated up (it was cassava), my mother just kept cooking up fresh portions until the point was made. To be fair to him, we lived in a country where food was not exactly scarce, but much harder work to come by than here. He had grown up hungry and just had zero tolerance for 'But I don't liiiiike iiiit.'

We did defeat him over clam chowder though. My God, we were horrified. Some American friend had given us a batch of it. We had never had clams before and rarely ate dairy, so the chewy fishy milkiness of it was repellent. We all laugh about it now though, it's a family joke. I still don't eat any molluscs though.

yeah, it is not great behaviour OP tut tut.

But you are only human, and kids can push your to he limit.

I can be a paragon of saintliness and then I snapped one day, in similar situation, and shouted FUCK THIS! and threw their dinner in the bin.

Very bad parenting moment. When the boys were about the age yours are.

They cried as they never heard em swear before.

I have not done it since, it wasn't premeditated, I just flipped.

Oh YANBU

But I'd suggest this:

"Oh gross!"

You - sweet smile, put food on table:

"There you go! Don't bolt your food!"

Isn't it funny how people who will only ever eat one or two things it is always pizza/nuggets type food and not oranges/broccoli.

I put a lot of effort into my kids having a huge variety of food and it has really paid off but lately the children want more things that I don't want them having too much of like cake, crisps, biscuits but that is fine as they have a lot of fruit and veg and I bake stuff so they get the goodies with the bad stuff.

The boys will eat nearly everything but DD is more fussy. I still made a lot of different things for her as a baby but she had difficulties in eating to the point we had to start pureeing again at 9-10 months when she was ill so I don't know if it is just her or the fact she was ill and we had to restart.

DS2 came after her and he will eat nearly everything.

When my children tell me they don't like something I often say 'Oh dear, well don't worry, you don't have to have seconds'.

Mrsjayy That's hysterical !

YANBU OP but did you chuck your own dinner in the sink too? Oops !

I have a sister who was an amazingly fussy eater as a child [ours was a "you will sit at the table until your plate is clean" household] until she aupaired for a summer after first year of uni. The French family took her and their children to deepest darkest rural Brittany and left them with the grandparents for July and August. The parents came down for August. The house was 6 miles from any sort of shop and the grandparents didn't speak a word of English. She had to eat artichokes on her first night and god knows what thereafter or starve.
You could have knocked us all down with a feather when she returned and helped herself to a plate full of veg with a Sunday roast !

I have a 2yo who is pretty fussy. I usually just cook things I know he likes tbh. But when he's older he can cook his own bloody food if he keeps turning his nose up at what I cook. Fuck that shit I'm not cooking and eating bland food for the next 16 years of my life.

Yanbu.

treadsoftly my eldest was 8 and now an adult can remember me doing it [bush] as I said not my finest moment I just lost the bloody plot

Talking about dinner for breakfast my mum used to do this.

I loathe mince and tatties, always have, always will. I did always eat some of it, usually the potatoes and peas but no, I was expected to finish the whole lot. She didnt help this by giving it to me for breakfast and sometimes again for lunch the next day.

I didnt eat it, I did go hungry rather than eat it. She didnt learn though and kept doing it, I dont know why! I would never do that to the kids, as long as they try something they are allowed to not like it. Where I get the rage is when they refuse to even try something, even more so when it is something they have eaten and loved before. WTF is that all about?!

But it must have been pretty scary for a 7 and 9yr old to see their Mum do that in a fit of rage.

Oh please, they arent sensitive little flowers who need to be shielded from parental emotion! Good lesson in fact, mothers have feelings too, and to stop being ungrateful little shits about dinner she's kindly made for them. Scary my arse.

Can feel your pain Gemma my mum once made sole veronique and I sat for hours at the dining table trying not to boak. She eventually dismissed me but I had nothing until the next day.

My nana also thrust a mirror in my snotty, tear stained face while retching over a cold plate of liver and cried "look at yersel, we're bein' ridikalas"!

Tough love not "scary" still hate fish & liver...

minifingers, love 'you don't have to have seconds'.

I've always done tough love on food. Eat it or else. Allowed one thing you really will not eat. They also risked an Etna-like explosion if I set it down on the table and was greeted with a litany of 'Don't like it... What, that again... Hate cabbage... Won't eat it.' I never actually chucked it in the bin but I came alarmingly close.

Fortunately they are older now. They might not like everything, but they eat almost anything, home and away.

I can and have let my DD (4) leave meals she says she doesn't like, but I don't offer replacements unless it's a) new and b) she's actually tasted it and tried it. If both of those are true, then fair enough. She's a person; she's allowed to have likes and dislikes.

I don't like forcing people to eat, ever, because it sets a precedent for overriding someone's own 'hungry' signals. Given that we have a rising weight issue, that's a damned bad thing.

Don't blame you for losing it with the whining, though, OP. I can't stand it!

"But it must have been pretty scary for a 7 and 9yr old to see their Mum do that in a fit of rage."

Agree with Grockle.

Oh purrlease.

Of course YABU. How can you expect your children to behave when you act like an immature brat?

I understand you are frustrated but you need to deal with it better.

YANBU.

Children want to control everything and think they can get away with blue murder. Sometime they need to learn that things are on our terms (boy theirs) and that we have feelings too.

I think throwing it in the sink is a dramatic display of your displeasure and one that they won't forget.

Hope things have gone better this lunch time.

Oh I feel your pain - luckily mine are grown up now so have gone past the stage of 'I hate '

When I was a child any complaints about what was for dinner were met by my Mum with 'If you don't like it you can have a piece of cheese'

Eat it or else.
Or else, what?

I was an extremely limited eater as a child. There were entire categories of food that would make me gag if I even put them in my mouth. My mother had a "three bite" rule, and there were times that it would take me an hour or more to manage that. Being accused of 'making yourself throw up' when you're trying your best doesn't lend itself to a stress free mealtime for anybody.

My attitude towards eating, in regard to my daughter, has been that if she doesn't like it, and isn't willing to eat around it, then she knows where the kitchen is. Certainly by 7 or 8 most children should be capable of finding themselves something to eat.

When I do the cooking in my house, everyone (DC's and adults alike) have a choice: Eat it or go hungry.
No way am I spending valuable time preparing 3 or 4 different meals to accommodate everyone's whims and fancies.

Simple.