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AIBU?

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To have thrown the children's tea in the sink?

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Athyrium · 01/09/2014 17:20

DS2 enters kitchen and asks what's for tea. I answer, to which he says he hates it (He has never had it before.)

DS1 enters kitchen and asks what we're having. When I reply he tells me it's gross (He has never had it before.)

I have a PMT induced moment of RAGE and the throw the lot in the sink on top of the dirty washing up.

Am now skulking upstairs.

I think half of it bounced off the washing up and is now stuck on the wall, which I suppose serves me right...

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Scarletohello · 01/09/2014 18:21

I'm not a mum but can't believe how fussy kids are these days. In my day you just ate the food you were given and it wasn't an issue. Why is if an issue..?

WookieCookiee · 01/09/2014 18:21

It's odd what they dismiss out of hand isn't it?

OP I think YWBU and also they WBU- they should at least try it before sneering at it.

My two make dramatic puking noises if it is something new. Delightful. Then they score it out of 10 or give it a Circus Maximus-style thumbs up or down.
They do try it though

o0 · 01/09/2014 18:21

Yabvu. What a waste of food. I'd have eaten it going mmmm, soooo good, I bet you're staaaaaaarving. Well tough. Then I'd have cackled like a witch and continued to eat their dinner.

Poor unloved chilli.

WaffleWiffle · 01/09/2014 18:22

Not even a main meal, I've just thrown my daughter's (aged 10) bowl of ice cream for pudding in the bin. Because after she'd asked for ice cream and I agreed (rare) she then spotted magnums in the freezer and wanted to change her mind.

Unreasonable parent that I am, I promised she could have the magnum for pudding tomorrow, that she would be having this bowl of ice cream for now since it was already made. Or nothing.

She decided to try calling my bluff. In the bin it went.

After hysterical crying, she informed me she was leaving home and went off on her scooter. Ho hum.

losthermind · 01/09/2014 18:23

YANBU my DC are exactly the same, I find myself having to cook 3 seperate kinds of meals because they are sooooo bloody picky !!!! I feel I am emotionally blackmailed at every meal to succumb to their pickiness!!!! Buggers

oldgrandmama · 01/09/2014 18:24

Had that twice with darling grandbrats! Around six and eight years old at the time. Lovely dinner, nothing in it that they disliked, but they were at that age ....when one whined 'I don't think I'd like it' other one followed suit. I said 'OK, I'll make you some bread and butter instead ...'

They then tucked into their dinner pretty fast - AND enjoyed it!

MooMaid · 01/09/2014 18:25

Oh dear this has made me smile but I feel your pain. No DC's yet (but pg) but I do remember when we were younger we had to sit at the table until food was eaten. I HATED baked beans (still do) and remember scooping them in a tissue to flush down the loo!! Everything else I ate but to this day I can't stand baked beans!

Hope you have a nice dinner tonight either way!

prettywhiteguitar · 01/09/2014 18:25

Ooh giggling outside your room ? I just got red mist on your behalf !!

PumpkinBones · 01/09/2014 18:27

I can't stand whinging when they haven't seen / touched the food!

I don't make things I know they genuinely don't like so I expect them to give whatever I make a go.

I never give an alternative or anything else though and to be fair, they are both generally really good. It's the occasional eye rolling or automatic "I don't like that!" That irritate me!

GemmaTeller · 01/09/2014 18:28

My mum once served up fish poached in milk for lunch when I was a youngster (I'm in my 50's now).
I wouldn't eat it, I hate fish.

I sat at the table from 12o'clock till bedtime at 7pm with an untouched plate of congealed fish in front of me.
I didn't get anything else till breakfast the next day.

I still hate fish.

MyLifeIsFictional · 01/09/2014 18:30

My kitchen ceiling still has curry stains from when I threw the entire pot across the kitchen at DH. Four years ago.

Well I'm not going to get up there and wash it off!

He shouldn't have provoked me after I had warned him I was feeling v.v hormonal. He had to push just that little bit more with a sarky comment... I think the neighbours at the far end of the road heard me roar!

So OP YANBU. It might make your DC be a little nicer in future! Until they forget

Sootball · 01/09/2014 18:32

Feel your pain.

Just so fucking annoying when dinner is cooked, served and then sniffed at.

DH has form for allowing the DC to graze constantly meaning they then aren't all that hungry come mealtime. Dd1 refused dinner last night so it wasn't replaced - she ate her breakfast bloody fast this morning!

Bulbasaur · 01/09/2014 18:32

I'm not a mum but can't believe how fussy kids are these days. In my day you just ate the food you were given and it wasn't an issue. Why is if an issue..?

Because parents from your day remember how much it sucked to have to eat gross food they didn't like.

Mine grew up with that mentality that if you didn't like it you didn't eat. They adopted a "3 bites, and no dessert" rule if you didn't eat your food for me and DB. I think that is a good way to go.

Itsfab · 01/09/2014 18:34

YANBU and probably did yourself a favour.

I called the kids for their dinner. DS2 asked if he could finish his game. I said yes but there would be no dinner. I'll come then sulkily. I told him not to bother. I didn't care if he had tea or not. I served up DD and DS1's and stared at DS2. I should have walked away but he sorted himself out and asked if he could have his tea and eventually apologised.

Not running a fucking café.

morethanpotatoprints · 01/09/2014 18:35

nacho

I thought the thread was talking about fussy eaters not the fact they might not like something, which of course nobody should have to eat.

My kids eat everything and are mostly grown up without food issues, but am sorry for yours.

morethanpotatoprints · 01/09/2014 18:36

Sorry for your food issues I mean, not your dc

Bogeyface · 01/09/2014 18:37

This gives me rage.

If you try and dont like it fine, will make you something different next time, but to not even try it and then declare you dont like it is not on.

I dont cook for a fucking hobby! I have binned dinners before now, and only regretted the time and money wasted not the empty bellies.

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 01/09/2014 18:38

I have a rule that they have to at least give it a very good try before they decide they dislike it. My DS told me he hated chilli, having never tried it before. I stuck to my rule and he tried it, and he kept trying it till his plate was empty and he asked for seconds!
I agree children are allowed to dislike things, DD doesn't like bacon and DS doesn't like beans, but both were encouraged to try them properly before deciding.
I also put the food down in front of them and they eat it or go hungry (wouldn't cook things they don't like, but if I do a curry or stew they eat it or go hungry, and every single time they have eaten it!). I do not have the time or energy to cook 2 or 3 different meals every day.
YANBU OP.

Whatisaweekend · 01/09/2014 18:43

I, too, feel your pain. The way mine look at me, all suspiciously like I am attempting to poison them just gives me the rage. They always ask what's for tea and I always answer 'no idea yet' as whatever I say would always be met with wails of 'but I don't like that' (even, please note, if they had enjoyed it albeit grudgingly the week before). Aaarrrgh!! I just ate what I was given when I was little. What the hell happened? Where have I gone wrong? I want to wring their necks most mealtimes!!

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Athyrium · 01/09/2014 19:11

Ah yes, those suspicious looks when presenting poison food, I get those too!

Liking the tales of things mums have thrown...mine once chucked a pouffee (sp??) straight through the glass front door when she was in a rage...I am positively mild mannered in comparison

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seemtobealwaysfighting · 01/09/2014 19:16

I have a sign in my kitchen that says 'There are 2 choices for dinner, take it or leave it'.

Ds is really fussy but if I say that's all there is then he does eat whatever's offered.

Fletchermoss · 01/09/2014 19:16

I did a similar thing a few weeks ago. Then I went out of the house for a couple of hours to calm down. The kids were repentant. I had just had enough of their ungratefulness.

PatSharpesfabulousmullet · 01/09/2014 19:17

Nothing more annoying than when you've spent time and money on a lovingly prepared, healthy meal and they turn their noses up without even having a forkful. One thing that seemed to make them stop and think how I would feel is when I asked them how they would feel if they bought home a piece of work they had spent hours working on, went to get it out of their book bag and I immediately shouted "it's awful, I hate it!" before even looking at it? Or gor the older repeat offender, if you're feeling really evil, "shall I take x amount for the food you're wasting from your pocket money then?"

Darksideofthemoon88 · 01/09/2014 19:24

As long as there was nothing in the meal that you already knew they disliked (a hatred of tomatoes, for example, might make chilli less than ideal ), YWNBU. ...but I think I'd make them clean up the mess!

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Athyrium · 01/09/2014 19:38

Have a lovely large glass of wine in my hand and boys are in bed now so civility has been restored

Chilli on toast for the boys breakfast methinks. Or maybe surprise chilli sandwich for packed lunch?

Oh dear. That's bordering on a vendetta. More wine needed....

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