to find the ice bucket thing embarrassing

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I do realise it's for charity and am happy to donate to charity but I find it cringeworthy and teenage all these sort of things which circulate on facebook - no make up, nominating people etc

YANBU.

I find it cringeworthy too. I don't know why, it just makes my toes curl up.

I don't get the 'I've been nominated so I have to do it' thing. You don't have to do anything. Donate or not, no-one is forcing you to chuck a bucket of water over yourself. Like others, no-one has nominated me - they know I wouldn't do it.

I think it's been good fun this summer. Its harmless slapstick. It's hurt nobody and made everyone think about a good cause they might otherwise not have thought of or donated to.

The news right now is relentlessly grim and this has been a temporary and fun distraction that raises money for good causes.

I've also noticed that some people state that they are donating to a charity closer to their heart such as Alzheimers, so its not just one single charity benefiting.

You don't have to do it, you don't have to donate, you don't have to watch the videos.

OP YABU!

It's amazing what people will do because someone on Facebook told them to! And I am getting a bit tired of seeing people's ice bucket 'CHALLINGE'.

I do think its a little bit attention seeking, especially the ones who think they won't get enough attention doing it 'normally' so have to do something kerazy like wear a snorkel and flippers, or 'accidentally' fall over and tip the water all over them. And it's obvious that some people really don't have the charity in mind, they just want to video each other chucking water on each other and the ensuing hilarity.

Having said all that, it has raised loads of money for charity so I will suck it up for a bit longer!

Two people have had a massive falling out over the ice challenge on my fb. My friends friend didnt like that she donated to another charity instead and became v nasty. I have had comments too because I really dont want to do it due to health issues.

I just find it astonishing that grown adults would behave in this way, its bizarre!

Don't be such a misery guts! Play a game and donate to charity

or don't

That's all

Whinging about fb is so fucking daft, you are basically inviting people to have a conversation in your presence and then giving out because they are not talking about what you want them to talk about. The independent bastards!

i think that its bizaare that grown adults can be bullied into doing something they dont want to do via facebook.

I have been nominated, and publicly shamed for not doing it. But I say to my DD (10) noone can make you do something you dont want to do.

All this ...I have to because the internet said so....

well, i dont think its a healthy attitude to promote to our children.

well, i dont think its a healthy attitude to promote to our children.

I think that's over thinking it. It's having an optional laugh for a good cause and people can refuse if they like.

If its caused arguments that's the fault of the argumentative people, not of the ice bucket challenge.

yes if thats all it was (having an optional laugh for a good cause and people can refuse if they like.)

I have been called some ridiculous names for not joining in. It is the fault of the people doing the bullying.. I agree. But the ice bucket challenge is just the trigger for that bullying.

Speaking SPECIFICALLY about the challenge....I know what it feels like being drenched in icecold water, I dont need to do this challenge to empathise with people in this situation.

Do I have to lose a child to be able to sympathise with those parents and raise money for cot death?

Anything can be used as a trigger for bullying.

It's nothing to do with empathy for people getting wet - it's to do with empathy for people suffering from terrible diseases and giving a few pound to their charities.

Add on a laugh and a bit of community spirit and you have the opportunity a bit of goodness in the world, god knows we need it. Whether people take it in that spirit is another thing

it doesn't make me laugh at all perhaps this is the reason for my misery-guts-ness about the whole thing
I suppose we all have different sense of humours
people should definitely not be bullied into doing it, that's awful.

Most of the videos posted on my FB feed don't even mention the charity.

It's amazing that so much has been raised for charity, but depressing that it takes something like this to spur it on.

I don't care if anyone else wants to do it, I have been nominated but have managed to " forget" to do it so far.
What annoys me is if I sent a friend a FB message saying I demand that they donate money to a charity of my choice right now or they are a spoilsport then that would probably not be ok - but this is???
I choose who to donate to ( and I do) rather thanbe told by other people due to some gimmick.

If I felt bullied by anyone on Facebook I would delete them straight away icanhaveadarkside
I know loads of people who haven't done it and nobody has said anything.
My experience of it is having an optional laugh for a good cause and people can refuse if they like.

I ignored the neck nominations, the no make up selfie and all the 'secret status' business but the ice bucket challenges have all made me smile.

my friend works in an office where everyone is on fb. they challenged her to do it and she said no..

she has had numerous 'hilarious' post it notes left for her that she has shown me.
snide comments,
outright cat calls of being boring, uncharitable, snooty bitch. and these are just the ones she tells me about.

I stand with her..... noone should be coerced into doing something they dont want to do.

It is bullying on FB and in rl.

As i said before, you do not need to experience something to empathise with it.

I give money to the starving masses in 3rd world countries, yet i get grumpy if i miss my tea.....oooh how much of a hippocrite am I

The thing is, nobody is actually making you do it nor checking to see if you donated.

I really don't think its bullying. Bullies will be bullies whether something is on FB or not.

The kids have enjoyed doing it. I won't get involved. I think it's a bit sad past teenagerdom.

Will donate for the kids doing it though.

Your friend works in an office full of bullies.
The Ice Bucket challenge doesn't make people bully others anymore than getting nominated makes people tip ice cold water on their heads.
Even my teenage DD's friends are not being pressured into it, several have refused and that is that.
DD had one comment when she refused to do a neck nomination and a good twenty of her friends jumped to her defence.
Bullies bully, they don't need a reason or an excuse so don't give them one.

I've been nominated 3 times and have explained that I will not be throwing anything over my head nor will I be making extra donations to any charities.

I have 3 monthly direct debits that go to charities of my choosing and I won't be hounded into giving to another.

I also don't agree with the water waste.

It's times like this I'm glad to be billy no mates I make regular donations to two charities I have chosen. I don't need to make an exhibition of myself to do so or to educate myself. And when I saw the still before the film starts of a three year old relative doing it I wondered if her parents had bothered educating them selves or their children yet about the degenerative illness their GF has yet after all these years. Probably not.

I thinks it a laugh, raises awareness and better than the no make up thing! Its more entertaining

Well I didn't really want to do it and was just going to donate but my friend nominated me and her video was very sad as it was on the 7th anniversary of the date her husband was diagnosed with MND (he is still living with the disease and it has been very hard for them). So I will be doing it so show support for my friend.

In the end so much money has been raised by this I don't think it is right to moan about it to be honest.

All this smacks of aren't I so superior... Donate to charity anyway, this is juvenile blah blah. It's a bit of fun (for some people) that's raising money for (lots) people. We all enjoy different things, I certainly don't think anything less if anyone who thinks this is stupid so why all the attitude towards people who have done it......"attention whores", nasty, just plain nasty. I've been nominated and don't wish to but I certainly don't feel the need to look down on and judge people who do. And to the poster querying the point because they thought you did it to get out of donating, this isn't true..as far as I see it people are donating £3 if they do it, £10 if they don't.

Yes tinker I'm superior for not being a sheep and you're superior for knowing how to have fun. And nobody is really being bullied because it's for charity.

I loved Patrick Stewart's contribution, though.