to have worn red lycra to a wedding?

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From Jane Norman.

As squoosh said, sounds like father of the bride remembers your dress vividly..bet he couldn't take his eyes off you all night, making mother of bride fuming ooh you harlet you!

I think there is a third way between nana's curtains and pissed night out on the pull gear.

I do think some women are v jealous of other women in tight tiny dresses.

I don't think it's that it's just not appropriate. Fwiw last time I went to a club I wore a black sequinned size 10 dress because I am lucky enough to be able to but I wouldn't wear it to a wedding. It's the brides day to look the best and most beautiful. All eyes should be on her.

Women know your place - for you will be judged not on what you say but by the clothes you wear! FFS, I think it is appalling to call teenage girls prostitutes simply because of the clothes they wear.

I appreciate that they may have not been wearing things appropriate for a wedding but who hasn't made a fashion mistake in their youth or last week but to liken that to selling sex reveals a far greater want of character than wearing a short dress ever will.

OP, ignore the mother of the bride, she sounds dreadfully dull to still be thinking about it 5 years later!

Last wedding I went to there was someone in a white dress. Other than the bride. There was also someone in all black.

I like the dress. If it was worn to the evening reception I wouldn't give it much thought. If it was worn to the ceremony and wedding breakfast I would be a bit [shocked] tbh

dammit

It's actually quite difficult to get a decent look between nana's curtains and tarty these days these days! am not yet thirty but really, it is. Maybe I'm looking in the wrong places.

For weddings/christenings/work functions etc. I wear the cocktail dresses I bought for posh university events. I bought a lot of these at Jane Norman before it went ridiculously tarty. But I'm starting to outgrow these now and there's no middle ground shop for formalwear Topshop is too confusing and seems obsessed with cutting out random holes and demanding the odd shoulder or rib to be exposed, and M&S is...M&S.

At risk of turning this into a S&B thread, I would recommend coast, fennwright and Mason and phase 8 as options when looking for suitable wedding guest wear.

Sorry that was in reply to phone box

I get weird looks from other shoppers whenever I approach the Phase Eight rails, but I do admire their dresses from afar. I love their styles.

Actually I've bought a lovely dress from Oasis recently. I won't be able to wear it when I'm 40 quite short but it's not tarty, it's feminine without being stupidly frilly and can be dressed up or dressed down. I imagine Coast is like an upmarket Oasis and a bit out of my price range, but thanks Turning :)

I am ancient and am often at the outfits which I do think are more appropriate for a nightclub

How times change.
I have a photo from the early 70s of all the bride's friends in short dresses and very large hats. I remember my mother's outrage! And her efforts to get me into a naice 'costume'. This was a real option and not a dressing up opportunity.

The difference between then and now is the legs and the bosom on show which as all naice girls know is a real no-no! One or t'other please!

Fab dress. Bet you looked terrific.

I genuinely couldn't care less what other people wear but then I am often baffled by sartorial 'rules.' For me, the only thing unacceptable for a guest to wear at a wedding is a wedding dress. Other than that, wear what you like!

I bet you looked gorgeous in that lovely dress.

At my BF wedding some years back the grooms mother wore black, black dress shoes and bag with a massive black hat. She looked like a crow, elegant but a crow all the same.

So phonebox..you can't wear a non tarty but short dress when you're 40! Why not? Am I missing something?

You were that guest. There's one at every wedding, along with a drunken uncle and at least one guest who is in love with the bride or groom.

And I bet you had a blast.

I'm in my mid-twenties and my knees are already wrinkly. By 40 they will rival an elephant's, I'm sure.

Not begrudging those with amazing legs who can pull off a short dress when they're older!

I didn't say they were prostitutes, I said they looked like them because of what they were wearing. And don't get me wrong, I've had plenty of nights out where I've gone dressed looking the same. IMO that sort of look brings attention with it which is not appropriate at someone else's wedding. It's a class and respect thing for me. You should be trying to outshine anyone on their wedding day

So, in what context did the MOTB "mention it"? What exactly did she say?

TBH at the last wedding I went to almost everyone under 35 was dressed inappropriately to my eyes. Please, at least cover up in church!

Phonebox..I bet they wont! Iv just turned 40 and I remember in my 20's thinking how different I would be, but its not so bad and not hugely different! (Honest) yes a few more wrinkles but not the frazzled, wrinkly, saggybottomed person I thought I was going to turn into right, off to sandblast my knees!

I've worn some very dodgy clothes; not to weddings but that's more by luck than judgement.

I couldn't see anything wrong with Julia Roberts's outfit in Pretty Woman when it came out. I still can't, though I know she's playing a prostitute.

These days I'm more conservative - and older - so can't get away with ruched cut-out lycra and thigh boots.

I wince and smile in equal measure at seeing photos of my 20-something self in all my glory. And I'd do the same at a girl in similar clothes today. You're a long time old and the alternative is death.

I certainly wouldn't whinge about her five years later or say she looked like a prostitute.

How naive btw. IME many prostitutes dress very conservatively. That's how they are accepted in high-class bars.

Anyway, OP, your dress is a little out there but I like it.

I'd wear a coat in the church though, OP.

As Hugh Grant says in Four Weddings: 'Nothing looks worse than a priest with an enormous erection.'

Not wedding approptiate imo.

Ritzy in bolton circa '99 maybe.