to think he may have sent text to wrong person

[Girlwhowearsglasses]

Sent message to DS1s friend's Dad (he does the drop-offs at school and is a SAHD)

something like " hope you had a lovely summer - DS1s mum here, wondering if ___ would like to come and play next Mon or Tues?"

reply came back at 18.40 "what about 2 night Hun"

I did not reply
then
about 10 mins later "hello r U there?"..

Have not replied and pretty sure he has the sort of phone where you can see what the previous message was - ie that I was arranging a playdate....

shall I ignore and text later in week with same message?

I think he is having a bit of fun. I would send back an equally jokey reply.

Could his DW have been the one replying? Maybe he handed it over and asked er to reply and she forgot to put her name on end? I've done that on DH's phone before >

cancel the play date, ban your DS from all contact.

he called you Hun ffs!

doesnt he know your a Mumsnetter?

is the DW a NetHun

I'm sure I'm not the only one that's had this sort of text then the sender has revealed their true intentions (to flirt etc).

I'm sure any adult male would realise "What about 2 night Hun" is a double entendre. Certainly someone capable of that much textspeak I would doubt to be a sheltered innocent who would be unaware.

is the DW a NetHun

If this is the case, move house!

I once invited a very nice young man I worked with away for a dirty weekend.

Said young man had the same first name and his last name started with the same two letters as DH.

He responded with, OK but are we taking the kids/partners as well?

Ha just saw replies..

Showed DP last night and he was aghast!
Am too embarrassed to reply now!

This guy is not working, looks v old for age, smokes while wheeling new baby around and drinks red bull at school drop off. Not casting any aspersions about but I kind of can't even imagine how he got with his DW...

But it was possibly his wife sent it?

Not casting any aspersions about but

Isn't that the same as 'I don't want to be racist but....' then following it with a racist comment? Or 'I don't mean to be rude but....' then going on to do just that?

I think you did 'cast your nasturtiums' actually.

Showed DP last night and he was aghast!

Seriously, what am I missing here? What exactly did your husband have to be aghast about?

And why the judgmental comments now? You've already invited his child to come and play so what's the relevance of that?

drinks red bull at school drop off

Never knew that Red Bull was a no-no...

That's uncalled for, OP!

U-oh

Oh dear I can see this definitely taking a turn for the worst now.

Um, I often can be found drinking an energy drink in the morning. And occasionally in the afternoon, if it's been a particularly knackering few days.

And I may look older than I am, again usually if it's been a tough week.

Maybe I'm a dodgy bird...

I do call some RL friends 'hun' sometimes.

I don't have any tattoos, and I wouldn't be caught dead sporting a winnie the pooh one.

Jeez oh poor guy

What was wrong with just simply replying to the text, does calling someone Hun these days mean something seedy!

I bet it was the wife replying anyways

Honestly what is the fuss about? Yes I would raise an eyebrow at a man I'm not really friends with calling me "hun" (presumably hon short for honey rather than Hun as in Atilla?) but there is no innuendo or double entendre here at all!

I thought the initial issue was that you'd suggested one day and he came back with that very day.

My friend the other day received a text message from the husband of a friend asking whether she shaved her lady garden and wanted to meet up without telling her husband. Now that was a come on! This is a fuss about nothing at all!

I think the weird thing about the messages is that he replied,'Hello r U there' after 10 mins of no reply - pushy or what?!

I don't understand why you didn't reply. I'm now wondering if I regularly send suspicious texts to people because I genuinely can't see what there was to be 'aghast' about.

I TOTALLY don't get it. It sounds like you/your DH assume he's intimating a liaison with you in which case you think that's not outside the realms of possibility given what you know of him. And if that's the case you've not given us enough background information to gain an insight as to whether he sent the text to you on purpose or not.

Fuss about nothing indeed. Unless you know otherwise and are being disingenuous.

Maybe he thought he was being funny and is now dying with embarrassment as he's realised you've taken it seriously.

I once left a note for my builder "I'm in the shower, come on in" Yup, they found it hilarious.

Speed ramp was being put near our driveway and I'd said to DH that morning, they might have some tar left over and I would ask them if I could buy some to repair our drive. Sent him a text saying "spoke to the workmen and they were happy to fill my hole" He had great fun showing our mutual friends that text.

I don't get it either, tbh.

This thread is weird. I would have assumed he meant what about his child going over to play that night instead of next week, 'tonight' in this instance meaning 'later this afternoon'.

I really don't see the confusion, it's all a bit Samantha Brick.

Maybe I've missed out on a lot of propositions that were right before my eyes. Today in Next the guy asked if I had found everything I needed, I think he just meant in the shop, right?!

For all those who think his message was innocent, would you really be arranging a play date for a child after 6.40pm? Which is when he text the op?

Wow I think he was trying for a babysitter!