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To ask where you all got married ?

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danker126 · 24/08/2014 20:45

I have been trying to find a wedding venue for some months now and feel like im going round in circles. Our biggest problem is we dont want to have a formal sit down meal but would love to bring in our own caterers however if I mention this to hotels they look at me and h2b like we have 2 heads? Looking at venues all over scotland.

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HoVis2001 · 24/08/2014 21:20

Local village hall, fitted 120 people in, plus band, with ceilidh dancing. Had our own caterers and paid an incredibly low price for the venue. Depends how important the attractiveness of the venue is for you. Ours did look like a village hall with some organza draped along the walls, but once it was full of tables and guests and lots of laughter it was just grand.

Are you looking for a venue for both the ceremony and the meal? It may be a challenge to find a place that does ceremonies but doesn't have its own caterers.

If you're seriously willing to go anywhere in Scotland you will be able to find a village hall style venue of a large enough size for sure. Heck, I think the one in my village would be large enough, and it's quite pretty. Any particular regions in Scotland you're interested in?

Lucyccfc · 24/08/2014 21:20

I got married at the Etihad Stadium - just the ceremony and photo's. We then had a huge party at the Town Hall, where they were happy for us to bring in our own caterers.

DurhamDurham · 24/08/2014 21:21

I got married in Paphos Cyprus, was sitting around the pool until an hour before I was due to get married. My mum was the only one who looked like she was going to a wedding, the rest of us looked rather casual.

angelopal · 24/08/2014 21:22

Haddo house in aberdeenshire. Its a national trust property. It has a beautiful chapel and a hall you can do the reception in. However I think it only holds 100.

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danker126 · 24/08/2014 21:23

The 150 in the day is just family. We arent having any friends in the day time. I come from a massive family hence the 9 other weddings in 2 years. Very stressful would love for mine to be unique. I had originally found somewhere then found out my cousin booked it

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winnertakesitall · 24/08/2014 21:33

A friend of mine recently got married at wedderburn castle in Duns (Borders)- 'twas very romantic and pretty!

Bearbehind · 24/08/2014 21:39

9 other family weddings in 2 years- OMFG.

Elope!

You'll never compete with that and TBH, I couldn't be arsed to try.

olaflikeswarmhugs · 24/08/2014 21:40

Danker you will need to have it in a town hall or something like that to take your own caterer .

Is there a particular reason you'd like to take your own ?

I've recently been to a wedding in The Cruin on Loch Lomond . It's the most stunning location I've ever seen

olaflikeswarmhugs · 24/08/2014 21:41

Danker I wouldn't worry about the 150 , I had 200 during the day at mine and another 70 above that at night

Purplehonesty · 24/08/2014 21:43

Ardross castle (40 miles north of Inverness)
Brought in our own caterers and everyone stayed over for the weekend. It was fab and felt like a home from home as all the staff were so lovely.

youmakemydreams · 24/08/2014 21:46

We are getting married at Belladrum temple in the highlands next year. Wouldn't for 150 inside though. We are only fitting 70 in because it is standing.
The estate are fab and so accommodating. You can have basically anything you want on the day. They have a list of suppliers or you can choose whatever you want. You can camp there as well and a previous wedding had campers in tents and caravans.
They are really laid back and will accommodate everything.
There is a festival every year on the estate so they have seen and some it all.

Leela5 · 24/08/2014 21:50

There is a lovely barn venue near Stirling you can hire where you then organise your own caterers so you could have a buffet. I wanted a buffet but found a lot of venues opposed to the idea, with one even telling me 'I don't think your guests would like that'!

I asked him which of my yet to be decided guests wouldn't enjoy a buffet, as he seemed to know them all so well

We ended up going for a beautiful stately house in Dunbar which was perfect and the owner couldn't have been more helpful. We didn't have a buffet in the end though (my dad's decision not mine )

Pasithea · 24/08/2014 21:53

Park circus then one Devonshire Gardens. Stayed there three nights was fab.

Pollywallywinkles · 24/08/2014 21:57

Have you asked your preferred caterers if they have any suggestions?

A friend found a fantastic venue a few years ago through the caterers.

scottishmummy · 24/08/2014 21:59

Why can't you use same venue as cousin?if it's good venue.no point knockin self out

youmakemydreams · 24/08/2014 22:02

We also looked at bogbain
Farm in Inverness too. That's a bit different and agin pretty flexible.

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danker126 · 24/08/2014 22:09

We dont want a full mean due to issues in h2b past. He is now nc with these people however he finds these situations difficult and uncomfortable I also am a fussy eater so would like to do our own thing. We are thinking along the lines of having indian food. Looking to have tables of 10 people with big trays of rice and curry pakora nan breads but done nice rather than looking like a take away lol.im going to check out all the things you guys are suggesting.

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scottishmummy · 24/08/2014 22:12

Plan it in away that suits yiu both,reflects your preferences - what you described sound great

Germgirl · 24/08/2014 22:14

Vegas, with Elvis .
Sorry, I know that's not what you want to know.
I wouldn't worry about having the same place as your cousin, if you have different decor and catering it'll be different enough anyway, if you like it, go for it. Your food idea sounds lovely.

ColdCottage · 24/08/2014 22:17

Outside then reception in marquee in the garden.

As you are in Scotland you probably know you can marry anywhere as long as the person marrying you is registered.

Do you have a special place for you both? Then see if you can hire an outdoor space, put up marquee, hire in posh loos and your own caterers. You can do this for under 15k easy

fairnotfair · 24/08/2014 22:20

Went to a fantastic reception at Stirling Castle, after a ceremony at Logie Kirk. Also attended lovely receptions at Merchiston Castle (school) and Cameron House. I've also heard v good things about Millar Catering, although have never experienced them personally.

Waffles80 · 24/08/2014 22:21

Friends got married here - deconsecrated church, humanist ceremony, hog roast, ceilidh afterwards. Was absolutely brilliant. dunglassestate.com/

madamemuddle · 24/08/2014 22:22

We got married in church then had our reception in a barn.

It was unfurnished so we hired furniture, caterers and a bar. Was more work and a little bit stressful at times but it was beautiful. My friends are florists and decorated it for me. I can remember when we walked it and it was absolutely magical.

Could you find something like that or a quaint village hall? They are very cheap to rent normally.

LaQueenOnHerHolibobs · 24/08/2014 22:37

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Justnapping · 24/08/2014 22:38

Great venues I have attended weddings at - Kinkell Byre near St Andrews, Atholl palace Pitlochry, Fernie Castle Fife (check out the treehouse!), kinnettles castle near forfar (although I don't know if kinnettles could definitely accommodate your numbers).

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