To not want to date someone who licks their knife

[NiceHandles]

Just that really. I was introduced to someone recently and he seems nice and we get along. He is a bit rough and ready, seems kinds and makes me laugh which I really like but when eating he licks his knife. I am finding this a complete turn off and would like to know if maybe licking your knife is ok. I do not like it one bit.

Does anyone else want to know what MrsW does think is an appropriate tool for itching her crack with????

This thread reminds me of the SATC episode with that stupid cow Carrie stopped dating a man because he got food on his chin. When DH gets food on his chin I say 'You've got food on your chin' and DH says 'Oh, do I?' then wipes it off. Simples. So in the same spirit say 'you'll cut your tongue' like our mothers did and see what his response is. If he laughs he's a keeper, if he gets arsy he's not. st the very least you need to sleep with him because someone who enjoys his food and is a great kisser will probably be fab in bed.

It isn't a problem with him licking his knife, it is a potentially problem with your ability to communicate. Have you even asked him not to do it when he's with you? If he has no idea that you think it is bad manners to lick your knife, he has not had the opportunity to choose whether he is happy to stop around you or if he should think something like 'this woman's up her own arse'.
If you don't communicate, you'll just keep wasting time dating and dumping guys who lick their knives, whilst all the time you stay silent.
YABU.
This guy is kind, funny and you fancy him. What a fucker.

that should read... potentially a problem

kicks self

YUCK.

It's early on, you were just introduced and you find it revolting. So move on.

Yeah, but nothing is more satisfying than making a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and then licking the extra bit of pb&j off the knife.

Anyone who's stupid enough to go around licking knives deserves to have their tongue cut.

I couldn't put up with it. I hate bad table manners. I once ended a relationship because he held his knife like a pen and his fork the wrong way up- like a shovel. The knife like a pen was the main thing; it drove me mad. He also put his cutlery very messily on the plate when he'd finished, just sort of threw it down which also drove me mad.

If someone licked their plate I would feel sick.

Waits to be accused of all sorts of pickiness and prissiness

Just speak to him. If he says no, them dump him. If he says no problem, see where it goes.

or the extra bit of nutella when there's no chocolate in the house and you're desperate??

Why speak to him? He's obviously happy enough with himself he feels fine licking his knife in public. He has no problem with it, she has. So move on.

He probably has no idea it offends her. If her really wanted to carry on seeing her, he wouldn't think twice to stop if she asked.
It could be an easy fix. She's already said it is rare for her to fancy someone. Why not speak up?

Eating alone is different- the rules can be relaxed. I just don't want to see someone else with bad manners.

Alone, I can lick jam off the knife.

Games as if I'd reveal that on a thread like this!

What if your partner walked in and caught you LuluJakey? He/she may have to post on MN.... AIBU leaving LuluJakey because she licked the jam knife?

Knitting needle MrsW?

Anyone who's stupid enough to go around licking knives deserves to have their tongue cut.

It's a table knife, not a lightsabre.

Why not just say 'would you mind not licking your knife? It sets my teeth on edge'?

You've nothing to lose. The worst thing that happens is you split up which is what you are planning anyway.

Exactly, wafflyversatile.

Dump him.

Knife eating IS gross but could you not go on a date or two and then drop it into conversation? Like oooooh you'll cut your tongue if you lick your knife!

I didn't say anything because I didn't want to offend him. I am not looking to change anyone's MO. If that is what he does that what he does. I fancied him but we weren't a couple. I couldn't imagine a future with me constantly saying 'don't eat with your knife' and he eventually telling me to 'eff off'.

I wouldn't even notice how someone ate. I don't watch people eat. I eat my own dinner without watching others eat because what they're eating usually makes me want to heave.

It would do my brain in too. It's just not good manners is it.

nicehands I'm a stickler for table manners, conditioning from an early age and probably due to going to a convent school. My DP occasionally licks his knife at home, never when we're out or I'd kick him on the shins I guess it irks me because he knows its rude, but in the grand scheme of our relationship it would never be a "deal breaker".

If everything else is wonderful, then maybe its something to mention in the future if it really drives you up the wall. It does look awful. It's probably something he has done since childhood and he wasnt told about.

And shakes that was a lovely "sod's law" typo
it is a potentially problem with your ability to communicate