To be shocked to receive an unsolicited birthday list?

[Bustermqc]

A relative (not nuclear) has just sent me a present list for her teenage daughters upcoming birthday. As an aside (though not the point) everything on it is very expensive.

Now if I had been in touch and asked what the daughter wanted of course I would be happy to receive a list but quite honestly it is a relative who I am not close enough to to send a present. If I was going to a party or seeing her around her birthday I would definitely get her something but probably standardly wouldn't if I wasn't.

AIBU to think its absolutely outrageous to send a list when no one asked?

I love a list to work from but this is just rude to send a list to someone who doesn't normally even buy a present.

Is it at all possible she's emailed it to the wrong person? you know, Bustarbgr@ asked her for a list but her email autofilled to bustermqc.

£50 quid gifts?!!! I already thought ywnbu, but now I think you definitely, definitely aren't!

I have had this with my DH's family. I had already got him a present and the email was sent to my DH, who ignored it/forgot about it.

I have seen on Facebook status "My DS has so many toys its unbelievable, please send us money to our bank account this year".

People who complain about presents have been given more than they deserve in my view. Its a present after all, not an entitlement. If you ask what you want, then you should offer up ideas.

Sorry correction

Only if you are asked what you want should you give people a list, it shouldn't be forced on anyone.