MILS said baby2 shouldnt be bought its own things.

[DragonFlyx]

I'm quite upset over this remark. But MIL has said our expectant baby shouldn't be bought toys/clothes because it's the second born, apparently second borns aren't as special as the first and should have it's big siblings hand downs, even if it's a boy it should have my daughter's things and its rediculous to buy them anything.

It came when I said not to buy dd anything too big or go over the top with toys because of room and we have another on the way, and every year if there is something I really want to get dd from myself and oh as a special present, she runs out to buy it first. It's quite upsetting and I'm not sure why she's like it.

This year she wants to buy dd really big things like a swing, trampoline, her first bike and what I want to buy her. The house and garden are far too small for swings etx and she knows this.

Am I wrong for being upset over how she is or the comment about baby2? Not sure how to handle it.

[yellowsnownoteatwillyou]

I knew just by reading your first 2 posts your dh would be an only child. I'm married to one.
I've made it no secret If I can help it I will have at least 2, even thou I've been really ill during and after ds was born. And know it's not going to go down well with my Inlaws, you have to have your dh on your side.
Your mil can fuck off, tell her nothing. Or tell her straight your choice but do it now.
And I would get your dh to call her an tell her out of line she was for blurting out such important information to your dd. Information that will blow her whole little world apart.
Waiting for a baby to come for a child takes forever, you could play it down and get everyone else to do it too so your dd forgets about it for a bit.