to think he should have come straight away

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If you lived in a new area and didnt know many people and had no family nearby would you expect your dh to come straight away (from work) to the hospital if your dc (under 1 yr) had had an accident involving a broken limb possibly needing operation to pin and you were there with your injured dc plus your other 2 pre school dc?

If they chose to finish their working day before heading home a few hts down the line having only sent a text saying 'hope X is ok'. Would you be happy with that? I wasn't. Dh didnt think it was necessary to excuse himself and tbh it caused a huge bruise in our relationship. I felt completely on my own. It was actually a long time ago but recent relationship troubles has made me think about this and i wondered if i expected too much. Was i unreasonable expecting him to come straight away not stroll in at the end of the day?

YANBU. It's when someone's back is really up against the wall that you can see what their priorities really are.

I think it's the fact that as well as not caring about his wife, the OP's DH did not appear to give much of a shit about his badly injured baby and other children. I would also find that unforgivable TBH.

Yes if his job was safe to leave and not leave anyone in danger. My dh is a shop manager and has once left as I had noravirus and was too poorly to look after my two toddler children

I agree Halkyut. The thought that you actually need to say "come now" is surprising to me as is the idea that you wouldn't be there as a parent in this situation unless you absolutely couldn't possibly get there.

Reminds me of the reverse thread where the mother of the child was having a day with friends (weekend) had met for brunch, was texted by her DP who was at casualty with a child with broken limb, and didn't leave until later in the evening and didn't go to the hospital.

Number of posters who said the father should be able to cope and she WNBU in not going. Bit of double standards. Don't get me wrong, he should have gone if he could, I can't imagine not going if it were my child, and I said the same on the other thread too.

If it was just the baby with the broken leg, then no need to rush immediately-certainly keep in touch and make plans to leave if necessary. But baby with broken leg and two pre schoolers? That's drop everything if remotely possible.

If a friend put a Facebook status about being in A&E in this situation I'd offer to go and get the little ones if I could........

Wow, I have no idea how you could enjoy a brunch knowing that your child was in hospital with a broken limb!