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MIL comment about my cooking

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AlexVause82 · 13/08/2014 16:43

Sunday I invited DP's mother over for Sunday lunch, peeled and chopped all the veg, everything my self. Had it waiting for her on arrival, I then made Eton Mess - her absolute favourite.

After dinner we put on some DVD's and all sat on sofa watching them, a nice afternoon.

Then DP's brother came round and had some desert etc I went into living room and I could hear DP's mum saying "Oh it was lovely, in spite of the frozen veg"

IT WAS NOT FROZEN!

My DP jokingly ripped into her "Ommmmm Alex is going to be so pissed" etc etc

Is this insulting?

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BlahBlahYeahYeah · 13/08/2014 16:45

I'd have walked in and said breezily 'the veg was all fresh actually'. Why didn't your dp say so anyway ?

Anyway, it's besides the point. She sounds like an ungrateful cow to be honest.

YouTheCat · 13/08/2014 16:45

It's very fucking rude!

Mrsgrumble · 13/08/2014 16:47

Horrible ungrateful woman. She'd be waiting for a long time eat at mine again. My mil would never do this. Even if I make her toast she is grateful. My own mother would criticise though.

LisaMed · 13/08/2014 16:48

Frozen is usually fresher and with less loss of nutrition than the stuff that you buy in the produce section of the supermarket

TryDrawing · 13/08/2014 16:48

A similar comment from my mil was the straw that broke the camel's back after a stressful day. It ended up with dh and I excusing ourselves subtly to the next room, where I ended up saying "You sort the lot of them out or they'll be WEARING MY FUCKING GRAVY".

Oddly enough, after we returned to the table, they were impeccably behaved for the rest of the weekend, and very complimentary about my cooking :D

I suppose it's just possible that they heard me shrieking at the top of my voice from the next room

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AlexVause82 · 13/08/2014 16:50

My DP did tell her it was fresh, MIL is an odd ball.

This is a week after me walking into the kitchen and her telling me I have put on weight. DP shouted at her and she said "well she's part of teh family now, i'm not saying shes fat, just that shes put on weight!"

Dear lord

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OneLittleToddleTerror · 13/08/2014 16:51

It's definitely insulting. No way to treat someone who's just cooked her dinner. Besides frozen veg isn't bad for you at all.

dawnlight · 13/08/2014 16:52

Next time she comes for dinner do a special portion of frozen mixed veg.
Just for her.

OneLittleToddleTerror · 13/08/2014 16:52

Gosh, just missed your latest post on putting on weight. I think you'll need a thick skin with that one if you intend to stay with your DP. And let your DP knows you aren't happy about it so at least he won't join in the 'jokes'. (Even if he doesn't defend you).

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AlexVause82 · 13/08/2014 16:53

Oh no, not at all. I have nothing against frozen veg!

It just seems like such a pointless thing to say!

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MollyHooper · 13/08/2014 16:53

Ergh, she sounds like one of those people. Does she pride herself on telling it like it is. Alex?

There is simply no reason good enough for that sort of unkindness.

SanityClause · 13/08/2014 16:55

Ha! Once my MIL sat down to a lovely roast dinner I had cooked and said "Aaaahhh, Bisto!"

Of course it was homemade gravy, and she knew it, because we have discussed how I always try to cook from scratch.

I just gave what, in books, is called a "tight little smile" and left her to it.

Let her show it's upset you, and she wins.

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AlexVause82 · 13/08/2014 16:56

Yeah I don't think she means harm, I have seen her be scathing and know she can be. There are tons of things I could tell you but I haven't got the time!

DP takes her with a pinch of salt but does tell her when she is wrong.

Recently went on holiday with DP, SIL, MIL etc and MIL argues with her 9 year old grandaughter constantly..

MIL called GD a "little fat bitch" as soon as she said it she knew she was wrong, probably forgot sshe was talking to a child. DP went absolutely nuts

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AlexVause82 · 13/08/2014 16:57

Does she pride herself on telling it like it is. Alex

Oh yes! I just smile and nod, apparently she likes me a lot. I'd hate to be on the wrong side of her..

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OneLittleToddleTerror · 13/08/2014 16:59

Alex I don't mean you are against frozen veg. But the way she phased it (from your OP), sounds to me like an insult. As in she meant it as an insult.

Gruntfuttock · 13/08/2014 17:03

"MIL called GD a "little fat bitch""

That is disgusting! What on earth's the matter with her? It seems it's her that's the bitch in the family!

YouTheCat · 13/08/2014 17:04

My ex mil called my dd a bitch once. I have never been so utterly livid in my life.

Gruntfuttock · 13/08/2014 17:04

What did she say when your "DP went absolutely nuts" about that btw?

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AlexVause82 · 13/08/2014 17:06

She told DP to shut their mouth and squared up.
Dp said she wasnt prepared to sit back and watch her bully her neice.

It all got heated and we all went seperate ways for a few hours. We later went home early

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Gruntfuttock · 13/08/2014 17:11

"She told DP to shut their mouth and squared up"

Shock I'm practically speechless.

OnlyLovers · 13/08/2014 17:19

Cow. For everything, but most of all for 'fat little bitch'.

She would not darken my door again for a very long time if it were me.

BarbarianMum · 13/08/2014 17:54

Having read your posts I think her comments about your veg are the least of your worries.

ShakeYourTailFeathers · 13/08/2014 17:55

God, she sounds awful.

dawnlight · 13/08/2014 20:46

Actually, I think you should only serve her tinned veg from now on.

Poofus · 13/08/2014 20:53

She sounds awful. What does your DP get out of the relationship with her mother?