If you did a 2 hour round trip as a favour for some one

[OnlyWantsOne]

If you had to drive an hour (and obviously an hour back) to pick some ones child up. Look after them for a weekend and drop them back again (and other 2 hours in the car for me) so they could work or as I suspect go out - would you expect perhaps an offer of £10 towards diesel / feeding their child for 2 days?

YANBU

it's a big favour to ask.

Are you likely to be asked to do this again?

depends on your relationship to the child concerned and why you offered to do it without discussing recompense first...

Without outing me I can't explain to deeply however I have met the mother once and never met the child before I collected them.

The mother is a friend of a relation of mine.

I was asked my relation to do this.

Asked by my relation*

You did this for someone you don't know and they didn't even gush like a geyser with thanks and flowers

You're very kind. A doormat , but kind.

So you have never met the child, the mother has met you once and is happy for you to look after her child for a whole weekend?

I think there is more going on here than the petrol money.

Were you asked as a favour? I don't think I'd expect cash but a thank you & a bottle of wine would be nice.

Yes she should have offered, that would have been the decent thing. If you were not happy she dident, don't do it again.

So a stranger?

Yes, you should have been offered money and/or wine, chocs etc.

You have done this or been asked to do this ?

I think you're too nice Only, be careful they don't 'use' you

is this a step-family thing - because I just can't imagine anyone being asked by a third party to look after a stranger's child who they have never met before for a whole weekend an hour way from home. sorry...

I wouldn't expect anything given the info here, and would let it go this time.

However, I would not do it again.

It's a big ask, you were very kind, the mother should have praised you and given you something. I personally wouldent do it again!

Don't do it.

Depends on who child it i s. If dsis and dn I'd be there in a shot... No one else despite dn (aged 5) promising me a loom band... Still waiting but got lovely drawing of a house I'd never own...

I wouldn't expect a stranger to act as a nanny/babysitter for a whole weekend without payment.

You are a nice person, and that's an understatement
Don't ever say yes to the ungrateful sod again.

Yes. Yes I would.

Dp was very sceptical about saying yes at all. I really wanted to help out my relation so said yes to "baby sitting" then promptly discovered it was in fact collecting and looking after at my house... then dropping home the child.

Child had a lovely time we baked and did loom bands pretty much all day watching films. I however am knackered and have a poorly child in the house of my own.

I know I have no back bone... my family clearly knows this too.

The mother is living with my relative at the moment with the child and apparently they couldn't use the normal baby sitter.

I just thought it was a bit off to not offer even some thing to cover the fuel to run around collecting and dropping off.

Someone asked a stranger (you) to look after their child for a weekend? That's bonkers, the poor kid! Something very odd going on here.

It all sounds a bit odd, without knowing more of the background it's impossible to tell you what would be reasonable in this situation.

Had you met the child before?

Why couldn't you look after the child at your Aunts? Why couldn't your Aunt look after the child?