To think friend did not actually turn up

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Friend of many years who is not the most reliable asked if she could come round and give DS his birthday present as she could not come to his party two weeks ago (texted me two hours into it so say she could not come). She was also coming to see me as she knows the issues I am having with soon to be ex husband

So she was meant to be coming round today but did not give a time. Six o clock came and I texted to say are you still coming? Got a text back to say she came at four but I did not answer.

I have been in with DS all day, car in drive and out telly that you can see from the door would have been on. She obviously knows my house phone number and mobile. I am thinking she did not come round and is now makin excuses.

Good for you OP - call it like it is.

And mindthegap - your friends let you waste your birthday waiting for them, knowing fine they weren't going to show up, which is pretty despicable.
Moving house is nothing to do with it - it's just selfishness.

Thanks pictish! It was a shame as she was one ov mh bridesmaids - completely NC with her now!

People only tell lies like this if they know the person they are lying to is too polite to challenge them. Tear her a new one!

bauer - absolutely. We are very bound by polite social convention not to confront - and it sometimes allows people to get away with murder. And rubbish lies. They assume no one will be bold enough to call it for what it is.

I'm well chuffed that the OP did btw.
It's a shit social convention. We should be far more blunt about this sort of treatment.

It is insulting to be lied to so transparently.

I hope she feels really shitty now. Good on you!

pictish yes it is insulting. Reminds me of the time my ex.friend told me she couldn't attend my birthday celebration in a certain place as she had been told by a doctor that she wasn't to drink alcohol or drive. We were sat in the pub at the time, she was sipping a wkd and her car was in the car park.