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To think friend did not actually turn up

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Topsyturvey09 · 10/08/2014 18:50

Friend of many years who is not the most reliable asked if she could come round and give DS his birthday present as she could not come to his party two weeks ago (texted me two hours into it so say she could not come). She was also coming to see me as she knows the issues I am having with soon to be ex husband

So she was meant to be coming round today but did not give a time. Six o clock came and I texted to say are you still coming? Got a text back to say she came at four but I did not answer.

I have been in with DS all day, car in drive and out telly that you can see from the door would have been on. She obviously knows my house phone number and mobile. I am thinking she did not come round and is now makin excuses.

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Madeyemoodysmum · 10/08/2014 21:38

Lying.

TalisaMaegyr · 10/08/2014 21:41

Have you had a reply?

Darquesse · 10/08/2014 21:51

Definitely lying!

ChasedByBees · 10/08/2014 21:56

I think in OP's position, I wouldn't mind so much if the friend just apologised and said that she forgot, but lying about it would be a deal breaker.

Frogisatwat · 10/08/2014 22:08

Place marking for reply. .

Ohhelpohnoitsa · 10/08/2014 22:13

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believeintheshield · 10/08/2014 22:40

Sounds like those delivery men who leave a card when you've been in all day! Has she replied yet?

NoArmaniNoPunani · 10/08/2014 22:42

What a pathetic thing to lie about

cerealqueen · 10/08/2014 22:48

Nope, she's lying, why not phone!

cleanasawhistle · 10/08/2014 22:51

A family member said they had been to my house with Easter Eggs but there was nobody in so she took them away again.She said she wouldn't be able to come another day as she was busy so we would have to go to her.
I told her we had been in all day.
She said when I didn't get an answer I went and tried the side door but it was locked.
I knew she was lying because we had scaffolding up on the gable end and she wouldn;t have been able to get to the door.

TheReluctantCountess · 10/08/2014 22:57

That's one friend to dump.

GertrudeBell · 10/08/2014 23:24

Does she work for Citylink? Grin

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Topsyturvey09 · 11/08/2014 00:02

Sorry ladies have not had chance to reply before no as have been up with DS
She replied saying she ran up to the door while her partner waited in car and knocked but then it started to rain and she rushed back to the car!!
I replayed reminding her that I had been in the garden with DS at that time (porky but never mind). She said she must have have got the times mixed up and she checked with her partner and it was actually about 2 when they called.
She really forgotten to be lier you need a good memory as she had posted a pick of her in blackpool at 2pm saying "just been to the airshow and now having a wander round blackpool!!!!

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LoveIsAnOpenDoor · 11/08/2014 00:06

Gertrude Grin

I'd get rid.

VanitasVanitatum · 11/08/2014 00:06

Screenshot and send back as your reply!!

Aeroflotgirl · 11/08/2014 00:07

Gosh what a case she is! I would have told her that you know she lied and just to tell the truth.

Chiana · 11/08/2014 00:17

A friend who'll lie to you isn't much of a friend. Can you gradually distance yourself, OP?

FannyFifer · 11/08/2014 00:22

Aww that's not good at all.

Maryz · 11/08/2014 00:29

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Gruntfuttock · 11/08/2014 00:38

She's no friend, OP. That's just insulting your intelligence.

EverythingCounts · 11/08/2014 00:41

It's like the folks on Big Brother who always seem surprised to be told they've been filmed. Hilarious FB mess-up. I would just drop any attempts at contact now, don't respond. If she asks why, you can tell her why. I'd take a screenshot of the FB page just to remind yourself.

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Topsyturvey09 · 11/08/2014 06:07

To tell you the truth she has always been like this so have distanced myself more and more over he years but I think this is the final straw. I just sent a message back saying "oh never mind, it's a shame we did not get to catch up but at least you had a good time in blackpool as shown on your Facebook"
She has not replayed :)

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mindthegap79 · 11/08/2014 06:40

How very rubbish! Good on you OP. I had a friend like this. A group of us arranged to go on holiday together to my inlaws' place. For ages she was very vague about dates, but she'd said she was coming so we didn't invite other friends who could have come in her place. They were meant to arrive on my birthday, and we waited in all day for them, but they never came. They ignored all our messages. That night they texted to say they weren't coming for some lame excuse. It was a flight away so they'd known all along. I doubt they'd even booked flights. A couple of days later I noticed they'd tagged themselves on Facebook at the Olympic boat racing on the very day - my birthday - when we waited in all day for them. Gits.

mindthegap79 · 11/08/2014 06:43

In fairness, they'd just moved house and had a lot on their plates. We'd have understood if they'd said they weren't coming - it's the lying which I hate.

fuzzpig · 11/08/2014 06:50

I can forgive the flakiness to some extent but the lying is inexcusable IMO