to just want them to be pleased for us?

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we are pg. dc5 is on the way and dh's family have been informed. Not one of them have said congratulations

we were ttc. they knew that. we can afford baby. we want the baby. is it too much to expect them to be happy for us?

Congratulations

Perhaps they think the congratulations is obvious, if they've been happy about the previous 4? Are there any siblings to your husband who are maybe having issues with fertility or pregnancy? Maybe there has been bad news there and they feel conflicted about another pregnancy for their son? Health issues for them? I'm not trying to minimize your feelings, just trying to say, it may not be that they are not not 'happy' if you get me. Anyway congratulations and enjoy your pregnancy!

5! How wonderful! Congratulations

mil said we must be mad.

no, dhs sis has two children and sent her dh.for the chop pretty sharpish after the birth of the second.

Oh. Well, I would just put it out of your minds for now and wait and see how they are further along.

5 wow.... Congratulations by the way. X

Congratulations - lovely news!

How much do they help out with the existing 4?

You say you can afford no 5 , but will you be able to afford to give them good opportunities when they are teenagers? A room each, music lessons? school residential trips, help with university costs?

Huge congrats dances, 5 is a lovely no of kids - great fun to be had by all, and lots of little helpers for you.

We got the same response from FIL when we announced DC5s pregnancy, and were told this was to be the last.... Well actually, will be breaking some more news to them in a few weeks

It's a tricky one
If they're the sort of grandparents who want to out away for their grandchildren it does cost them more
Plus more Xmas & birthday presents, new baby present christening present
If they want to treat everyone to a meal / holiday for a significant birthday
If you always spend Xmas together
All these things do impact on the wider family

But still congrats!!

Oh yes, if you can't afford music lessons and their own bedrooms for your children, then, really, their lives are barely worth living...

Congratulations.

I think 5 sounds fab.

they dont help at all. in fact mil and fil walk past our gate daily to see sils kids but dont even pop in to see ours. when dd1 was born they were all over her (first grandhild) but once sil had her kids they quickly lost.interest. it used to bother dd1. not so much now.

my children dont go without and never will.

Congrats op!

Queen, my kids do not have a room each. Does them no harm at all. They do have music lessons and I hope they are supported by us to reach their full potential. As an only child I would have loved to live in a house with 4 siblings, the friendship, camaraderie and potential for mischief is huge!!

Parakeet

Well, congratulations from me!

When we announced we were having DS1, my MIL didn't say much apart from 'oooh', and my FIL stared off into the distance and wouldn't look at the scan picture.

Even better, when my DS1 arrived, my FIL brought my MIL over to meet her first grandchild and sat outside in the car, refusing to come in.

When we announced we were having DS2, again, my FIL stared off into the distance, and my BIL did the same. Not a word of anything.

Odd family, and no, I can't explain their reactions.

my dcs all have music lessons. all have extra curricular activities. they share bedrooms but they want to.

ILs do nothing with the children. tbh that doesn't bother me.

thanks for all your congratulations though. means a lot

Congratulations op

Uuf, every human being coming into this world deserves to be received with pleasure. I mean that is horrible of your ILs not to congratulate you. This could be the most wonderful person who has ever lived being born.