to charge DS for his keep

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DS has just been offered his first job. He has had 6 years at University 4 living at home and 2 living in a city 150 miles away. He has managed to complete this without a student loan but has had a PT job and DH and l funded the rest (In Scotland no tuition fees thankfully) So this job is 2 hours away from where we live and we have decided it is not commutable. He is going to rent a flat and intends to live there Monday-Friday coming back Friday night and leaving Monday morning.
So he will need to pay rent, council tax, all his bills food etc, he will also need to buy a car for this job (not optional).
IABU to expect him to give us money for food and lodgings for the 2-3 days he is home, eating everything is sight and leaving all the lights, tv xbox on?
If IANBU what would be a reasonable amount?

I wouldn't accept money from him.

If he wants he could bring a bag of shopping of the snack he wants to eat, cook the occasional family meal. Bring something nice from a local producer, or farmer.

Good luck to him.

You could say to him he is very welcome but he cant eat you out of house and home he is an adult he cant act like a teenager anymore.

Sicaq l pay or rather DH pays for his Iphone as living in the great oil city in Scotland as a student was really expensive. We paid for his flat, food and phone--the money he earned went on travel clothes (not many) and any activities he did. His costs were high. But now when he is earning he can take that over as of next month.
Thanks everyone as l said he will not be paying to stay here ever!!!! But a wee carry out on a Friday would not go amiss.

You are right he needs to treat you now and then maybe when he starts earning he will realise all you did for him when he is paying his own bills tbh id stop paying his phone bill