fucking selfish childfree friend

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I was supposed to be meeting my friend at 8 for a night out and catch up as we've not seen each other for ages.

I was out with the 7 year old until 5, I've helped to make dinner, cleaned up, tried to feed the baby twice, got the baby to bed, expressed some milk for baby, got ready to go out for 8pm.

I'm a bit reluctant to about leaving baby as he's poorly and not really feeding very well but arranged this night out a while ago and looking forward to it.

Friend texted me at 7.30 to say she was running late and would 8.30 be ok. I said fine, she's still not bloody here (she's picking me up in a taxi).

I wouldn't mind be she has no fucker else to look after but herself, she's probably just been fannying about with her outfit or something.

And I wanted to get back kind of earlyish ie. 11pm not 1pm so I could try to feed the baby before bed.

She has form for this sort of thing, but I always forgive her because of course she doesn't appreciate what it's like having kids. I'm just VERY ANNOYED ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHhhhh

Hey OP come back and tell us the reason why she was late please. I'm laying money on it not being family emergency/selfless act of heroism/zombie apocalypse.

Disclaimer: I have no money so this is a pointless bet

Bollocks Float. Stop guilt mongering.

I've also had many an evening out cancelled / changed to 'look, they've got a stinker of a cold / temperature / cob on - any chance we can do a few bottles a glass in my kitchen?

I swear to god, I spent most of my Saturday nights in my best mates kitchen when her kids were between zero and eight. And whilst it may be the sodding reason I'm single 10 years later may not have been my idea of a wild night out, I didn't really care because I was seeing the person I cackle best with in the world.

In return, she's had to accept me saying 'sorry - I'm going to be in the office till 10pm. Can I owe you a bottle of decent fizz?' And we both accept it. Coz it's what mates do, innit?

The attitude of 'tell the bitch' makes me when it comes to mates.

I'm assuming by now that your friend has arrived and you're hopefully having a good time. I think it's fair enough to be annoyed, it is frustrating when people waste your time. All I see you doing here is just releasing your frustration, we all need to do that sometimes.

TheFence, those without kids can have family emergencies you know.

I don't think the OP is calling all child free people selfish, more that her friend is child free and selfish.

Yes I know that single thanks.

thisfence then the tread title would be 'fucking selfish friend'. The fact the friend is child free has been made the point of the post.

Then why the disparaging remark?

Well she only mentions the child free thing twice. She also mentions her friend has form being late.

Anyway, I was just making a joke before about the reason for being late. I see I have offended people.....

Some people are chronic latecomers whether they have half a dozen kids or none. I agree with tell her she needs to be on time when you next meet up. It is a bit annoying being ready and waiting nearly an hour for somebody to arrive.

Fair enough ThisFence

YABU, childless people can be busy and have a lot on too you know. I think when some people have kids they think they have a special right to things like being late and being in a hurry.

But Fence I was going to take on that bet, I was putting my money on zombie apocalypse.

Yabu. Whether or not she has kids is not important. It's the latest. Yabu to think just because she doesn't have kids she been on time. Stop judging. However her as a person being late is rude and I'd say that for someone with 6 kids, 10 arms etc....

By Float:

'you sound quite young to me'

Tbh you sound quite old Float.

should you really be going out tonight if your child is ill?

Mum, is that you??

And bestowed upon to them was a father, who hence forth was perfectly fucking capable of looking after his ill child.

"She does know DS is ill, and that we're going out local in case I need to come back"

Sounds like a "selfish childfree friend" to me (sarcasm emote)