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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to think 2 yrs is too young?

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BunnyPotter · 05/08/2014 15:39

My 2 year old has been invited to a party (small outing) by a mother of his friend in the crÃ¨che. We don't know her other than sight and neither does he. There will be three 2 year olds and two adults (their baby sitter who DS nor us have met). Parents are very, very strictly not invited! They are going to an attraction within a mile from home, taking public transport.

AIBU to think that it's strange for the parents of a 2 year old not to come?

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Happy36 · 06/08/2014 23:59

Can you invite them for a playdate before the party? Sounds like they have arranged something really special for the birthday but maybe not thought it through properly.

mumminio · 07/08/2014 00:14

YANBU. Could it be something to raise with the crèche? It does seem very, very odd. Perhaps let the other mothers know you won't be sending your child to their weird party.

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BunnyPotter · 07/08/2014 07:38

This current party is a leaving party, so it kind of helps. I've just said that I'm afraid he won't be able to go after all and if she says anything else I'll say why.

With the zoo, I'm not sure why she'd be trying to help me out when she really doesn't know me, but maybe she was. Strange though!

Anyway, nice to know I'm not being unreasonable!

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Messygirl · 07/08/2014 07:40

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Aeroflotgirl · 07/08/2014 07:57

No way, how do they think it's ok to not invite the parents of a toddler to the party with them! At that age it is natural for chikdren to be accompanied by the parents, it would have to be a no.

Lepaskilf · 07/08/2014 08:10

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EarthWindFire · 07/08/2014 08:16

I can't see anything that she has said that says that parents strictly aren't invited though?

Maybe she thought she was saving you time and money by taking DC in their car?

Aeroflotgirl · 07/08/2014 08:19

Offer to meet at the zoo with ds and go round with them

FrankSaysNo · 07/08/2014 08:23

Now you have expanded the situation out, I cant see what's wrong with what she is suggesting. It makes perfect sense. Im afraid I wouldn't be wanting to pay for train tickets and entertaining them, when I could happily strap them in the car and get there in half the time with no long walk or bus from the station needed.

The main point is that you are not comfortable with it, so it isnt happening. End of.

diddl · 07/08/2014 08:33

The kids go to a creche together?

So it's not totally off the wall to think that OPs son might be OK without him?

I also think that the way it came about makes sense-she's offering to drive him rather than you fuss on the train.

It's not what you want, so you've declined.

No problems.

Thurlow · 07/08/2014 10:51

Now you've explained a bit more, if I am understanding it right, it sounds a little less strange. She is taking her son to the zoo and has essentially offered to take yours as well?

I'm still not sure if I would be happy with anyone bar very close friends taking our toddler out for the day - but the suggestion reads more as "would your DS like to come to the zoo with us one day" than "I want to throw a party without any adults around."

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