to think 2 yrs is too young?

[BunnyPotter]

My 2 year old has been invited to a party (small outing) by a mother of his friend in the crèche. We don't know her other than sight and neither does he. There will be three 2 year olds and two adults (their baby sitter who DS nor us have met). Parents are very, very strictly not invited! They are going to an attraction within a mile from home, taking public transport.

AIBU to think that it's strange for the parents of a 2 year old not to come?

No way. Like others, my 2yo is in childcare, regularly stays overnight with family members - but I still wouldn't do this. Three two year olds and one adult on public transport? How does that work? What about buggies and the like?

I'm as laid back as they come but there is no way I would be accepting this invite.

Yanbu. Far too young.

As others have said, no way on earth would I let that happen. There is only one person who isn't a relative that I would trust to take my dd away for the day/activity/outing whatever. And she is a very good friend of mine, I have known her years, she knows my dd very well and my dd knows her well and is comfortable with her. Also they have spend a lot of time together and I have seen her interact with my dd and know that she would be safe and well looked after.

Is your DS still in nappies? Some random I don't know changing my baby's nappy? No thanks! And what everyone else said about him not wanting to go off with complete strangers for the afternoon.

YANBU. I can't believe the child's mother would even think this is a good idea.

When DS was 2, he had "friends" at baby group, i.e. I would chat to the mum while DS played alongside the children. That doesn't mean he would have been happy being left alone with them and the mother all day! It's not like school age children who make friends and are excited to be on an outing with them!

Two is way too young. Most would be really upset. The child's mum obviously isn't thinking about how it would feel from the other parents and children's perspective. She's going to be there so her child will be happy. She needs to realise that none of the other children will so it will be a pretty shit day for all concerned!

YANBU - very weird - i wouldn't let this happen but think the mum must be bonkers for even considering it. DS would be awful with strangers too!
Why is she saying not adults?

I think the party mother is quite, quite insane - two year olds? public transport? party? No other adult helpers?

Trust me, she is off her wagon wheels with this.

Compromise, white lie, you meet her at the venue and just dont leave!

Or

Its no big issue at two, your child doesnt know what a party is or whether he's missed one, and the birthday boy hasnt got a clue what a birthday is so dont go!

Parents are very, very strictly not invited!

I'm curious as to how this odd condition was worded?!

I'd decline the invitation and give a truthful explanation. Maybe then, the parents will ask you to come. If they don't then don't let your child go.

There is no way on earth I would agree to t

At 2 my children wouldn't have gone, or 3 or 4
My 5 year old wouldn't be going either and I would have doubts about my 9 year old going if I didn't know the family at all

Argh!

no way I'd agree to this. DD is 2.3 & while she appears very confident & outgoing, she would have a horrific tantrum if & when she discovered there was no one there she knew. And she is big for her age and can run very fast for 2.3.

Er my son just started school last year and all the parents still stayed with them at birthday parties

Weird. Maybe for a 5 or 6 year old, but not a toddler.

So 2 year old, no way

Nope. DD is 4.5 and went to a pre-school friends house for a party at the weekend. ALL the parents stayed.

DS is only just now being dropped off at 7.5

I have a 2 year old.

He wouldn't be going on this. He wouldn't mind but I would. Especially the idea of 2 strangers coping with 3 2 years olds on public transport. DS is a handful and I can't imagine wrangling 3 of him on a bus and around an attraction.

I am pretty chilled but this would be a "no" from me.

Absolutely no way and I would let them know why. If parebts were allowed but had to pay their own way, I would have no problem with that. But I would not let my child go under the current circumstances.

Not sure if this will post, but I'm on a dodgy connection and I can't read all the comments (can only get to 16.19). Will try again tomorrow.

Oh it's worked and now I can see the rest.

Vivi Pru. I can't really give details, however, she did ask, about two months ago, if DS would like to go to the zoo with her son because they go regularly. I said that'd be lovely and then asked how they normally got there - I asked if it was by train (I don't drive and forget others do and it's a good half hour on a motorway). She said by car, so I suggested train would work better for us as I don't drive. She said she'd drive "him". I thought I'd misheard and then I was a bit confused, because that'd be car seats for the boys and 10 month old DD (it was a weekday suggestion and I'm a SAHM with no help). I then suggested we could all take the train and she said it was fine, she could just take DS car seat in her car and she'd bring him back after the zoo - and I could have a relaxed afternoon. I was in the middle of telling her that DS naps in the afternoon when her phone rang and she had to go. That was the first proper conversation I'd ever had with her! I bumped into her again, but never mentioned it.

How weird, not a chance. My 3 year old wouldn't be happy with the idea, can't imagine my 18 month old wanting to do it in 6 months time either.

Are you sure she wasn't just thinking she was doing you a favour?

I would be honest and say DS is not ready to go without us but I have a zoo pass and am happy to bring him. Don't justify any further, just leave it there and see what she says.