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To expect my adult DC to have forgotten about stupid shit I did when they were little?

53 replies

Mozzereena · 03/08/2014 21:10

....especially when I had completely forgotten about it as it was back in 2001?
We were sat having tea tonight when eldest dd was asking me about the pain of giving birth to her 9lb5oz little brother 5 years ago.
"was that the worst pain ever mum?"
"No darling, the worst pain ever was when I had that abscess on my tooth 13 years ago, you and dd2 looked after me"
"Oh yes mum, I remember that - you were constantly smoking antibiotics, me and dd2 knew you were lying - I wonder if dd2 remembers it too?"
At this I nearly choked on my wine! I had forgotten ALL about that! I just remember being in the most horrendous pain and DH a good friend suggested that a bit of skunk for medicinal purposes would be fine. I never forgot the pain experience but completely forgot about taking illicit drugs in front of my beloved DDs. I have always been very vocal to them about my opposition to illicit drug taking for either recreational or 'medicinal' reasons. I just wonder how they kept a straight face all these years.
Let this be a warning to you - just because you have forgotten doesn't mean your DC have.

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FlossyMoo · 03/08/2014 23:14

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Shardlakelover · 03/08/2014 23:22

I'm pretty sure that by 2001, it wasn't deemed acceptable (by most people) to smoke in front of your kids! But you have my sympathy, tooth absess sounds horrific.

HappySeaTurtles · 03/08/2014 23:32

Kids remember everything. My mom conveniently "forgets" what she did when we were younger too. It's all stuff she's embarrassed about, as she should be.

samesizetoes · 03/08/2014 23:37

So, did it help with the pain?

wrapsuperstar · 03/08/2014 23:41

Having recently experienced my first real dose of tooth pain (possibly an abscess; antibiotics certainly helped somewhat, eventually), YANBU in the slightest. That shit hurts. Worse than childbirth, worse than recovering from a hell of an emergency c-section, like nothing I've ever felt. I think I too traumatised my kids from being in such desperate agony. Would've tried skunk if I could've got hold of some.

MagicMojito · 03/08/2014 23:44

Grin clearly you should be ashamed of yourself OP.

MagicMojito · 03/08/2014 23:46

Grin clearly you should be ashamed of yourself OP.

SolidGoldBrass · 03/08/2014 23:47

Cannibis is an analgesic. That's what it's actually for. So taking it for pain relief is entirely reasonable.

FlossyMoo · 04/08/2014 00:00

I agree SGB regarding the properties of the drug however it is the smoking of the it in front of the children that I find hideous.

JudysPriest · 04/08/2014 00:02

Agreed SGB. DH takes it for his pain sometimes and I sometimes join him. For me the odd joint is no worse than drinking wine at the weekend. We don't do it in front of DS. But when there's a parent who's sober enough to be responsible for the children and the OP is in a huge amount of pain, then meh.

This thread reminds me of the drinking when children are in the house thread. Apparently it was ridiculous to always have one parent sober in the house in case of emergency. I see no difference between a bottle of wine and a joint, other than legality obviously.

NanooCov · 04/08/2014 00:08

Putting aside the craziness of smoking skunk in front of your kids, I'm surprised you think 2001 was that long ago and your DCs would have forgotten what happened then. I'm 37 and remember a load of stupid shit my parents did when I was a kid (though granted they were never so idiotic to smoke weed in front of me).

SoonToBeSix · 04/08/2014 00:14

Can't believe the moral high ground on this thread. I went to stay with my dsis and I forgot my painkillers( I have chronic pain condition) . She gave me a joint it helped a lot , my two dc were sleeping in the next room . I feel no guilt especially as my prescribed painkillers were stronger opiates.

FlossyMoo · 04/08/2014 00:19

You 2 DC's wee asleep in another room soon which ok.
I understand and have witnessed the pain relief some get from cannabis (aunt with chronic arthritis for over 20 years).

But would you smoke it in front of your DC's and if not why not?

FlossyMoo · 04/08/2014 00:20

You & were. Stupid sticky key board Blush

ThatsNotWhatISaid · 04/08/2014 00:23

I presumed that's why parents take embarrassing photos of their kids. It's like a little insurance policy. They start remembering any stupid shit, I start getting the photos out.

duchesse · 04/08/2014 00:23

The children sound fine and balanced and unfazed. This happened 13 years ago. I've never had a dental abscess and I'm thinking they don't sound good. I think in a choice between smoking pot and topping oneself from pain, the children overall have suffered infinitely less from the weed.

velourvoyageur · 04/08/2014 00:26

Oh wow I guess that's you good and told then OP

Hope you've learned your lesson Hmm

I do wish people would stop with the demonisation of weed. Especially when they've probably not had all that much experience of it.

RonaldMcDonald · 04/08/2014 00:27

Lol

I dread to think what mine will realise when they are older
Lovely pj days snuggling under duvets telling stories & eating crisps cos mum loves to have an indoor camp*

feels a little delicate from being out
Call 101

Lezprechaun · 04/08/2014 00:28

My daughter was born in 2001, definitely not deemed acceptable to smoke around children. I think their age at the time affects how much they remember but if you were in a lot of pain it's most likely a strong memory for them.

RonaldMcDonald · 04/08/2014 00:29

Oh and I have RA. Weed works significantly better than opioids IMO but I no longer have any idea where to get it
That is worse

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CrabbyBlossomBottom · 04/08/2014 00:32

Grin at all the pearl clutching. You've clearly scarred them for life, you wicked pot-head. Wink

velourvoyageur · 04/08/2014 00:33

Maybe people have called 101 here on me before Grin I've done some rawther silly things and posted about them. Under my old nn tho. Possibly there's a dossier down the station with my MN ID on them and they're just waiting to pounce.....

Wouldn't smoke around kids ever, passive smoking and all the rest of it does suck, but when you're in the worst pain of your life then I think you can afford to abandon your high morals for a one off!

FlossyMoo · 04/08/2014 00:36

I am not pearl clutching. I have no issues with those that smoke cannabis. Personally I don't like drugs and I don't believe children should see their parents doing something illegal. I also don't know if the children are scarred for life it is not something I commented on.

Tylastar · 04/08/2014 00:36

Oh the drama on this post!

The OP must have done it for what, a week tops!

There's parents out there that smoke weed among many other things every day of that child's life and will continue to.

You're not a terrible person and I don't think you're unreasonable, my mum hates that I remember certain things from my childhood!