to not invite people who can't be arsed congratulating us?

[StarSwirl92]

About a week ago I i asked my boyfriend to marry me. Since then not one member of my family has bothered to say congratulations. No phone calls, no cards, no Facebook. Nada. So when it comes round to the wedding WIBU to not invite a single one of them.

My grandparents and parents have been the only ones to care and I'm tired of doing things for the same of family politics. My dad says fuck them but they're my mother's relatives.

Wait so -

when you told people personally were they pleased for you? Did they say congratulations?

Are you annoyed because people who you haven't personally told haven't contacted you personally to congratulation you?

If this is the case, you are BVU. If my mum or Gran (or whoever) told me one of my cousins was engaged I would probably say oh that's nice! When's the wedding? and then forget all about it until I happened to see or hear from them.

When I announced DH and I were finally going to get married after 18 years together, most people were surprised, because they all thought we were already married. We got mildly congratulated, but more on the lines "what took you so bloody long".

When my sister announced her engagement it was also quite mildly received because they were so in luuuuurve, no one was surprised, it just seemed like a foregone conclusion. Hopefully your family sees it that way, they probably just think that it is "nice" as it crosses the Ts and dots the Is. Maybe that is why hen & stag dos happen, to drum up some excitement....

Congratulations on your engagement!

Are you only 22 though, as your user name suggests? It's shit but I know from experience that people don't tend to take it so seriously.

Sorry I should have said congratulations, I hope everything's lovely for you, but people have an age bias with this stuff, so you need to keep that in mind, even though it's unfair.