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Original poster

*drumroll* I have a super soaker AIBU for you

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supersoakershouter · 02/08/2014 16:22

End of term last week and there was a class beach party (we live on the coast). Me and DS arrived and the kids already there had a variety of water-shooting devices which they were firing at one another, including a couple of super soakers. Tacit rule seemed to be to soak one another (they're all in swimwear) but not the adults who were sitting outside one parent's beach hut, fully clothed, drinking tea.

DS then decided to go to play in the sea with his body board which was quite a distance off so I moved to sit on the edge of the prom in front of the beach hut, finishing my tea before I jumped down onto the beach to follow him (I couldn't see him properly from the deckchair).

As I sat there, one boy fired his super soaker at my back. His mum said 'darling, don't fire your gun at the mums' and he laughed and did it again. I turned and made a cross face at him and he did it again. I was then absolutely drenched front and back. So I shouted at him, really loudly.

His mum said nothing apart from the first 'darling ...' which he just ignored. I did shout a bit too loudly but the water was freezing and I really, really didn't want him to do it again.

The kid looked shocked but stopped. I apologised to his mum for shouting and explained that the water was really cold and it was a shock and she didn't really respond. Since then, I've texted to apologise again for shouting but she's not replied. Was IBU? Am I going to be a social pariah when school starts again?

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CoffeeTea103 · 02/08/2014 16:24

Yanbu, I don't know why you even apologized. The mother should have been apologizing to you! Awful behaviour from that child.

Clarinet9 · 02/08/2014 16:25

No not at all (shame you didn't take the super soaker and soak her and the brat too)

I thought super soaker was some kid of pre specified AIBU like a humdinger!
wasn't sure I was going to be qualified enough to answer

Muskey · 02/08/2014 16:26

I don't know about being a pariah ( well actually I do but that is another thread altogether) but surely if the child soaked you after his mother told him not to then I think YANBU to tell the little shit off.

AgentZigzag · 02/08/2014 16:26

YWNBU, try not to read anything into her not texting back yet, that could be for a million reasons.

I think the one apology would have done tbh, anything more and she'll maybe start to think you were more OTT than you actually were.

He was over excited and trying it on and she shouldn't have left it to you to tell him to pack it in.

TeamEdward · 02/08/2014 16:27

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Original poster
supersoakershouter · 02/08/2014 16:28

Have you not read the super soaker thread Clarinet? I think it's in classics.

I apologised because I really shouted at him. I don't think I've ever lost my temper with someone else's kid before. He looked really shocked. I went from 0-60

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PittTheYounger · 02/08/2014 16:29

What did you shout? Oi fuckwit?

PittTheYounger · 02/08/2014 16:29

I loved that thread. Was best ever

oohdaddypig · 02/08/2014 16:31

What did you shout?

Unless it contained the words "fuck you, you little shit", I'm not sure why you felt the need to apologise!

AgentZigzag · 02/08/2014 16:32

'He looked really shocked. I went from 0-60'

Ah well, no harm done.

You didn't do anything you need to feel bad about, honestly Smile

Unless raising your voice at a child is suddenly off limits too?

If it is my regime discipline and authority is fucked.

Chippednailvarnish · 02/08/2014 16:32

I'd have ripped off his arm holding the super soaker and beaten him with the bloody stump

Far too restrained IMO.

wafflyversatile · 02/08/2014 16:32

I think one apology was probably enough. Did she not respond at all? Give you a look? shrug? Hug her child to her breast and cover his ears?

Are you reading her lack of response as being because she is down the police station reporting you?

TheFairyCaravan · 02/08/2014 16:32

I'd have gone from 0-60 too and I would not have apologised. The mum is being an arse, she should have told the kid off. Don't worry about it, you've done nothing wrong.

Giggling · 02/08/2014 16:33

daddypig hahaha I'm thinking the same..

PittTheYounger · 02/08/2014 16:33

Remember when my h threatened to hit some back of chair kicking eenagers on a long haul flight? Everyone in rl lolled. On mn was collective horror

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supersoakershouter · 02/08/2014 16:33

No, no swearing! I shouted '[His name]! Stop that! NOW!!!'

Apparently I can be quite scary. I texted because it was on my mind. And one of the other mums laughed about it to me a bit later on in a 'Blimey - you really lost your rag back there' way which made me feel they were probably all discussing me after I'd left the prom Blush

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ElephantsNeverForgive · 02/08/2014 16:34

I'd have shouted too and I would not have apologised.

Someone once woke me up from a nice snooze on a beach empty a super soaker over me. I nearly jumped out my skin. They hold a lot of very cold water.

Absolute house rule, you do not soak mum, dad or even your siblings unless they have chosen to be part of the game. It's rude and nasty, apart from the fact that people are likely to have mobiles and expensive electronic car keys in their pockets.

wafflyversatile · 02/08/2014 16:35

I doubt you've scarred him too much.

AgentZigzag · 02/08/2014 16:35

It's OK to lose your rag sometimes, we're not fucking robots (well, I don't anyway Grin)

londonrach · 02/08/2014 16:36

Mum is shamed of him doing that and is unsure what yo do. Why you apologies. He and mum should....

AgentZigzag · 02/08/2014 16:37

Oooh, double whammy of having just woken up and being soaked Elephants, I'd have been raging.

BaronVonShush · 02/08/2014 16:37

Ahem, can someone link to the classics super soaker thread pleeeeeease?

Op, definitely NBU.

PittTheYounger · 02/08/2014 16:38

That was it? Stop that now? Weak man

Slarti · 02/08/2014 16:38

+1 for the arm stump beating thing

Egghead68 · 02/08/2014 16:39

Don't apologise again. Just leave it now. I expect it will all be forgotten by term-time.

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