to not have special kids food at a wedding?

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We are getting married next week, it only just came to my attention that people sometimes have a specific part of the buffet dedicated to "kids food" a friend of mine who is extremely limited in what he eats said "don't worry about doing something special for me I'll just take some food from the kids food section".

We weren't planning on having any "kids food" despite having 20 guests who are children, we have a toddler and he just eats normal food, it didn't really occur to me that there needed to be special kids food, there will be quite a selection of food including some quite plain options like pie and bread/crackers and cheeses.

Aibu to provide the same food for everyone? If we should provide food specifically for the kids what should it be?

My children would be gutted to have a separate "kids" table. A buffet is very child friendly as they can choose what they want. As others have said, plenty of non-fizzy soft drinks (including water).

Enjoy your wedding!

HAppy I think it's quite rude to be furious with anything you're offered as a guest at someone's wedding; your DS's DC may have ended up with roast lamb but the couple will have been billed for those extra meals on the same day...their wedding day. Very rude to make a fuss. I would have shared my meal with my DC as would my DH.

what IS the food you are offering?
Foie Gras or roast chicken?

I have never been to a wedding where there is a children's buffet. I'm sure that's not the norm/ to be expected.

I'm a really fussy eater but I would never expect a bride and groom to cater for that on their wedding day. I always just have the veggie option and I either eat it or I don't, though I've always managed to eat something.
The food you are putting on sounds lovely and you really don't need to do anything else! Even I would manage to find loads to eat.

Is your friend a fussy eater by choice or because of medical issues?

A friend of mine refused to eat mango because it was 'foreign' but once she had a nibble after much face scrunching, she really liked it.

Carry on with your buffet plans but ask if he can eat cheese, crackers, ham etc

Unless it's something like rumballs, kids can eat the same thing as adults. If they don't like it, it's just a few hours and you can fill up on booze and eat when you get home. :)

Baguette and ham, would delight my fusspot (unless it's insanely strong adult ham, which is unwise as my parents and DSIS wouldn't eat that either)

Simply having a bowl with a few apples and bananas may be a life saver for a poor hassled Mum.

The trouble with buffettes is some modern caterers seem totally petrified of providing anything plain simple and recognisable. All salads must be dressed, sandwiches all have complex mixed fillings and various plates of unrecognizable indian party bits, that may or may not be spiced. Interesting at a interview lunch where you don't want to suddenly bite into something too hot or that you don't like.

I don't think YABU as you're providing crackers and cheese etc but on the other hand, I've never been to function where there wasn't a separate version of the menu for children.

My DD hated plain food when she was little, still does for that matter, so I don't think all the plain food for children will suit everyone. Being small doesn't mean it has to be bland food.

MrsWinnibago I do agree, I'm afraid my children would have been told to make the best of what they had, or shared some of mine, pretty poor lesson to give children that you stamp your feet and get something else.