AIBU to Ask ... Please Settle a Debate with DH - Is He Wrong, or Am I ??

[RockinHippy]

He's insisting, in the interest if fairness I don't say which if us thinks/does which, so bare with me...

When filling the kettle up for a bedtime drink 1 cup coffee pot for an early morning start

Is it normal, or a bit OCD to very carefully use the same mugs to measure out the exact amount of water needed & fill up & boil the kettle with exactly that amount of water

ie, boil only exactly 2 mugs worth of water, to fill 2 half mugs of cocoa & exactly 1 mug full of hot water for the cafetiere

Is this OTT or clever money saving, water saving genius ??

TIA

I'd measure once, but then I would know the approx weight for the other fillings and guesstimate. I would fill for the evening drinks, and refil for the early morning coffee though.

However I do have a hot water thingy as in the previous post, and have had for around 5 years. The kettles takes too long, just press the button and get exactly what you need. They are excellent.

Genius would be measuring it once and then marking the kettle with the appropriate level, thus saving time, electricity and water.

But YABU for asking the question in MN. Do you have FB arguments too?

Well it sounds a bit tragic to be honest.

Not unreasonable to boil what you need.

OTT with the cups imo, but no right or wrong to that as surely it's not a problem for the other person?

Oh thank you madameDefarge thats what i was wondering.

Otherwise, a bit ott? But not a problem if the measurer just gets on with it and doesn't expect the non measurer to measure.

You shouldn't need to measure it out every single night, you should know roughly how much to put in after the first 1 or 2 times. Sure doing it 'roughly' may mean you use slightly too much or too little, but the amount should be negligible (unless you're really bad at measuring by eye).

Agree with many PP. Boiling what you need makes sense. Measuring it so accurately each time doesn't.

Instead if beggaring about using the mugs to measure the water, why not work out how much water is needed using a measuring jug? No more damp mugs, less chance of spillage when tipping water into the kettle, etc.

On second thoughts: you disagree over this?! Find something worthwhile to discuss instead.

Well, I think it's a bit OTT to measure the exact amount, but some people are precise and methodical about stuff, and some people aren't. (My OH and I used to argue a lot about whether he was unreasonable for storing all his books and CDs on the shelf in alphabetical order, or whether I was unreasonable for not doing so.)

I think the thing is, as long as the person who is very precise and methodical doesn't nag the other person for being profligate, it doesn't matter who does what.

Well I think its crazy but I'm totally slapdash at everything I do. DH is the opposite and would measure to the ml if he could but he's a freak.

You can't "be a bit OCD".

It's a real disorder that some people have.

HTH

It is a bit weird i would say. There is no need to overfill the kettle but surely after a while you know approximately how much water is required.

You'd probably save about 3p a week

My OH would say yes, 3p a week x 52 weeks... (Me, I'm thinking it's still not enough to even buy a beer!) but then he does have his splurging moments.

Our kettle is marked for 1 cup and 2 cups. He once tipped away most of the water I had boiling telling me it was too full then asked why I was boiling water when I had a drink anyway - I then told him it was for the litre of stock I needed for the recipe I was cooking. Had he asked!!

Thanks everyone, seems I win - you are right it is DH who us the OTT water measurer - prize for guessing that is &

Though you are also right, I shouldn't have used OCD, I know RL sufferers, so that was flippant of me - late & chronic migraine flare up, so brain not fully in gear! apologies if it offended anyone. Though this has got worse of late & I do worry about him as I know he's very stressed & I've seen him really get to the point of OCD behaviour with water in the past when he wasn't coping - redundancy looming & he's been worked into the ground for a long time now & they are stringing him along like you wouldn't believe, personally I would have told them to stick it by now, as in the current situation, they need him, way more than he does them, yet they still take the pee, but he's not as confident as me with stuff like that :(

To the couple of posters who seem intent on sticking the knife in, for no other reason, than they are hiding behind a screen & they can - Not an argument, please read the OP properly - I used the word debate & I'm pretty sure everyone else got that it's with tongue firmly in cheek, so wind your neck in please, or maybe take up boxing or something to work off that aggression or perhaps get a life

He puts the kettle on & I make a drink for us - so yes it winds me up, especially at night, when I'm feeling ill & ready for bed & as some of you so rightly say, with hard water, steam & also not allowing for coffee grounds - I then have to boil more soddin water to actually have enough, so his idea that it's water/money saving is plain bollocksbut he's having none of it, hence why I posted - but hardly a row & I'm not planning to LTB, amazed anyone would think otherwise from my OP

For those that ask - kettle is a retro styled one, you know, the big chrome dome type things, with arced Bakelite type black handle, which is how we like it - so no water gauge, but even I, who does suffer with spacial awareness trouble at times, can manage to fill it without using a mug & still be reasonably accurate & boil what we need, rather than try & be too clever, waste time & not boil enough

He was so adamant that he was right though, he was definitely having a cocky git moment! even suggesting you would all agree so I shall look forward to showing him this when he gets in later :)

Those that ask, why make the coffee the night before - you are right, wouldn't be my choice either, I like it freshly brewed - but he has a very early work start & thinks just pouring a ready made cold cup of fresh coffee & microwaving it saves him time - daft IMHO, but his own morning routine, so that's up to him.

Thanks again

Hes wasting energy with his measuring (if you need to refill) and with making and then microwaving the coffee.
But it is a control issue, likely manifesting from his stress. Is he tidy?

hackmum sounds like you married his twin! He does that too with music - mind you, I would do it by colour, so I'm just as bad in a different way, but leave him too it as it's his stuff

Sound like you really "get it" - funny old buggers aren't they :)

Wow.

I would walk away and let him make it if he insists on doing it this way, don't get involved, then make myself a fresh cuppa in the morning.

No Amanda though he thinks he is - he is good, does tidy up etc - then I can never bloody find things again still growling over medical missing letters, disappeared since he tidied my notice board

It MUST be your DH doing all the measuring - Surely! What woman would fanny about like this - or would care enough!!!

This is very recent simple - but that will happen, I don't take prisoners, trust me, I will make my own & he can sod off

chocolate nail on head - so true

It must save 10 seconds, at the most.

Give your DH some from me. impending redundancy is awful. Best of kuluck to you both.

Luck

I know roughly how much for one cup or two, and always allow enough for steam, scale etc.

However, my kettle needs a minimum amount in anyway if it's not to boil dry and be ruined. Cost of replacing a kettle is much more than the cost of boiling a teeny extra amount of water.