To think that if you are going to insist on dishing out unwanted parenting advice

[sillysausage712]

You should at least try to do it without being so patronising?

A girl I used to go to school with has recently got in touch with me through FB. she realised I now have a child so the conversation quickly changed to him. we haven't spoken to each other since school so she was asking a lot of questions like "how long have you been with the babies father? I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years I bet that seems soo long to you" I have been with my partner for almost 6 years now...

she asked where I live " oh that must be quite cheap on benefits" yes, I'm sure it would be however I do not claim any benefits.

I was getting pretty miffed at this point so tried to steer the conversation on to herself. she started telling me about her work, she has been helping out in a nursery for 3 days a week for about 2 months now " so if I ever need information or advice I know who to ask" I did the polite thing and gave her a token thank you. A few moments later and I receive a message saying " when little sausage is older you should send him to nursery to develop his 'skills' please don't take this to heart i'm just trying to help because I know a thing or two about what babies/children need"

Now I haven't said anything to suggest he will NOT be going to nursery and if she didn't include the ' please don't take this to heart' crap I don't think I would have been offended.

My child is 8 months old and he is doing just fine, I care for him day in and day out. I really don't think I need parenting advice from a woman who has no children or even younger siblings and only two months of part time childcare experience under her belt.

Am I being too sensitive or would you find this patronising too?

Mine was in jest sorryfor

I wasn't intended to offend, just tongue in cheek

OR she has something like Aspergers. My aspie friend often states the obvious as helpful comments - she means well.

No sezam she's rude, which is an entirely different thing to having Asperger's.

Do you mean well? Are are you just equating rudeness and aspergers with the deliberate intent of being bloody rude yourself?

She's an idiot. I hope she doesn't work at my child's nursery.

You could have some fun tell her an embellished story of your life
She's the kind of nursery worker who pops up on mn slagging off the parents

Sadly there are many like her!

Wow. She's a diamond friend.
Message her back with keeping her man advice.
and once she gets a paying job how to budget

She sounds like a clueless twit. Only stay in touch if you find her stupid comments to be amusing (I would to be honest).

I would be tempted to reply with something along the lines of,

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years I bet that seems soo long to you"
it is a long time..for you...well done!
"oh that must be quite cheap on benefits"
No idea, but I'm sure you have a better idea than me!

"when little sausage is older you should send him to nursery to develop his 'skills"
Already looking at 'little posh kids' (most expensive in the county), you can't put a price on a childs welfare, I wouldn't entertain DC being looked after by just anyone!

But then again I can be a mare!!

I needed a root canal a few weeks back so had to take my 3 week old newborn along as I breastfeed and the whole procedure lasted 1.5 hours. Some woman was there with her (weird) teenage daughter and husband and they kept bickering. She then took a keen interest in the baby and started inundating me with advice, both with the newborn and my own post-natal health, including how I must get my GP to check my sutures, since 13 years later she was still all wrong down below. I thanked her and said i was absolutely fine. She then told me that as a young mum I would be overwhelmed. I said it was my 3rd, but thanks anyway. Then she walked over and started demonstrating how, if you blow on baby's nose, he closed his eyes. She did that repeatedly, with her smoker's breath. I am sure she meant well. Pissed off my husband no end though! Some people live to give advice.

She sounds very limited.

Delete and ignore!

Yy turkish

I can't work out wether she is being a dick or wether she is genuinely trying to be helpful.

I'm swaying towards the former.

She has posted a few times today talking about parents and of course at least 2 posts on how she is just amayyzing and is like the pied piper to children.

If I bite my tongue any harder it's going to fall off.

I was at a friend's house. She has a small baby and I found myself wanting to give advice. I had to mentally tell myself to shut up! It's a natural instinct but we have to remember not everyone wants advice. I think she was just pleased with her job and wanted to share her knowledge. Nothing against you!

That used to be me....until I had my own children

My toes are curling just thinking about it.