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AIBU?

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Original poster

aibu to think you don't do this

40 replies

makkahakka · 30/07/2014 18:49

A mum went out for 3 hours with her younger kids, leaving her 13 yr old playing out without a key to get in. AIBU to think This is wrong?

OP posts:
Pheonixisrising · 30/07/2014 18:52

We'll I wouldn't

SpringBreaker · 30/07/2014 18:53

cant see anything wrong with that at all..

CoffeeTea103 · 30/07/2014 18:54

It depends, was the 13 yo not expected to be home within the 3 hours and if she/he could get hold of the mum if need be then I see no problem.

Abra1d · 30/07/2014 18:54

In this nice sunny weather I can't see a huge problem.

dobedobedo · 30/07/2014 18:55

Maybe they were in contact via mobile. He's 13, I would have stayed out all day at that age. Unless the kid didn't know his mum was out, or didn't want to be left outside, YABU.

I'd probably leave a key, just in case if it were me though.

FrankSaysNo · 30/07/2014 18:55

Depends. On many things.

ShatnersBassoon · 30/07/2014 18:56

I don't know. I don't know the people or the arrangement.

Thomyorke · 30/07/2014 18:56

Depends on the circumstances, trying to entertain DCs with big age gaps is hard especially when teenagers would rather be with their mates and generally are out for hours. I check mine has phone and key but he has still managed to go out without them. I do leave a key with a neighbour but this is meant to be emergency and no guarantee they would be in.

DiaDuit · 30/07/2014 18:57

maybe you don't. others do. and that's ok.

Sleepybunny · 30/07/2014 18:57

Hrmmm don't know. On the one hand it's something my mum would do frequently if I was playing out with friends in the other hand I won't do it to my DC.

ilovesooty · 30/07/2014 18:58

Not enough information to judge one way
or the other.

One the face of it I can't see a problem if the 13 year old knew what was happening and when they'd return .

Interested to know how you're affected by it.

saintlyjimjams · 30/07/2014 18:58

13 year old fine surely?

Dragonlette · 30/07/2014 18:58

I've done it. I assumed for had her key, she didn't because she assumed I'd be at home. She stayed out in the garden she could have gone to a neighbour's but she was happy enough hanging about. She was only 12 the first time as well.

NorwaySpruce · 30/07/2014 18:59

I'm sure a 13 year old would be able to cope for three hours.

Or are you about to drop the drip-feed of the century?

EveDallasRetd · 30/07/2014 19:01

I don't see a problem, except maybe if the kid needed a wee - although I would assume they'd go to a friends house if they did.

macdoodle · 30/07/2014 19:06

Mine sometimes goes out and forgets her key, she has plenty of places to go, and if I am at work, she can walk to me there. God at some stage they need to take/be given some responsibility.

Bowlersarm · 30/07/2014 19:07

YANBU. I wouldn't.

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 30/07/2014 19:10

My mum used to go on holiday Hmm

greeneggsandjam · 30/07/2014 19:11

More info needed really. Seems fine on the face of it though.

Ragwort · 30/07/2014 19:14

What exactly is wrong? Presumably the 13 year old knew the mother was out Confused. I often do this - are you talking about me ? Grin.

Original poster
makkahakka · 30/07/2014 19:14

Not trying to drip feed but The kid was moping around and kept coming back to the house, then hanging around outside for ages. Mum was somewhere that she would have not been able to have phone. None of my business really but felt sorry for the kid and wondered if iwbu to think it was wrong

OP posts:
CoffeeTea103 · 30/07/2014 19:16

Yes that's a massive drip feed. Totally changes the post doesn't it Hmm

DiaDuit · 30/07/2014 19:19

would it have been an idea to include all useful information in the OP?

Original poster
makkahakka · 30/07/2014 19:22

Ok, so was a drip feed, sorry. So aibu?

OP posts:
NorwaySpruce · 30/07/2014 19:24

I'm not sure that you're quite on board with the concept of drip-feeding OP.

You should have said something like 'I forgot to mention, the 13 year old is allergic to fresh air, and melted into a puddle of goo on the spot'.

Yes YABU. A 13 year old had to wait for their parents to get home. Big wow.

There is probably a reason why they don't have a key.

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