aibu to think you don't do this

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A mum went out for 3 hours with her younger kids, leaving her 13 yr old playing out without a key to get in. AIBU to think This is wrong?

Had probably had a massive 13y sulk about going with them and mum had decided their reward wasn't to sit on the Xbox for three hours.

I can see several circumstances where ds1 (also) might appear that way to neighbours:

• he was supposed to or offered the chance to come with me but said he preferred to "hang"

• I'd remindedhim to take his key but he'd still forgotten

• he was supposed to be somewhere else all afternoon but had changed his mind

Did you know the child/mother ? (and if you didn't how come you know all this information ) - couldn't you have invited him in for a drink or something?

So, yes yabu.. Also a 13yo looking sullen isn't necessarily miserable and if he can't occupyp himself outdoors for a bit on a day like today, it's time he learnt and mum was doing the right thing keeping him away from box etc. So, most likely scenario us that he was there by choice and/or for his own good

When i was young I was sent out all day in the school holidays, didn't have a key and if my mum went out shopping, tough, I couldn't get in. I wasn't expected to come back until about 5 anyway.

No phones in those days.

Was she not taking the chance to smoke a packet of Benson and Hedges then eat a packet of Polos and drench herself in CK One? Kids aren't what they used to be...

Well if it was my kid then sorry but he's lost 3 house keys so far and I'm teaching him a lesson
Hopefully by the time he goes back to school and really does need a house key then he'll he ready to he a little more careful with his keys and wallet/homework/tie etc
If anybody finds him moping like and unwanted Christmas present please don't feed him, he eats like a horse x

If he'd had a house key he'd have got in.

Our mantra: nevet leave without your key.

True fact.

We never had holiday child care once I was about ten or eleven with oldest sibling about 15. I went off for hours and hours with my friends. There must have been many times I was out for more than three hours by 13, whilst my shocking mother was out at shocking work keeping a shockig roof over our heads.

Our DC have done the same through the years, all on occasions that they have assured us they have their key. Reasons for them not joining us include: spending all their money on crap and not being able to join their friends in town as they had promised us they were doing, not having checked if their friends were at home, forgetting swimming/footie/hockey kit, not checking that an activity was running that day, not answering calls or replying to texts when we tried to make arrangements, etc. And on all of these occasions they had the option to be with parents and siblings, but were just way too cool.
A 13 year old is fine for a couple of hours.

No, YANBU, still not, even after the drip feed OP.

Gosh, that was mangled. It should read 'reasons for them being out alone'. That'll teach me to multitask.

Which reminds me, DD1's house key is AWOL, possibly borrowed by 13y DD2 and I need to get her one cut.

My 8 year old DS begged me not to make him go out with me and his younger siblings this afternoon.

He'd have been made up if I'd let him hang out at home/the park with his mates all afternoon.

I'm sure a 13 year old would be able to cope.

I think it really depends on the 13yr old in question.

Some I think would probably be ok.

Some....well dear god no!