Will keep this brief but am sitting here a bit perplexed.
I come from a large family, more sisters than brothers.
Two out of five of the girls work full time hours, one is a sahm (to very young children) and the other two have jobs (teaching & training) which allow them the summer off.
It's a relatives birthday in the next few weeks, not a milestone, but half a milestone if you see what I mean. I don't think it's one that needs a big celebration seeing as 5 years ago we had a massive party, massive present etc..
However, one sister suggested at the weekend we 'do something' to mark the occasion.
I replied (via text message) that I was planning on sending a card. She said she thought we should arrange a meal.
I asked what she was thinking of, where, how many people etc.. And she said "oh, I don't know, I've no intention of organising anything, I was hoping you would do it!"
No. I'm not fucking doing it. If she hadn't the intention of following the plans through, why suggest anything?
She has the summer off, I don't!
I don't want to put too much info (already have enough here) but in the past I have been left to organise stuff, order cakes (which are costly & no-one would offer to share cost) make banners, decorate rooms, then sit & sweat incase something goes wrong & it falls back on me.
AIBU to ask nothing more about it & let her organise away at it if she wants?
Of course I could offer to help her, but experience has taught me that helping in situations like this means doing it all myself!