AIBU to not want to see these photos of sick person on FB?

[DontWantToSee]

Someone I know is in hospital and has recently has surgery. He had a visitor who took some photos when they had not long come around from anaesthetic (still on oxygen, tubes everywhere, looked asleep in one and just awake in the other) and they are now on FB. This person isn't on FB so wouldn't see them but the person who has posted said sick person said it was ok. Given how the sick person was very out of it and I would hazard an accurate guess they weren't sure what they were saying yes to (I saw him much later and he was still a bit confused), I think it is inappropriate. I certainly wouldn't want photos like this of me on the net. The person who posted is not always 100% honest either.

My 3 DCs saw them and were a little upset and asked if he was ok (luckily he is but its not the point).

AIBU to think this is not on?

Diaduit you are being deliberately goady and your initial post immediately made me think of MNHQ recent thread about AIBU.

Thank you to those who have given constructive answers. They are appreciated and I'm glad I'm not the only person who thinks this isn't acceptable.

They aren't even a 'thumbs up, I'm OK, type'. He looks completely asleep in the first and second and eyes just open in the third and forth. Not a case of "oh look, he looks well glad he's on the mend" because the photos don't portray that.

You have completely misinterpreted my posts. I had no intention at all to goad. I disagree with you. Tone isnt easy to interpret in text so perhaps you have sensed a tone that isnt there but my posts are nothing other than me disagreeing with you and explaining why. I can see that having a parent in hospital is stressful and i apologise if my posts have upset you however that wasnt my intention at any point. I hope your dad makes a full recovery.

I'm guessing that you know then, that your dad has not actually given permission to have these pictures posted on FB? I ask because I initially wondered if the person in question had later shown your Dad the pictures when he was fully alert and he'd okayed it.

I'd speak to the person who posted and ask them to remove them - they are indeed wrong to post pictures of someone - probably not by law from the little I know about photography and law, but morally and ethically that is just wrong.

don't sorry to hear about your dad and his so called friend. hope you can get it sorted.

OP, I'm so sorry this must be really upsetting for you. Definitely, definitely YANBU (although I thought that anyway).

Hospitals are meant to have rules on mobile phones to prevent this, people being snap happy on mobiles can hugely compromise patient confidentiality.

It would be worth bringing up with which ever hospital he was staying at, as visitors taking snaps of comatose patients is something I imagine they would be keen to discourage. If you can save the images and present them as proof, I think they may be quite shocked. They have a duty of care to patients and I think this breaches the patient dignity aspect of that.

If you want to speak to the hospital about this, ask for the Patient Advisory Liaison Service (PALS), they would be keen to help.

Well I have spoken to my dad and he says he doesn't remember saying it was ok for the photos to go on FB as he was 'out of it' (although awake, just). He said the person who posted them is attention seeking (definitely true) but he just said "oh well its done now" but he does have a reputation for not wanting to cause a fuss and is quite passive in many ways.

It pisses me off that the person who posted knows this and, IMHO, took advantage. A couple of people have said the photos didn't bother them but I was talking to my brother who said that dad looked really ill in them and I don't think he was that keen.

They are still hidden, I still don't like them and I don't think my dad would say yes to it now he is on the mend but he doesn't want to cause a fuss now. His next of kin wants to leave it too because its what my dad has said but I would like to contact the hospital anonymously and maybe get them to have reminders up about photos in hospital but not sure if its worth it now.

Definitely contact the hospital, they should be aware of this and want to prevent this.

@DontWantToSee report the photos to facebook.