Priest telling boys how to pee at school?

[Downamongtherednecks]

Tween ds is at a private school, not UK. Most staff are female. There were incidents of the boys’ loos being left with pee around the lavatory bowl, so a male member of staff (priest) took the boys into the loos (in groups) to tell them that this was unacceptable and to suggest that they aim better and that they should perhaps practice more (!).
This was not discussed at all with parents.
AIBU to think this was not an acceptable thing for the school to do? It seems far too private and something surely better handled by parents. Priest has form for sexism so it is possible that may be one reason I instinctively don’t like it. DH (robustly boys’ private-school educated) says this was fine, it's a boy/male teacher thing, and he can’t see a problem with it. Happy to be told I am being biased against the sexist priest. No intention of taking it up with school btw, as dc are leaving anyway. AIBU?

[MrsWinnibago]

He did the right thing, I can't see why it's a problem! therednecks nowhere does the OP say it was in a cubicle. She says "the toilet" meaning the room in which the toilets are housed.

[MrsWinnibago]

Down what's yapping got to do with sexism? I'm a feminist and I fail to see that as sexist.

[CaractacusPotts]

#firstworld(none)problem

YABVVVVVU

[Downamongtherednecks]

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[bloodyteenagers]

I don't see the problem. Maybe it will give
Parents a kick up their arse and
You know, parent their child. It's disgusting that a pre-teen child can not hit the bowl and
Pisses over the floor.. Piss that it then trampled around everywhere.... You fine with this op? You child ingesting piss?

And no I wouldn't have a problem either with girls being taught how to dispose of sanitary protection. Thee are some dirty girls out there who don't put it in the bin, will stick pads to walls, who will flush...

Maybe if more schools did this, then there will be less minging adults, because parents will be shamed into proper educating their children.

[Downamongtherednecks]

Mrswinnibago "Quit your yappin', woman," is a Southern expression, so most of the women here took great offence at him saying 'yap'.

[phantomnamechanger]

I think that's something like they have at DS school - there were other pictures too, not just targets, cant remember what they were though

[Sirzy]

Turdfairy that made me laugh. Thats the type of thing 4 year old DS would do.

[turdfairynomore]

It's usually how far up the splash back they can pee that is the challenge! (At times high enough so that it sprays back down on them and my room whiffs like an incontinent cat!) Was quite impressed by the boat idea actually!

[AnyFucker]

Not seeing a problem here

[Dontlaugh]

Being Irish is not a "trump card" but nor can it be dismissed as an issue.
Brendan Bolands recent testimony re Sean Brady is testimony to the trust parents have, or had, in Catholic clergy.
I certainly would not be happy if that episode had happened in our school.
But then again, it never would have happened in the first place.
Welcome to Ireland in the 21st century.

[WorraLiberty]

I was raised by Irish Catholic parents

I think this thread is totally bonkers

It was bonkers enough until 'yap yap yap' made the man a sexist

Now it's pure gold...

[fourforksache]

this is a non issue.

[Downamongtherednecks]

worra it's possible that the cultural thing is lost on "yap yap yap" but you don't live in the South, so all I can say is that many mothers at the school were offended, and do consider the priest generally sexist. he also hired a domestic abuser as a sports coach but I'll let that one go

[victrixludorem]

YANBU I agree with Nigella. Taking children into a toilet to give them a lecture is weird and inappropriate. I have taught in 2 boys' boarding schools and at both the school priest turned out to be abusing the boys. At both, the priest was sent off with good references to avoid a scandal (going back 15-10 years here when these things were more covered up than I hope is the case now but Non-UK may be behind the times). Being a priest in a boys' boarding school is a choice that attracts more than its fair share of paedophiles. They should simply not be having meetings with little boys in confined spaces to discuss penises. Just too dodgy. None of the boys would say if there had been a practical - I put money on it. And one or two just might get invited back on their own for further coaching. Just no. Not on.

[PenelopePitstops]

This has to be a wind up.

Primary schools often have a ping pong ball in the toilets for this purpose.

As for showing them in the cubicle, why not? They are more likely to remember it!

Teach your child how to pee!!

[PenelopePitstops]

And the analogy re sanitary products.

I can remember having a group chat in PE from the teacher about how to use sanitary bins etc. Shock horror she actually showed us using the actual bin (she faked the blooded tampon)

[Aeroflotgirl]

As long as he wasn't giving a practicle, or touching their penis than it's fine. They do have to learn how to wee properly, they are in loco parentis.

[Aeroflotgirl]

Teacher wasn't doing anything wrong, I don't see an issue.

[victrixludorem]

The issue is that it gives far too much scope for abuse, for no particular reason - why not talk to them all in a big group in a classroom? Let Matron show them the piss on the floor at the urinals at another time
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[Sirzy]

Why is it ok for a Matron (presumably a female one) to show them the piss on the floor but not ok for the male member of staff?

[Berryglitter]

You are a precious little flower aren't you op! The man did nothing wrong, he merely tried to teach the children to stop being filthy creatures and piss in the right place. Something parents should have done at potty training!

As for the sexist comment... Really? You think that's sexist? It's not dear.

[Downamongtherednecks]

Worra I mean Southern USA not UK. It's 95 percent humidity here and my brain isn't firing!

[Downamongtherednecks]

Berry As I have said, it is round here. He was shouted down for saying it.