Why can't people just send back RSVP's

[Alisvolatpropiis]

I'm getting married next month. All I want is for people to send back their RSVP's. I have gone past the point of caring whether they're accepting or declining, I just need to know!

Is this a new thing, the not sending them back? What to people think they are for?

AIBU to think these people are just being incredibly rude?

Are you having a wishing well OP?

Good lord no!

Not having 100 live butterflies for guests to release either after the ceremony either

Well, I think weddings get far too much of bashing on MN quite often, I hope you have not taken too much of it to heart (I'd probably still not be married if MN had been around when I got hitched).

YABVU not wanting texts
YANBU wanting replies.

Why the fixation on the comment I made about texts? I love the ability of MN posters to selectively read. That isn't what the thread was about, if it were I would have perhaps mentioned it in my op.

Anyway, why am I unreasonable to not want texts whilst those invited (it was one person) can do what they like? Eh?

Thanks Who, I've not taken any of it to heart though!

I'm on the other side of this. I've been chased twice recently for RSVPs (to kids parties not weddings) that I've already replied to. That's damned annoying too. Especially as you know that you're being blacklisted by the organiser when it's their mistake...

Ghoul that does sound annoying.

I am keeping track of people who RSVP even by text

One of the people who didn't RSVP to our wedding invitation was my future MIL. Actually it was a relief she didn't show up.
Far more annoying were the people who said they were coming and didn't show up.
Am sure it will work out in the end though!

As I said previously you will have to chase - we had a menu choice needed for our guests so needed this info - was for starter, main and dessert.

Although we sent RSVP cards pre addresssed etc it did not bother me how they responded at all I just made sure I collated all the info. Didn't even cross my mind to care how they responded.

For the couple who didn't ever tell me the meal choices despite frequent requests including face to face (had to check with wife) I ordered one of each choice for the meal and they had to deal with it!!

YANBU, they're being really rude.
Send a global email / text just stating that you haven't received a number of rsvp's and if you don't have them within a week you'll have to assume people aren't coming. Make up a reason like 'we have to finalise numbers for catering' or something like that.
The replies will flood in... and those that don't might find they haven't been catered for.

We have a website for people to RSVP to our wedding. People have been asked to give us a response either way by 2 aug. The number of invitees who have logged on and viewed the website (Its password protected so you need to log in with your name and password) but not RSVP'd is starting to get on my nerves!