Children at a music festival

[bellarations]

Would you leave a music festival with your dc if it was raining?
This has upset me very very much but I will try to be factual because I honestly want people's opinions, am I irresponsible because I didn't want to leave?
Dc aged from 14 years to 16 months dh and I both took them.
All dc happy enough and didn't want to leave when asked.
We all looked around the stalls and enjoyed the funfair.
Then an iphone was lost and it started raining.
We sat in the car for abit because was raining hard.
When it slowed to a drizzle we went back to the festival.
Dh was an obvious misery for about 2 hours, I suggest the tent about 20 yards away. That is not acceptable.
He then demands we leave just as the band we (mostly I) had waited to see, is about to start. His reasons were it's raining and dc were cold. They had not said they were cold and when he asked them if they wanted to sit in the car they said no. He demanded they go with him telling me to come with him or get a taxi. After some heated phone calls (dd's phone) he tells me to come and get in the car or he will drag me out.
I'm very angry he is very angry we are at stalemates.
Our 16 mo was happy in my arms with a blanket and two layers of clothes AND a borrowed umbrella. Younger dc had blankets, he is telling me I'm irresponsible. I disagree. What do you think?

[bellarations]

Quip. Sadly it's the latter.

[DownByTheRiverside]

Being round a few drunks or seeing their father haul their mother physically into the car whilst snarling at her? I think the latter is far more damaging.

[StarSwirl92]

I'm sorry but LTB. This behaviour will continue and get worse. Run.

[PomBearWithAnOFRS]

He's a fuckwit!
We spent a weekend in a leaky tent in the pissing down rain, waist deep in mud and I only had one shoe and still managed to enjoy ourselves (at Galtres, 2 years ago).
Your H sounds like a spoiled child who tantrums when he doesn't get his own way, and to threaten to drag you anywhere is well out of order :(

[NewtRipley]

He could have got a taxi home, or sat in the car, or discussed it like an adult to reach a compromise, or just sucked it up. He's an adult.

[PhantomTollbooth]

I was at Latitude this weekend, four hour torrential rain for five hours on one night and rain so heavy during Albarn's encore that we were actually blinded by it :)

I saw both sides- children loving their time there in the rain and a couple of children (both boys aged about 9 ) crying because the thunder and rain scared them. One set of parents ignored their child clearly begging to be taken away (presumably because they wanted to see the end of the show) and the other parents packed up and took their kid away. I also saw very tiny babies in the crowds, in the rain and without ear defenders- clearly not happy. I won't say here what I think of such selfishness other than sometimes as a parent of tiny kids you have to accept that perhaps you will have to either get a sitter or modify your previous leisure activities until they are older....

What matters here is two things as far as I can see-

Your husbands ugly way of dealing with conflict, forcing the kids to take sides, threatening physically abusive acts (I'd like to see him try to dray you away because if he'd tried that at Latitude, the other attendees would have spoken up I am sure) and behaving like a sulky brat;

Your children's welfare. If they were happy to stay and enjoying themselves then you kind of have the upper hand when it comes to putting them first.

I guess you will either have to put up or force an ultimatum. Men like him don't change unless they have no choice but to.

[PhantomTollbooth]

That should have been a four hour rain :)

[feebeecat]

Well, you may not have been thinking about him when you wanted to stay, but who was he thinking about when he insisted on going, despite most being happy to stay? Did he make any effort to make the most of it?
My dh has form with this, I tend to leave him at home if he can't play nicely - was originally at this, but the message soon got through. He may sometimes still need a shove in the right (happy) direction, but essentially, if he wants to come out with us all that's great, if he's going to be a grumpy git, don't bother.
Am taking dc to first festival next month and was a bit concerned about weather, but if a 16 month old can enjoy/tolerate it, then so can my 9 yr olds - I hope. Sorry you had a crap end to your day - did you leave early? - but you have also inspired me to battle on