to not serve coffee at a wedding?

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I think I must have asked the most aibu about a wedding in the history of mumsnet. It's the same solo waltzing uncle wedding.

Wibu to not serve coffee? We are putting the buffet together ourselves and the practical challenges of making enough coffee for 100 people is overwhelming me a little.

In my dp's culture coffee is very very important, I have been to alcohol free weddings but never coffee free weddings.

In British culture would it be incredibly odd/rude not to have coffee at a wedding? If it wouldn't be rude we will have no coffee and I'll just say it's British culture.

I wouldn't normally expect coffee with a buffet.

What's the venue like? Can you put a jar of instant in the kitchen next to the kettle?

Hire a coffee machine? Or two!

Why would you not do it if it is so important in your dp's culture? That's just not right somehow, as though you are making his culture second best.

Make up a friend and pretend she got ill and was supposed to be taking care of the coffee.

I wouldn't think it odd, esp at a buffet

Do you know anyone with a nespresso machine? Could you borrow that and just get a load of pods from Costco? I'm assuming you're doing this on a budget

Funky, I love this. I'm going to invent a friend to do all sorts of things that don't need doing in future. Kind of like Bunbury in The Importance of Being Earnesr.

I've never been to a wedding where coffee wasn't served. I'd think it unusual not to have tea and coffee.

Also if coffee is so important in your dp's culture then I'd definitely try to include it. Your dp's culture is as important as yours,particuarly so if you're expecting overseas guests.

We could easily make instant coffee but that would be almost as bad as no coffee, possibly worse, no one drinks instant coffee, the only option in our budget is to borrow big thermos flasks and fill them with coffee but it would take ages and it can't be done in the morning as the coffee would go bitter.

I do respect my dp's culture, I learnt his language and we live in his country, our lifestyle is alot more bassed on his culture than British culture.

I just don't want to spend half my wedding day brewing bloody coffee!

Are coffee bags within your budget? Or would they reject those. They're usually made with 'real coffee' I believe.

could you borrow/rent some coffee perculators buy nice coffee have them all set up and ready to go? All it needs is to be turned on, Would a friend help with keeping them going 4 perculators is 36 cups

Can you ask a friend / relative to take care of that for you?

Can you get some of the thermos flasks and hand them over to a friend who is attending to sort out coffee on the day for you? I think if you are doing it yourselves, most people would be delighted to help.

Well those that I've had were.

I've been to a few social events in Sweden, hosted by Swedes, where there's been no coffee. I don't think it matters anymore than not serving tea with a buffet in England would.

I bet your friends and family have a few coffee machines between them. Buy lots of those pod things - off amazon, miles cheaper - and get one of your boring T total rellies to manage it all

Dedicate a friend or helpful acquaintance to the job.

We self catered our wedding and didn't have proper coffee all day. We had a hot water boiler and a few different types of tea but coffee was instant, people just made their own.

"In my dp's culture coffee is very very important"

This is why you should have coffee at your wedding. Borrow/hire a machine of some sort as many suggestions above.

Could you afford to hire in a mobile coffee cart like this? and put some money behind the bar?

Could you ask someone from that side of the family to organise it 'as it is so special to their culture' and you will be so busy, that you wouldn't want to get it wrong?
They feel important, you don't have to make coffee all day - win/win!

Large cafetieres? They can make up to 12 cups at a time. Decent coffee I believe. Sainsburys have them for £15.
Allocate a friend or two to do it for you. It would only be half an hour out of their evening.

Coffee van would be great!

I think you DEFINITELY need coffee if it's important to your DP. Cheese was important to mine so we had that

I wouldn't expect coffee at a buffet. But I would expect coffee & tea after a sit down meal.

I'd expect coffee to be served at a 3 course sit down wedding meal, but not if it was a buffet and haven't seen hot drinks served and any wedding buffets I've personally been to. Of course some people would say having a sit down 3 course meal at a wedding is expected in British culture and that it shouldn't be a buffet, but that's another story (my opinion- as long as there is food I don't care how it's served!)

It's hard to make suggestions without knowing details (and you may have already investigated everything) but as mentioned, could you hire/ buy cheaply a coffee machine or 2/ hot water boiler thingy for cafetieres (though you'd need a fair few cafetieres I guess!)? I wouldn't want to spend my wedding making brews either so are there any people you'd feel happy asking to help with coffee serving? It's not just making the coffee, it's having all the cups, spoons, milk etc, clearing all this away too so can see why you aren't overly keen

If you really can't be arsed get this and a kettle www.staples.co.uk/coffee-500g/cbs/390261.html?promoCode=300300666&Effort_Code=WW&Find_Number=390261&cm_sp=