To think you shouldn't ask someone how they 'plan to get their figure back' 4 DAYS! after giving birth.

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Just that really. Thanks MIL. Obviously my number one priority. Anyone else had any gems?

I remember mentioning I was thinking of doing slimmers after having DS1. MIL looked me up and down, sniffed, and said "I don't blame you". I should add that I was 8m pregnant and that she herself weighs around about 400lbs

Nine months to make a baby, nine months to get back - that's my motto. If only I could actually take my advice, DS2 is 5mo and I'm being lazy about it :o

Never from a bloke, only ever other women. Of course it's stupid and thoughtless, but there you go.
She should have been completely ecstatic with her new grandchild and very appreciative of you, but hasn't she always been like that?

"I thought I'd follow your relaxed example and wait about 38 years (or however old your DH is)" is the reply I wish you'd come out with.

Ds1 asked me if there was another baby in my tummy. Thanks for that, son.

My friend told me she was glad I was still fat a few months after having DD2 so I could know what it was like also called me fatso and tubby when I was pregnant.

Good job I like her

How did you handle your gem of a MIL OP? Were you like Bishop Brennan after Father Ted had kicked him up the arse and it took a while to process?

Ouch Noodle

DH called me Fatty McFattington each time I was pregnant. It was done affectionately and in good fun but the face on people when he made a cuppa and would would ask "does Fatty want a biscuit...?"

Bakingtins - my dd is still asking me that nearly three years after having her brother

Not exactly 'fat' but I've a stomach that I have no incentive to get off my arse can't seem to lose

I was slightly taken aback but just said I hadn't really thought about it.

FIL did helpfully mention I could go to the gym!

I'll never understand why it's usually women who do this - it's like there is no solidarity anymore . What a bitch, I love Noodle's response though! please say that!

My MIL's sister asked me, at a funeral, how much baby weight I still had left to lose. DS was 5 months at the time and I had planned on being back in my normal clothes by then, but my willpower had other ideas. I just laughed as if she had told a joke, she was bemused.

In fact, my willpower has completely left the building. But I'm happy for the moment, I don't love my body but I don't feel trapped either. I know I can go back to my diet class and lose the weight but right now it's actually not bothering me. I'm quite fit, I jog and do Zumba which keeps me healthy.

Getting your body 'back' should be the last thing on your mind. Once normal service resumes you can start to think about whether you're happy and healthy. Until then, eat what you need, when you need it and enjoy your baby.

I cannot understand why society insists that women must be under pressure to do this. You have a baby to care for - more than enough to think about.

Really, the extent to which society concerns itself with the sexual attractiveness of women to the exclusion of every other consideration is shocking and disgusting.

My mil asked me this less than 24 HOURS after I gave birth to dd1

I was a size 8 and I'd only gained about 17 pounds during the whole pregnancy!!

Really, how do you resist the temptation to say that her son is fine, sex life good, no need for her to concern herself?

How about 'Oh, no, I was planning on getting pregnant again as quickly as possible so I don't have to bother'?
Fwiw, it took me about five years to lose all of my extra pounds the first time round.... (There were quite a few!)

No, it's tremendously important to get your figure back as soon as possible, in case you suddenly become famous and the paparazzi sell zoom shots of your cellulite to the National Inquirer.

See my thread from December 2013...

DH told me pushing the pram would be 'good for my bingo wings'. FIVE days after birth of DS. It was our first family outing.

I was so excited to show off my 4th DC to my parents I was actually waiting for them at the entrance to the postnatal ward at visiting time. The nurses buzzed them in through the door and as DM walked up to me she said "are you sure you've had that baby?". She was 12 freaking hours old.

I'm 35 weeks and just WAITING for this to happen.

When we announced my pregnancy at a family dinner (at 13 weeks) FIL eschewed the traditional "congratulations" instead opting for "so Egog, how much weight have you put on already then" - much to everyone else's horror!

My dad came over when DS2 was 3 days old, his exact words were "ooh, you're still quite big, have you got another one in there?"
But seeing as he did up my garden while I was in hospital I forgave him

So many arseholes. Ty to pity their bitter selves.

My mil asked if I was having another I one at 4 months pp. she still prods the little belly fat I have.

She's huge btw.

My DH tried to make me feel better by telling me how much he liked my thick curves. But he meant well and hasn't pressured me into losing weight (I just naturally did anyway because my genetic makeup is awesome).

Yes the irony is that FIL has type 2 diabetes due to being overweight and MIL is a size 18 so hardly a waif. Hey-ho.

I felt hugely pressured to lose weight, not only that but to do it extraordinarily fast. Everyone commented on how I'd "just snap back" or how I'd be back in my old clothes within a week. Someone said that I'd probably leave the hospital in my skinny jeans . It's ridiculous, my uterus was still the size of beach balloon so of course all I wore was maternity joggers for weeks.

It made me feel dreadful but then I suppose that this goes to show that I care too much about what others think when in fact it's none of their business.

Here's the quandary - if you do lose the weight you get hissed at that you're a lucky bitch...if you don't you're a fat cow. It's appalling - i was happy that DS and I both survived the birth and that my body managed something truly amazing. My body will always look different and so it should!! It's part of my history.

No weight/figure comments from MIL (I'm the "slim" DIL), but she did come out with a corker.

They came to see us a few days after DD was born, and when they got here MIL said "so is It still XXX (DD's name)?". I just looked at her with a question mark on my face.

She responded with a " well, you know, I wasn't sure if that was the name for good". Because of course we would announce her name to the entire universe if we weren't 100% sure we were sticking with it. Also, are temporary names a thing I'm not aware of?

I presume she isn't that fond of the name, and that was her oh so subtle way of telling me!

We will be seeing her in three weeks, for the first time since just after 8 week old DD was born (at what will be a hellish family wedding which may warrant its own thread) so it will be interesting to see what she comes out with!