To think you shouldn't ask someone how they 'plan to get their figure back' 4 DAYS! after giving birth.

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Just that really. Thanks MIL. Obviously my number one priority. Anyone else had any gems?

I'm only just 26 weeks and one of the exercise/looks obsessed girls I work with is already asking me how I'm going to lose the weight I've gained. Ummmmmm I don't care, I am quite taken by my new figure and would like to keep it....expects odd looks

Really sad reading this thread. Mine went in to a full on attack of everything after having ds. That my hair was crap (when it started falling out), that I had weight to lose, I wasn't dressing nicely. And then showed me pictures of herself after having her 2nd ds and she looked amazing. Ah well, cant all be perfect :(

I'm only 10 weeks and a friend was telling me about a race that I should do when my baby will be 2-3 months old. I laughed at her and said I mostly likely wouldn't be ready/interested by then. If she'd left it at that it would have been fine but she massively pissed me off firstly by saying "it's only 5K and some rowing" (random duathalon), and secondly by telling me all about the exercise a couple of mutual friends who have had babies recently are doing.
As a PP said, why do we compare and put pressure on ourselves, or in this case on each other? It takes as long as it takes and our bodies may never be quite the same but that's ok.
Maybe running is something I take up again pretty quickly and 5K will be fine or maybe I'll be more interested in snuggles on the sofa. Either way sure as hell isn't anything to do with anyone else and YADNBU!

my mil apparently left hospital in her normal jeans . But then she wouldn't get one arm in them now

Bloody hell, this is really awful.
I took my maternity trousers (ones I'd worn at about 6m but did not fit me at the end) for coming home in. I assumed they'd be too big and I'd have to hold them up. I did have to hold them up but for the opposite reason - I could barely squeeze them on and couldn't do up the fly.
But it didn't matter! My body had just grown and delivered a baby, it was hard work!

Don't like your sis then brokenhearted?

I think it is funny all the women who get really annoyed if you do lose the weight quickly. I was back in my size 10 jeans 4 days after giving birth and the women who were so bitter and jealous just made me laugh. They would only have been happy if I was fat and miserable

I remember getting dressed and doing my hair and taking myself off to the shops, 4 days after DS's birth. I was buying some formula in Boots when a girl I know appeared and asked me if I had a new baby. I replied yes and she preceded to tell me that she knew I had because my tummy was flabby and it had always been flat. I then told her how old he actually was, but still she continued talking about my amazing,flat tummy that I once had, I remember feeling like shit for the rest of the day.

A friend's husband came to visit with his wife about a week after I got home with my twin girls. He insisted on showing me some sit ups that I could do to help get my stomach back to normal! Eh no thanks pal I said give me a break! I had just had a bleeding c section for goodness sake! His wife did look a bit embarrassed to be fair!

Well the wife should have told him not to be so bloody ridiculous. ,ay be you could have shown him how to care for twins and entertain visitors a week after abdominal surgery? Any one can do a bloody sit up.

This thread reminds me. When I was 18 I had meningitis. Was in hospital for ten days, blood transfusion, nearly died. When I was recovering I saw a friend. One of her first comments was "wow you've lost so much weight, make sure you don't put it back on"
Thanks

Even better.... We had just announced I was pregnant with our first, and MIL says "Don't you start getting fat now!" Err I don't think you can avoid gaining weight during pregnancy?!

greatjoan omg that's horrendous! A simple 'congrats' would have sufficed

I actually think it's really fucking rude to comment at all.

This is another thing that really annoys me - no one ever comments on a man's weight, or tells them they need to slim down etc. But just after I've grown another human in my body and I should be thinking about how I look?!?

Had this happened to me, I think the considered response would have been 'fuck off'

This thread is depressing. Why must we be defined by our weight, even when we've just become mothers or survived life-threatening illness?

I haven't had this said to me (though I do have friends whose idea of 'hello' is to point out that I have lost or gained 3lb), but I'd be tempted to simply ask them if they are not ashamed of themselves.

It's rude to comment at all!

I didn't put on baby weight because I was sick throughout the pregnancy, and I had a baby that didn't sleep and breastfed continuously. Lots of people commented how lucky I was. Hmmmm, I value my health and sanity more than my figure, thanks!

Anyway, I have since then eaten lots of cake and stodge so have put on maternity leave weight. Which is just fine by me!

It is really sad. I agree with those saying it's rude to comment at all.

God this thread has made me angry!

And why is it mostly women who have made comments?

I honestly think men don't give a shiney shit about how quick their dps / dws lose the weight. I think the pressure comes from other females

The answer is kickboxing, starting with the person who asked the question.

My ex MIL when in hospital meeting her grandson (my son) for the first time took one look at him and said, " well theres no denying who his father is now". Erm there was no question about who his father was anyway considering I had been married to her son for 2 years. Cow.

The correct answer to most of these dilemmas is indeed 'fuck off'.

Has it been mentioned already when Kay Burley asked some commentator why the Duchess of Cambridge still looked pregnant at her photo call 24 hours after birth?

[bangs head]

I have a fabulous friend who kicked my then MIL straight into touch on my behalf. XMILs first words on seeing her first grandchild were "lovely, now what are we going to do about the state of voodoo". My quizzical expression elicited the response "well look at you, you allowed yourself to get enormous. I'be no idea what you were thinking". My lovely friend took one look at the situation, stepped in and said "we're doing a weight loss programme together actually. We plan to shift it in time for DSs 18th birthday party". Not the best riposte but so ludicrous it actually shamed / shocked xMIL into shutting the fuck up and focussing on her grandson.

When I was pregnant, one of the women in my AN group barely put on a pound, and she absolutely delighted in telling us all about how during her last pregnancy, she walked out of the hospital in her size fucking 8 jeans. The midwives were all over how amazing she was. One of these midwives was the cow who lovingly said to me..."oh wow those are MASSIVE stretch marks you've got!" Yeah, thanks.