AIBU to not invite her again?

[MilkandCereal]

This happened a few days ago,but I'm still fizzing over it.

A former neighbour/family friend came over for tea and cake the other day. She's one of those people who is very outspoken and always 'just being honest' when personally I think she's bloody rude.

Anyway,while here she decided to inspect my wooden blinds,she often 'inspects' the house,and comment on how dusty they were,and that she'd be embarrassed if hers were like that. I wanted to tell her where to go,but just managed to hold my tongue.

Yes they were dusty,but I do clean them. I find it hard to keep wooden blinds clean anyway,they seem to be dust magnets, and I have a problem with my left arm,which means I can't raise it up for more than a few seconds without a lot of pain, and sometimes can't use it at all,so holding the slats up to clean is difficult.

My right arm also seems to 'tire' fairly easily,perhaps because it often does the work of two, and I have a separate condition which doesn't help either,so perhaps I don't clean them as often as I should.

AIBU to refuse to invite her back again. She's also a friend of my parents so that could be a little awkward,or should I spend more time on cleaning my blinds?

Apologies for the most boring post ever.

"Did you come here just to be rude and critical or do you have anything positive to contribute?"

"There was no need to do any housework at all. After four years the dirt doesn’t get any worse."

My wooden blinds need adust but I cba.

Anyone offended is welcome to do them!

YANBU

"Oh sorry, X, I thought youd come to see me, not the house. Next time dont bother".

'Just managed to hold my tongue' - that's where you went wrong, milk! No tongue-holding required in situations like this - let her have it with both barrels next time, she values honesty after all

Def give her the duster next time or just avoid having a next time ever again.

And don't feel you need to justify why your blinds are dusty. It's up to you what standard of cleaning you have in your own home. If it bothers you get rid of the blinds, otherwise don't invite back rude people who think they're just 'telling it as it it'.

Um...I'm a very fit and healthy person and she would be horrified at the state of my house! I've got better things to do than have a super clean house.

Stop justifying why your house doesn't meet her 'standards'. Your house and you can dust and clean as much or little as you want. She's being bloody rude.

I'd have shoved cake in her judgemental face!

She is rude. I have no time for that kind of "honesty". I met a woman at NCT that was bit like that. For some reason she thought it was a ok to make little digs about my house etc. I distanced myself from her completely, what a waste of your time and energy to maintain such a draining friendship.

don't feel as though you have to justify yourself, even if you had the arms of a bodybuilder, dusty blinds aren't the end of the world and it's none of her business!

Flywheel sisters... Love the image of sisters cleaning the blind... I'd have handed her a sister and said thanks for offering

I want the sisters who clean blinds to work their magic on my mine too !! How rude to scoff your cake and tea while casting a beady eye around for dust. Write clean me on your blinds and pass her the duster next time. Or you could write one of the very rude messages often seen written on vans that need a clean.

Your friend sounds a complete berk. I'm a very slatternly duster and have absolutely no physical limitations. I keep the house clean and tidy in all other respects, but for some reason never notice dust until it's at Mrs Havisham levels. Luckily my husband has a pole up his arse about dust so he takes care of it.

The first time that someone commented on the state of my house would be the last time they were invited.

Don't give a stuff who she's a friend of, she's rude

It's awful isn't it - people like that rely on the good manners of others to get away with being horribly rude.
I am someone who struggles to be rude like that but, for her, I would actually. 'you have really awful manners. I'd rather have a mucky house than be really mouthy and horrible. You arn't fortnight. You are just not very nice'

Anyone came to my house and wanted to 'inspect' anything could get to fuck.

Send her round to look at ny blinds , they're bogging, yours will look sparkling in comparison.
Or tell her to fuck away off.

Anyone came to my house and wanted to 'inspect' anything could get to fuck.

Absolutely.

I know you didn't ask, but a quick way to keep blinds fairly dust free is to close them then run a duster over them. Obviously it doesn't get the overlap but works pretty well and takes seconds.

Ha, no wonder she has to have her invitations to tea procured for her by someone else; she's too rude to have her own friends.

(And could would be justified in telling off your parents for exposing you to her, too!)

Good god woman, why are you even asking us? Of course are not being unreasonable.

She is extraordinarily ill-mannered.

My husbands nan and her partner are both at home all day and have a perfect garden, grass kept short, veg growing in the corner, flowers, no weeds u get the idea.
We have a grassy back garden I cut the grass when I can but find its further down the list of things to do after house jobs.
When visiting us once he asked if dh cuts the grass? I said no he's at work I cut it when I have time.
Some people don't seem to understand that there are reasons why we can't all be perfect like them!

YANBU. She sounds an awful bore!

I have white wooden plantation blinds, and cannot keep the barstewards clean. In fact I've given up.
I just try not to look too closely, or if that fails take my glasses off. I'm hard pressed to see anything then

I would be more than mortified if anyone commented on them, and actually can't think of anyone I know who would care especially while being offered tea and cake bloody cheek

Beautifullymixed you've probably just saved me money.
My wooden blinds are dark and I was considering swapping to white shutters in the (obviously wrong) belief that the painted surface would be easier to clean.

I do dust the blinds when they're closed, using various dusters that promise the world. I then reverse them so they close the other way and dust again and I try and poke the duster into those awkward areas between the strings. I then stupidly imagine that they'll be dust free and look nice, but no.

It's galling to spend the time and still not look as though I've made any difference. Might as well not bother changing though if they're not going to look any different.

enrique, I wasn't commenting on your post; sorry if it seemed so.

I wouldn't have her back, either.

On the subject of dust magnets, however:

Those tumble drier sheets - Bounce, for example - are really good for keeping the dust off the TV. I use them on my towels, then save the used sheet for the TV.

I wonder if it'd work for blinds?