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To not take in any more parcels for my neighbour?

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WoollyHat · 17/07/2014 13:42

I have just taken in yet another parcel for the neighbour who lives opposite. I joked with the delivery driver that I had more parcels for the neighbour than I do for me. He said that was probably because he'd put my address to deliver to if he was out!! I don't mind taking in parcels but I am being unreasonable to think he should ask first before he puts my house number on as an alternative?

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MrsSquirrel · 17/07/2014 13:47

YANBU, of course he should have asked first.

WalkWithTheLonelyOnes · 17/07/2014 13:52

I'd start refusing them. Like by sogning the handheld machine saying you refused to take it. The company I used to would for would then return to Sender 9 times out of 10.

That's a not very neighbourly approach though

spence24 · 17/07/2014 13:53

Absolutely he should have asked - I've had that problem with residents near my business putting signs on their doors saying to deliver to me during business hours. I own a tiny shop, and someone arranged to have a bloody car bonnet delivered by courier to me - it wouldn't fit through the door! I flat out refused and the resident has never had anything delivered since. I still have never met them, as he always sent his teenage kids to pick stuff up.

I feel your pain.

itsahen · 17/07/2014 13:54

Personally I would just grim and beat it as good neighbours with no disputes are valuable. There may come a time when you need a favour - unless it's genuinely causing you a problem

SiennaBlake · 17/07/2014 14:01

I wouldn't do it anymore. If he can't be neighbourly enough to even mention he's put your address down, why should you have to be neighbourly enough to accept every single parcel ever?

fukkigucci · 17/07/2014 14:01

Someone in a previous similar thread made a typo, but I still thought it was a great idea. If I was expecting a parcel during the day, I would love to be able to pay a few quid to my kids school for them to take it in for me.
I can see the reasons why it wouldn't work... but how perfect would it be?!

pimple · 17/07/2014 14:15

Take them in to be neighbourly if they are friendly and amicable. However if they are not refuse! I have always taken parcels in except for one neighbour who never ever spoke with us and I decided why should I take their parcels in when they do not even want to say hello!

They should have asked first if they have put your address down!

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WoollyHat · 17/07/2014 14:17

He does usually collect the parcels as soon as he comes home but he works full time and spends most of his spare time at his girlfriends house so he isn't often at home. I can't decide if I should casually mention the number of parcels I've been getting and see if he says anything or just tell him I'm not a Parcel Force depot!! I don't mind taking in parcels for the neighbours at all but I'm far less inclined to take his now.

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MrsSquirrel · 17/07/2014 14:18

Good neighbours with no disputes are valuable

That may be, but this person does not sound like a good neighbour. He is at best thoughtless or else deliberately taking advantage of Woolly's good nature.

MrsSquirrel · 17/07/2014 14:19

If he works full time, why doesn't he get stuff delivered to his place of work?

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WoollyHat · 17/07/2014 14:24

I think he's taking advantage. He's obviously worked out that I only work 2 days a week so I'm often at home. If he'd asked I'd have probably said yes, but being as he didn't I might just tell him I won't do it any more. He usually mutters a brief thanks when he collects and runs off.

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Strawdolly · 17/07/2014 14:25

YANBU.

I had taken in four parcels for mine then I had a phone call to say "Would you mind taking in a parcel tomorrow, that'll be the last one". That'll be the last one! Cheeky bugger - that was the first time it had been mentioend. Another three parcels then Christmas came and all was quiet, for a while

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WoollyHat · 17/07/2014 14:26

Don't know why he can't deliver them to work. Our village post office does a parcel collect thing too. Guess I'm more convenient because I'm over the road and I don't have opening hours. I might stick a 'Parcel Depot Closed' sign up for when he comes to collect it later!!

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HappyAgainOneDay · 17/07/2014 14:32

A good turn for him might enable him to do a good turn for someone else.

Mrs Squirrel I used to have my DH's presents delivered to my work but some people do not work at a base all the time. What about (for instance) builders who just go to the building site every day?

monsterowl · 17/07/2014 14:33

YANBU, but it might make things awkward to refuse to accept the deliveries. What you could do instead is make yourself an unreliable recipient, e.g. by not answering the door when the courier arrives. If your neighbour constantly gets the message that you can't be relied upon to be at home when the courier arrives, he/she might start making other arrangements.

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WoollyHat · 17/07/2014 14:35

He's definitely office based full time. He told me what he did when he moved in. I think he's just trying it on.

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WoollyHat · 17/07/2014 14:38

I don't want to not answer the door. The parcel might be for me or one of my next door neighbours. Both sides have tiny babies and I'm more than happy to save them a trip to the depot. Cheeky man should have just asked!!

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Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 17/07/2014 14:39

Just refuse it next time. Say you don't appreciate your details being given out to randoms and you won't be accepting parcels from now on. Then when he comes looking for it tell him the same. Cheeky sod.

monsterowl · 17/07/2014 15:08

WoollyHat, ah yes, I can see how that might cause a problem. In that case, next time the courier arrives with a parcel for the pesky neighbour, why not just ask the courier to take the parcel back and record on the form that you weren't in? I very much doubt the company would make a note of the real version of events and pass it on to your neighbour ...

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WoollyHat · 17/07/2014 15:12

To be honest I don't care if he does know I've refused them and I'll tell him later when he collects the one I've just signed for. He started it by putting my details down without asking so he's really not in a position to complain about me. And he annoyed me last night by walking up and down the road at midnight in his noisy flip flops!!!

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evelynj · 17/07/2014 21:55

The noisy flip-floppered bastard!

You could just say to him in a jokey way, 'you're going to have to start paying me for this, I'm running back & forward to my door for your parcels all the time & can't get my chores done!)

See what he says & if he's not shame faced, say you don't appreciate being put as alternative delivery without being asked.

Update us when u see him!

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WoollyHat · 17/07/2014 22:17

Well, he came to pick it up. When I opened the door he said something along the lines of oh sorry, you've got another one. So I said I've probably got it because you asked for it to be sent here. He denied everything!! Said he asked for it to be put over his fence if he wasn't in. So I told him the bloke had shown me what it said on his delivery instructions and it definitely said deliver to my house. I smiled very nicely and said it would have been nice to have been asked. He ran off pretty sharpish!! Doubt he'll do it again.

And he hasn't been out in his noisy flip flops tonight. I'm beginning to wonder what's in all these parcels. He moved in a year ago and his front room blind had never been opened. What is he doing in there??

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evelynj · 17/07/2014 22:27

Start opening them if you get any more & then say 'sorry I thought it was for me'

Should stop it. My postie just leaves stuff on the doorstep, (unlikely to get stolen from here I reckon)

I'd be expecting a bunch of flowers, thought I doubt you'll get anything!

starfishmummy · 17/07/2014 22:27

I am usually the person who was in and ended up with everyone's parcels. Pete who never bothered to collect them!
Naturalyl if I am out and a parcel comes, I end up having to go to the depot!

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WoollyHat · 17/07/2014 22:36

I'm looking forward to the next one I get now. We live in a little close so there aren't many of us to choose from to take in parcels. I can't wait to see his face when he has no knock again!!

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