Mother going on luxury holiday alone

[zeezeek]

Ok, I have a huge confession....whilst waiting for an outpatients appt today I looked through the DM.

I am sorry. If it is any consolation my DH has warned me that such behaviour will not be tolerated again and that it is indeed grounds for divorce and him seeking sole custody of the DDs!!

Anyway, saw this story about the women who spent thousands on a holiday to some exotic island for herself, whilst her DH and DC spent a week or so in a caravan in wet Dorset.

Now, I have worked away from my family for 3 months, I've gone to conferences and meetings in naice places on my own and had a great time....BUT they are all work related. I would never dream of taking a holiday on my own whilst my family slummed it in a caravan....or am I missing something here?

PS have nothing against caravans btw....

I saw it this morning, but each to their own. My DH and I often do not go on holiday together but have never spent 5k on a holiday for myself (or others).

I haven't read it, but really who cares? Why shouldn't she treat herself if she has the money

Lucky cow.

Hope she has a fab time

Why not.

This mother it could be her only treat, or much needed rest.

I read it. Who cares? Live and let live

I thought she went because she had always wanted to go but no-one in her family wanted to, so they said she should go on her own to get it out of her system.

Really? Isn't it all a tad selfish?

I have alway wanted to go to Rome and see ampitheater, Pantheon, Piazza Navona, The Baths of Diocletian and other sites.

DH and the kids I doubt it would be a holiday for them at tbh I would want to go and see the city. Not have DH moaning that is boring and the DC playing up.

If I had the chance to go while the DC are young I would.

Can't imagine ever wanting to go somewhere that I couldn't share with the 3 people I love most in the world....though I suppose it is partly because I've spent so much time abroad without them on business. Nevermind, as someone else said, each to their own.

Yes.....because when you get married and have children you become joined at the hip and cannot possibly contemplate going anywhere holiday related as separate beings.

not read the article, but you don't have to be totally tied to your family. Me and dd went skiing earlier this year, 4 star hotel, gormet meals etc. To be fair, I did win it in a competition, so I didn't have to pay for very much of it, but I left Dh at home with the three boys - he would hate skiing, hates cold, hates snow, not particularly sporty. He would have liked to have come for the food, but someone had to look after the kids!

I've also done a couple of weekends away on my own - I flew to Ednburgh for one, went to a food show and posh hotel for another. I think if everyone's happy then what's the problem? I'm sure sooner or later dh will prob scarper somewhere for a few days and get his chance for a nice break without all the kids!

we would prefer to go away together as a couple, but with four kids, it's not always easy, and better that we go away separately once in a while that not at all!

Why shouldn't she go away on her own? Her being an actual person in her own right and all.

Sounds amazing. I'm jealous.

I went to Paris & New York without my kids or my husband. I went with my sister, I didn't think twice about. One trip was a present from my parents. My husband is more than capable of looking after our children. It was bliss.

....and for the record.... reading the DM is not a capital offence FFS.These stupid disclaimers for reading it that I have seen time and time again really give me the rage. Yes, it's a vile rag but comedic apologies...... Really????

Ffs why do you feel the need to apologize for reading the DM. I read it and give a damn what the next person thinks. It's ridiculous how people explain themselves, seeking approval from a bunch of strangers.

ZeeZeek I could say why have children if you are so career driven that you spent 3 months away from your family.

There is no way I could be away from my family that long.

Then you come here bitching about a mother, who you don't know and slate her for a few weeks on her own.

I would love to have a luxury holiday on my own at the moment - just for the sheer pleasure of not have to speak to anyone (feeling antisocial), being able to read without interruption and watch what I want on tv.

When the DC were very small, I went to a spa for a couple of nights on my own. I developed a stinking migraine, and spent the one night throwing up continually. The thought was nice though......

I really want to go back to NY one day, and would love for DH and DS to come too. DH shows no interest and DS is too young, and if the opportunity should come up DH has already said I should go with DM, who does want to go. I don't see anything wrong with it.

I'm really into horses, DH is really into steam engines. Neither of us share the others interest.

It's ok to be your own person.

Yabu

None of your business and not your place to judge.

Also hate the "apology" for reading DM

If all parties are happy with the situation why not. Maybe the father has a place he really wants to go to and she will look after the kids once they save the money. Maybe it's the kinds of thing the dad hates and they don't think the kids will get enough appreciation for the cost. Maybe the Dad wants to stay I'm a caravan with things to entertainer the kids rather than stay at home. Maybe selling the story paid for a portion of the trip?

If she said right everyone I'm spending thousands of our savings to swan off but don't worry I've booked you a caravan. I don't care what your all think. That would be unreasonable.